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“One day, I looked at my to-do list and realized—it wasn’t mine. It was everyone else’s.”We live in a world that thrives on more—more commitments, more things, more expectations. T…
“One day, I looked…
“One day, I looked at my to-do list and realized—it wasn’t mine. It was everyone else’s.”We live in a world that thrives on more—more commitments, more things, more expectations. The weight of it all can feel unbearable, as though we’re struggling under a garbage truck load of “stuff.”Everywhere we turn, there’s a voice in the background—society’s voice whispering in our ear, reminding us of the song performed by Andrea True Connection in ‘76:“More, more, more…how do you like it, how do you like it…?”It’s insidious. It infiltrates our cho…
Paula Tozer
December 9, 2024 
In this post, I’ll look at ways to reduce both sensory and responsibility overload in everyday life from a divergent perspective using the following perspectives:Home MaintenanceChore Miti…
In this post, I’ll…
In this post, I’ll look at ways to reduce both sensory and responsibility overload in everyday life from a divergent perspective using the following perspectives:Home MaintenanceChore MitigationObligation ReductionHOME MAINTENANCEAs someone who would never count cleaning among their hobbies, I began to notice just how much of my precious time was being eaten up by tidying, dusting, and organizing. Cleaning isn’t how I want to spend my days (anyone out there do windows?), so the idea of a minimalist Lifestyle became incredibly appealing. However, when I started to d…
Paula Tozer
December 4, 2024 
Writers Gotta Write, Right?Writing for the sheer pleasure of writing embodies the joy of creative expression, self-discovery, and the simple act of putting thoughts into words. For writers, the ac…
Writers Gotta Write,…
Writers Gotta Write, Right?Writing for the sheer pleasure of writing embodies the joy of creative expression, self-discovery, and the simple act of putting thoughts into words. For writers, the act of writing isn’t just a task—it’s a necessity, a way of making sense of the world and connecting with their inner selves.Writers gotta write, because it’s part of our DNA.This passion underscores the idea that writing isn’t merely a means to an end; it’s a way of being. For writers, getting happier can be as simple as engaging in their craft, one word at a time. In the end,…
Paula Tozer
December 1, 2024 Writing is a simple and pure act with minimal tools necessary for its execution.There are as many reasons to write as there are people who write. Some of the best reasons I’ve found to write are:…
Writing is a simple …
Writing is a simple and pure act with minimal tools necessary for its execution.There are as many reasons to write as there are people who write. Some of the best reasons I’ve found to write are:Writing to create order – as with a legal willWriting to honor – composing songs for your beloved, particularly those who have diedWriting to process Trauma – writing lets you put your chaotic thoughts in order, and get them out of your head and onto paper (or your computer) where you can observe them. Your writing space is where thoughts can become things.Writing to form ideas …
Paula Tozer
November 29, 2024 “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” – Greg AndersonHappiness isn’t a destination; it’s a dynamic process—a journ…
“Focus on the jour…
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” – Greg AndersonHappiness isn’t a destination; it’s a dynamic process—a journey of getting happier. This reframes happiness from being a static goal to a living, breathing practice. It’s not an endpoint we reach but an active, intentional engagement with life. Each small step—savoring a fleeting moment of gratitude, finding relief in a challenging situation, or aligning our actions with our deepest values—contributes to a cumulative sense of well-being.When we vi…
Paula Tozer
November 27, 2024 Disclaimer on HonorThis treatise in no way seeks to degrade the honor of the men and women in military communities around the world, who serve with integrity and commitment. It is, instead, an explora…
Disclaimer on HonorT…
Disclaimer on HonorThis treatise in no way seeks to degrade the honor of the men and women in military communities around the world, who serve with integrity and commitment. It is, instead, an exploration of a culture that venerates sacrifice, particularly the sacrifice of its young to the gods of war.IntroductionThose who believe in enemies will always find them.The current state of affairs with the world is a magnification of what is going on inside of us. The Spirit of humanity is alive and well within each of us, however sidelined it feels now. Recent events, specifically the r…
Paula Tozer
