EP 81: Real Confidence- Confidence After Setbacks
- EP 81: Real Confidence- Confidence After Setbacks Alyssa Dver 19:14
There are so many trite phrases that get tossed around when life is hard. “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” “This too shall pass.” “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” “Life doesn’t give you more than you can handle”…and so on.
While there’s a kernel of truth in all those well-intentioned phrases, they can ring hollow when we’ve just been kicked in the gut, are suffering disappointment, experiencing outright failure or the sting of rejection.
Recently I came across someone whose take on adversity was so fresh, I just had to have her on the podcast. Phebe Trotman is a world-class soccer player turned entrepreneur and author and the title of her book is some of the wisest words I’ve seen strung together: Never Quit On a Bad Day.
Phebe and I talked about those Bad Days – the ones that make you want to throw in the towel or fantasize about moving to a remote mountain town where no one knows you and you can start over – and the practices she uses to quiet the voices that make us want to quit while still honoring our hurt or loss.
Phebe’s positive energy and practical tips are inspirational and motivational in the best (not cheesy) ways. If you need some encouragement and Wisdom on building confidence and resilience, this episode is more than worth a listen. Cause let’s face it, we’re all in this together, and a little encouragement goes a long way.
Highlights from our conversation include:
- The value of surrounding oneself with a supportive community that speaks life into you, believes in you, and encourages you
- How to view failure and defeat as ways to build your resilience muscles
- Why Phebe likes to visualize her dream day and how it helps her stay focused on her goals and maintain a positive mindset
- What her gratitude practice looks like and how it’s become a tool to shift perspective during difficult times
- Why building an inventory of coping strategies to draw on can help us maintain resilience, and persevere through challenges
Phebe Trotman is a successful and heart-centered entrepreneur based in Vancouver, Canada, who is passionate about helping others discover their joy. In both her athletic and professional careers, Phebe’s personal success has been a testament that anything is possible with hard work, dedication, and a team-centered approach. To learn more about Phebe and get a free sample from her book, visit neverquitonabadday.com.
