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Addiction is not my specialty, but…. I watched an amazing TedX on Addiction which made me really think! Here’s the link.  ​https://fb.watch/uzdZwto6vp/?mibextid=6GsUZ4&fs=e&s=TIeQ9V​  I sen…

Addiction is not my …

Addiction is not my specialty, but…. I watched an amazing TedX on Addiction which made me really think! Here’s the link.  ​https://fb.watch/uzdZwto6vp/?mibextid=6GsUZ4&fs=e&s=TIeQ9V​  I sent it to my dear friend Michael Mints and this was his response: “Wow, Heather, what a thought-provoking piece! To me, it suggests that addiction might not just be about the substances itself, but rather a way for people to cope with their surroundings and experiences. When I think about it, most people turn to certain behaviors and/or substances as a response to Stress, Trauma, or a lack of supp…

l have some exciting news to share! I entered my book Speaking With the Heart into 3 book competitions. And guess what? I just heard back from the second one, The Reader’s Favorite and I won the Bro…

l have some exciting…

l have some exciting news to share! I entered my book Speaking With the Heart into 3 book competitions. And guess what? I just heard back from the second one, The Reader’s Favorite and I won the Bronze Medal! Reader’s Favorite is one of the most recognized book reviewing organizations! I am thrilled!     Have you picked up your copy yet? Here’s the link! https://a.co/d/5s0kpQi  

Comparing yourself Do you do this? Do you know why? Are you trying to lift yourself up?Or are you hurting yourself? ​ Do you know that often we compare ourselves with others in the area where we fee…

Comparing yourself D…

Comparing yourself Do you do this? Do you know why? Are you trying to lift yourself up?Or are you hurting yourself? ​ Do you know that often we compare ourselves with others in the area where we feel most uncomfortable. And how do we do? Pretty horribly. As we compare our worst features with another’s gift. ​ Teens compare themselves to photoshopped models and athletes. Adults compare themselves with Instagram friends or neighbors. It’s all for show. How many followers do you have? How many likes? I was turned down from being in a summit because I didn’t have 4000 on my email list. Y…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE I received the highest compliment from a COO of a multi million dollar self made company. He said, “You have the highest emotional intelligence of anyone I know.” Since I wa…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGEN…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE I received the highest compliment from a COO of a multi million dollar self made company. He said, “You have the highest emotional intelligence of anyone I know.” Since I was working with the key players of his board, I was even more delighted.​ What is Emotional Intelligence or (EI)? It is the critical space where emotions and our cognition meets. The amount of EI that we have determines our ability to perceive, demonstrate, and control our emotions with others to be able to communicate effectively. The higher our EI, the larger our capacity will be for resiliency…

God willing, tomorrow I am flying to Hawaii to see my son before he deploys. We have a physically easy week planned since my arm is still healing. And I can’t wait to see him, to go on a plane, to h…

God willing, tomorro…

God willing, tomorrow I am flying to Hawaii to see my son before he deploys. We have a physically easy week planned since my arm is still healing. And I can’t wait to see him, to go on a plane, to have a trip, to go into the ocean. My summer starts now. Yes a little late but I will make up for it in beauty.​We are hoping to go on a big white shark cage dive Snorkel Hanauma Bay Watch cliff divers Swim with turtles Go on a sunset catamaran Attend a luau Go to Mac’s new church Go on a beach clean-up to help the environment Tour the military base Melt into sunsets and rainbows �…

My dear friend Michael Mints writes beautifully. Enjoy his awareness and love.​ Week reflection ​​ As the week gracefully bows out, it's time to reflect on the path we've journeyed. Every step, …

My dear friend Micha…

My dear friend Michael Mints writes beautifully. Enjoy his awareness and love.​ Week reflection ​​ As the week gracefully bows out, it's time to reflect on the path we've journeyed. Every step, every challenge, every triumph has shaped us in ways we might not even comprehend. Pause for a moment. Breathe. Think back on the week. ​​What have you learned? What made you smile? What pushed you a little closer to your goals? Where did you labor? Where did you rest? When did you feel most loving? And when did you feel most loved?For me, this week has been a reminder of the incre…