November 11, 2024 Dear Body,Thank you. Thank you for the incredible service you’ve given me so far. Today, I choose to focus on all the things you do right, on everything that’s working well. I want to celebrat…
Dear Body,Thank …
Dear Body,Thank you. Thank you for the incredible service you’ve given me so far. Today, I choose to focus on all the things you do right, on everything that’s working well. I want to celebrate every little thing that makes you uniquely wonderful.Is my body my ally or an adversary? The truth is, it’s neither. It’s a reflection of how I treat myself. Pain is not punishment; it’s a signal. It’s your way of crying out for love. And I want you to know, I hear you. I see you. And I love you.When a part of you aches, I will pay special attention to it, blanketing that area wi…
Paula Tozer
August 20, 2024 We fight for our way of life, not in the manner of a warrior defending their life. The powermongers who declare war have long been waging a battle in their minds, nurturing hate and perpetuating injus…
We fight for our way…
We fight for our way of life, not in the manner of a warrior defending their life. The powermongers who declare war have long been waging a battle in their minds, nurturing hate and perpetuating injustice—a tradition as old as humanity itself, dating back to when we first stood upright and took our initial steps.What’s truly at stake is our version of reality, not just our physical survival. We send our troops into battle only after we’ve entrenched the conflict within our minds.A battleground makes poor farmland. Nothing flourishes—crops, children, or peace—when destruction …
Paula Tozer
August 10, 2024 I want to live my life feeling weak and sluggish, with flabby muscles and a distended abdomen, with no endurance (to be unable to run 3k even if it meant saving my own life or someone else’s).M…
I want to live my li…
I want to live my life feeling weak and sluggish, with flabby muscles and a distended abdomen, with no endurance (to be unable to run 3k even if it meant saving my own life or someone else’s).My life goal is to suffer from poor nutrition and digestion, and Sleep just as poorly…to move as little as possible…to “take it easy” when I could be moving. I plan on making as many excuses as possible to support my lack of mobility and wellness as I age.But, most of all, my deepest desire is to shut you down or shut you up, when you start talking trash about my sedentary lifestyle.…
Paula Tozer
August 4, 2024 
How do you create intimacy in a virtual environment, enabling you to form a meaningful relationship with another person, or persons, on the other side of the screen? How can you engineer your presenta…
How do you create in…
How do you create intimacy in a virtual environment, enabling you to form a meaningful relationship with another person, or persons, on the other side of the screen? How can you engineer your presentation to feel like a one-to-one conversation, fostering a personal connection?Yes, I’m talking to you. I’m here because you are here, my valued friend.Whether it’s a personal or professional interaction, my ability to connect virtually, not despite the limitations but by using those limitations as a launchpad, is key to forging a successful connection.You’re Projecting…Th…
Paula Tozer
July 31, 2024 
It’s not what you do when you are motivated. It’s not what you do occasionally.It’s what you do when the going gets boring or repetitive…in the face of challenge, conflict, or controversy…
It’s not what you …
It’s not what you do when you are motivated. It’s not what you do occasionally.It’s what you do when the going gets boring or repetitive…in the face of challenge, conflict, or controversy…that’s what matters. When you think It doesn’t matter, what’s one day of not living up to my goals?…That’s where, as the saying goes…the rubber meets the road.It’s what will keep you going, keep you physically moving the needle…by your will to LIVE…Fully. Completely.This is progress philosophy.I invite you to begin a Contemplative Writing practice wh…
Paula Tozer
July 29, 2024 
WARRIORA Warrior, she’s often been,obsessed with other lands.In tending to her freedom, socontent to raise her hand.Yet even in the midst of war,surrounded by aloneshe kn…
WARRIORA Warrior…
WARRIORA Warrior, she’s often been,obsessed with other lands.In tending to her freedom, socontent to raise her hand.Yet even in the midst of war,surrounded by aloneshe knew t’was might that brought her here,and sliced her to the bone.This Warrior has sheathed her sword.Its glint may dull, at will.Her wounds, now tender’d, body bathed.Her feet now soft and still.All wagers off, she’s settled in,sworn enemies released and whole.Old Warrior, the time is nighto find yourself at home. An Elegant Mind’s HandbookWhen I wrot…
Paula Tozer
March 18, 2024 Are you a person who enjoys the challenge of competition, but also likes to fit in?Admitting that a challenge energizes you but attempting to fit in with a group establishes a dichotomy that creat…
Are you a person who…
Are you a person who enjoys the challenge of competition, but also likes to fit in?Admitting that a challenge energizes you but attempting to fit in with a group establishes a dichotomy that creates a conflict within.You cannot fit in and stand out. The first step is admitting that you have a strong drive to overcome challenges.A person who stands out must be unique, would you agree? Even in a group of unique individuals, you must be willing to stand out. If you don’t stand out, or if the group is unwilling to accept you as a standout, you’re in the wrong group.This inte…
Paula Tozer
March 14, 2024 
I shall be telling this with a sighSomewhere ages and ages hence:Two roads diverged in a wood, and II took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference From the poem T…
I shall be telling t…
I shall be telling this with a sighSomewhere ages and ages hence:Two roads diverged in a wood, and II took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference From the poem The Road Less Traveled by Robert FrostIsn’t it cool? Every day that you wake up on this side of the grass is another opportunity to win. Winners begin each day with anticipation – looking forward to finding the something colored beautiful moments in this great day that will can only be found on Winner’s Road.These moments can be a thought, a conversation, an activity…anything that c…
Paula Tozer
February 28, 2024 
If you want to be a winner every time, set the bar low enough so that you’d have to work hard not to achieve it. People will applaud you because you act and look exactly like them.I want to be t…
If you want to be a …
If you want to be a winner every time, set the bar low enough so that you’d have to work hard not to achieve it. People will applaud you because you act and look exactly like them.I want to be the same as everyone else, said no one with self-respect, ever. When we were kids we had big dreams…we wanted to become someone in this world…to make our mark…but somewhere on that trail, we found tears, and discouragement in the form of other travelers who demanded that, if we wanted to walk along with them, we had to do and say the things they said and did.Where I grew up we have a lov…
Paula Tozer
February 18, 2024 Hi folks, here is Chapter 1 of my novel, Enchanting Treve.This novel represents so much as it is told from the perspective of three strong women who are doing their best to live their lives to th…
Hi folks, here is Ch…
Hi folks, here is Chapter 1 of my novel, Enchanting Treve.This novel represents so much as it is told from the perspective of three strong women who are doing their best to live their lives to the fullest in the face of life’s challenges.It is also a journey down memory lane for those of us who grew up in the country or who visited family who lived in the country when we were kids.With this novel I held nothing back – it brought the tears as well as the joys of those days into sharp relief. The intense struggles we face as we progress through the phases of our lives, with th…
Paula Tozer
February 16, 2024 Don’t love your work?Can’t wait to get the heck out of there when your shift is done?It’s up to you to find some part of your job to enjoy.Let’s get real:You signed on for this…
Don’t love your wo…
Don’t love your work?Can’t wait to get the heck out of there when your shift is done?It’s up to you to find some part of your job to enjoy.Let’s get real:You signed on for this work.You agreed to their terms and conditions. Even if you felt you had no choice but to take this job, at some point you must have been relieved when you got the opportunity. Why aren’t you pleased that the option came your way?Gratitude for what you have is the beginning of enjoyment.Every person in the workplace has found themselves in this situation at one time or another. I h…
Paula Tozer
February 1, 2024 
Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey have written a thought-provoking book together. It’s called Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.Yep. There are other books on how t…
Arthur C. Brooks and…
Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey have written a thought-provoking book together. It’s called Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.Yep. There are other books on how to get happy. Why is this one different?One of the many things I enjoy about this content is that Brooks and Winfrey share that happiness isn’t a feeling, it’s a direction. They invite us to consider getting happier as a process we can activate each day. That changes the game.They also invoke the power of three and discuss what research has determined as the three powerful factors that…
Paula Tozer
February 1, 2024 