I asked God in a Meditation, “How do I deepen my ability to love?”And He gave me the most glorious gift. He said: “It is you. You are the key to deepening in love. You are the receiv…

I asked God in a med…

I asked God in a meditation, “How do I deepen my ability to love?”And He gave me the most glorious gift. He said: “It is you. You are the key to deepening in love. You are the receiver and the giver. And the depth is up to you. There is no bottom or top to love. The beauty is the amount you receive depends upon your ability to create it, offer it, share it, receive it, become it. ​ Everything you seek in another is just a misunderstanding. Because everything you seek is already within you. All that you can give is through you. The channel. ​ You seek because you believe y…

We hear it all the time. You need to have a good mindset, a positive mindset, a Growth mindset, but what actually IS mindset? And why is it so important?​ Mindset is the set of beliefs that form …

We hear it all the t…

We hear it all the time. You need to have a good mindset, a positive mindset, a growth mindset, but what actually IS mindset? And why is it so important?​ Mindset is the set of beliefs that form how you view yourself, others, and the entire world around you. It influences pretty much everything from how you think, feel, and how you act. Mindset is the lens that you look out into the world and how you choose to see yourself. Mindset is how you perceive everything. And mindset impacts everything: your success, failure, pleasure, and dissatisfaction. Your mindset is possibly the biggest dete…

  There is no control issue until you say NO!!!! ​ Think about it, before then it’s an agreement. But once one of us says: “It has to be my way!” Now you are stuck. And in most arguments this…

  There is no contr…

  There is no control issue until you say NO!!!! ​ Think about it, before then it’s an agreement. But once one of us says: “It has to be my way!” Now you are stuck. And in most arguments this is where we get caught. ​​ “You don’t care about me!” “Well, you don’t care about me!”So let’s take a look at CONTROL ​ What do we really have control over? Another? Hardly. ​ Just ourselves. Our thoughts, our beliefs, our words, and our actions. Our reactions! ​ So if you say it has to be your way, what can I say?Ok, since I have no say. This doesn’t real…

  Sacred Intimacy The founder of The Jorni, a wonderful online resource and author of this passage is a dear friend of mine, PETRA BRUNNBAUER. Be blessed by her Wisdom! These are her precious words…

  Sacred Intimacy T…

  Sacred Intimacy The founder of The Jorni, a wonderful online resource and author of this passage is a dear friend of mine, PETRA BRUNNBAUER. Be blessed by her wisdom! These are her precious words!   DISCOVERING OURSELVES THROUGH SACRED INTIMACY AND TANTRIC EMBODIMENT Have you ever thought about how well you really know yourself and what makes you happy? Sacred intimacy and Tantric practices are like ancient maps that guide us on a special journey of self-discovery. They help us dive deep into who we are, teaching us how to truly connect with ourselves and others. It's not just about lear…

What Is Your Super Power? ​ What is your super power? Truly! Do you know yours? Do you utilize it in all the ways you can? Here are seven of them. Hopefully you see yourself having several of these…

What Is Your Super P…

What Is Your Super Power? ​ What is your super power? Truly! Do you know yours? Do you utilize it in all the ways you can? Here are seven of them. Hopefully you see yourself having several of these traits. Where are you the strongest? Where do you want to grow? Let’s fan out your cape!1. Resilience: This is such a powerful superpower! Are you able to bounce back from setbacks that you have and keep going, no matter how tough life gets? Do you use challenges as a way to keep going and finding another way? ​ 2. Perseverance: People will this superpower are focused, determin…

  My sister died. We think of complications with Alzheimer’s. She was the last holder of my key to our childhood memories. The last who deeply knew my Mom. I am now the oldest and only of my childh…

  My sister died. W…

  My sister died. We think of complications with Alzheimer’s. She was the last holder of my key to our childhood memories. The last who deeply knew my Mom. I am now the oldest and only of my childhood family. I was the baby. Flip flop see saw. It’s bizarre to be THE oldest generation especially when right now all I want is to be a kid running at the beach with my Mom, my Dad, and my Sis. I did something yesterday. Don’t tell my surgeon. I disobeyed his orders and completely covered my cast and went on the beach. I needed to honor my sister. And I needed to be at our childhood favorite p…

    Do you love otters? Learning? Joy? A moment when every changes?   A friend shared a movie about a man’s joyful life salvation because of an encounter with a stranded baby otter.  Think The O…

    Do you love ot…

    Do you love otters? Learning? Joy? A moment when every changes?   A friend shared a movie about a man’s joyful life salvation because of an encounter with a stranded baby otter.  Think The Octopus Teacher.  It is the sweetest story on the powerful impact of how caring for another transforms our lives.  And if you love nature and all it has to teach us….watch and share and let me know how it blesses you!   https://youtu.be/fkoNeESBH94?si=EiwXViNC_QJgzF1P      

I Am An Inconvenience    I have lost my independence. And here it is the 4th!  I hope you are going to the beach or a block party!   It’s been humbling to ask folks to open my water bottle.  Ac…

I Am An Inconvenienc…

I Am An Inconvenience    I have lost my independence. And here it is the 4th!  I hope you are going to the beach or a block party!   It’s been humbling to ask folks to open my water bottle.  Actually I’ve learned to do it between my legs but it’s a little uncouth in public!  I do have to ask folks to tie my tennis shoes.  It’s so weird to be able to write a book, give a TedX, and not be able to cut an onion.  I know it’s temporary, but how bizarre this is!   ! am an inconvenience.  I think for the first time in my life.  It is giving me such compassion.  I am thanking fol…

  We want it to be at times.  When it would serve us.  But who ever told you life would be fair? And what would happen if it was?  Everything would be even.  Everything would happen as it “shou…

  We want it to be …

  We want it to be at times.  When it would serve us.  But who ever told you life would be fair? And what would happen if it was?  Everything would be even.  Everything would happen as it “should”.  There’d  be no personal growth, no challenge, nothing new, everything would be nice.  And function nicely. And what would happen?  It would be pleasant for a little while and then we would get bored, frustrated, and angry.  We want to be the fixer.  We want to be the dreamer.  We want to stand out. We don’t really want everything even Steven.  How boring and predictable that wo…

  Do you let go? What do you think when I ask that? Is that giving up? Weak? Does it make you a Quitter?   Or what else could it be?   Is it always weak to let go?   I don’t think so.  Letting …

  Do you let go? Wh…

  Do you let go? What do you think when I ask that? Is that giving up? Weak? Does it make you a Quitter?   Or what else could it be?   Is it always weak to let go?   I don’t think so.  Letting go can be an act of power, of courage, of faith.   I have tried everything I know and this still doesn’t work for me. Letting go is a decision, a choice to let yourself have something other than what you have had.  You are consciously choosing something that better serves you, or to see what works differently for you.  It opens the door to new possibilities.  You might choose to return.   W…

Do you think that’s true?  That a 100% is easier than 99%?  I didn’t think so until I heard someone speaking about the challenges of 1%.   Let’s take sugar.  Is it easier to tell yourself yo…

Do you think that’…

Do you think that’s true?  That a 100% is easier than 99%?  I didn’t think so until I heard someone speaking about the challenges of 1%.   Let’s take sugar.  Is it easier to tell yourself you can NEVER have sugar this week or 99% of the time you can not have sugar?   I thought it would be easier to commit to 99%.  Then maybe I can have it once this week. I really enjoy sugar!   But what does that mean?  For me it means each meal I am asking myself:   Are you going to have it now? Do you want that chocolate? Or a cookie? Or a slice of cake? Should you go to the store and look at …

I just heard there are 7 types of rest.   SEVEN   And one of the first facts is that Sleep and rest are not the same. Did you catch that?  Sleep and rest are not the same.  I am a “burn the cand…

I just heard there a…

I just heard there are 7 types of rest.   SEVEN   And one of the first facts is that sleep and rest are not the same. Did you catch that?  Sleep and rest are not the same.  I am a “burn the candle at both ends” kind of gal, so that struck me.  I crash when I go to sleep.  And I will sometimes wake up still tired.  So let’s learn here and let’s explore rest.   We are a high demand society.  And because of this we are also a highly burned out society who are chronically tired and sluggish. And I, for one, need to understand rest.   We need rest in 7 areas: Doesn’t that sound …