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Disclaimer on HonorThis treatise in no way seeks to degrade the honor of the men and women in military communities around the world, who serve with integrity and commitment. It is, instead, an explora…
Disclaimer on HonorT…
Disclaimer on HonorThis treatise in no way seeks to degrade the honor of the men and women in military communities around the world, who serve with integrity and commitment. It is, instead, an exploration of a culture that venerates sacrifice, particularly the sacrifice of its young to the gods of war.IntroductionThose who believe in enemies will always find them.The current state of affairs with the world is a magnification of what is going on inside of us. The Spirit of humanity is alive and well within each of us, however sidelined it feels now. Recent events, specifically the r…
Paula Tozer
November 11, 2024 Dear Body,Thank you. Thank you for the incredible service you’ve given me so far. Today, I choose to focus on all the things you do right, on everything that’s working well. I want to celebrat…
Dear Body,Thank …
Dear Body,Thank you. Thank you for the incredible service you’ve given me so far. Today, I choose to focus on all the things you do right, on everything that’s working well. I want to celebrate every little thing that makes you uniquely wonderful.Is my body my ally or an adversary? The truth is, it’s neither. It’s a reflection of how I treat myself. Pain is not punishment; it’s a signal. It’s your way of crying out for love. And I want you to know, I hear you. I see you. And I love you.When a part of you aches, I will pay special attention to it, blanketing that area wi…
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August 20, 2024 We fight for our way of life, not in the manner of a warrior defending their life. The powermongers who declare war have long been waging a battle in their minds, nurturing hate and perpetuating injus…
We fight for our way…
We fight for our way of life, not in the manner of a warrior defending their life. The powermongers who declare war have long been waging a battle in their minds, nurturing hate and perpetuating injustice—a tradition as old as humanity itself, dating back to when we first stood upright and took our initial steps.What’s truly at stake is our version of reality, not just our physical survival. We send our troops into battle only after we’ve entrenched the conflict within our minds.A battleground makes poor farmland. Nothing flourishes—crops, children, or peace—when destruction …
Paula Tozer
August 10, 2024 I want to live my life feeling weak and sluggish, with flabby muscles and a distended abdomen, with no endurance (to be unable to run 3k even if it meant saving my own life or someone else’s).M…
I want to live my li…
I want to live my life feeling weak and sluggish, with flabby muscles and a distended abdomen, with no endurance (to be unable to run 3k even if it meant saving my own life or someone else’s).My life goal is to suffer from poor nutrition and digestion, and Sleep just as poorly…to move as little as possible…to “take it easy” when I could be moving. I plan on making as many excuses as possible to support my lack of mobility and wellness as I age.But, most of all, my deepest desire is to shut you down or shut you up, when you start talking trash about my sedentary Lifestyle.…
Paula Tozer
August 4, 2024 
How do you create intimacy in a virtual environment, enabling you to form a meaningful relationship with another person, or persons, on the other side of the screen? How can you engineer your presenta…
How do you create in…
How do you create intimacy in a virtual environment, enabling you to form a meaningful relationship with another person, or persons, on the other side of the screen? How can you engineer your presentation to feel like a one-to-one conversation, fostering a personal connection?Yes, I’m talking to you. I’m here because you are here, my valued friend.Whether it’s a personal or professional interaction, my ability to connect virtually, not despite the limitations but by using those limitations as a launchpad, is key to forging a successful connection.You’re Projecting…Th…
Paula Tozer
July 31, 2024 
It’s not what you do when you are motivated. It’s not what you do occasionally.It’s what you do when the going gets boring or repetitive…in the face of challenge, conflict, or controversy…
It’s not what you …
It’s not what you do when you are motivated. It’s not what you do occasionally.It’s what you do when the going gets boring or repetitive…in the face of challenge, conflict, or controversy…that’s what matters. When you think It doesn’t matter, what’s one day of not living up to my goals?…That’s where, as the saying goes…the rubber meets the road.It’s what will keep you going, keep you physically moving the needle…by your will to LIVE…Fully. Completely.This is progress philosophy.I invite you to begin a Contemplative Writing practice wh…
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July 29, 2024 
WARRIORA Warrior, she’s often been,obsessed with other lands.In tending to her freedom, socontent to raise her hand.Yet even in the midst of war,surrounded by aloneshe kn…
WARRIORA Warrior…
WARRIORA Warrior, she’s often been,obsessed with other lands.In tending to her freedom, socontent to raise her hand.Yet even in the midst of war,surrounded by aloneshe knew t’was might that brought her here,and sliced her to the bone.This Warrior has sheathed her sword.Its glint may dull, at will.Her wounds, now tender’d, body bathed.Her feet now soft and still.All wagers off, she’s settled in,sworn enemies released and whole.Old Warrior, the time is nighto find yourself at home. An Elegant Mind’s HandbookWhen I wrot…
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March 18, 2024 Are you a person who enjoys the challenge of competition, but also likes to fit in?Admitting that a challenge energizes you but attempting to fit in with a group establishes a dichotomy that creat…
Are you a person who…
Are you a person who enjoys the challenge of competition, but also likes to fit in?Admitting that a challenge energizes you but attempting to fit in with a group establishes a dichotomy that creates a conflict within.You cannot fit in and stand out. The first step is admitting that you have a strong drive to overcome challenges.A person who stands out must be unique, would you agree? Even in a group of unique individuals, you must be willing to stand out. If you don’t stand out, or if the group is unwilling to accept you as a standout, you’re in the wrong group.This inte…
Paula Tozer
March 14, 2024 
I shall be telling this with a sighSomewhere ages and ages hence:Two roads diverged in a wood, and II took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference From the poem T…
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I shall be telling this with a sighSomewhere ages and ages hence:Two roads diverged in a wood, and II took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference From the poem The Road Less Traveled by Robert FrostIsn’t it cool? Every day that you wake up on this side of the grass is another opportunity to win. Winners begin each day with anticipation – looking forward to finding the something colored beautiful moments in this great day that will can only be found on Winner’s Road.These moments can be a thought, a conversation, an activity…anything that c…
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February 28, 2024 
If you want to be a winner every time, set the bar low enough so that you’d have to work hard not to achieve it. People will applaud you because you act and look exactly like them.I want to be t…
If you want to be a …
If you want to be a winner every time, set the bar low enough so that you’d have to work hard not to achieve it. People will applaud you because you act and look exactly like them.I want to be the same as everyone else, said no one with self-respect, ever. When we were kids we had big dreams…we wanted to become someone in this world…to make our mark…but somewhere on that trail, we found tears, and discouragement in the form of other travelers who demanded that, if we wanted to walk along with them, we had to do and say the things they said and did.Where I grew up we have a lov…
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February 18, 2024 Hi folks, here is Chapter 1 of my novel, Enchanting Treve.This novel represents so much as it is told from the perspective of three strong women who are doing their best to live their lives to th…
Hi folks, here is Ch…
Hi folks, here is Chapter 1 of my novel, Enchanting Treve.This novel represents so much as it is told from the perspective of three strong women who are doing their best to live their lives to the fullest in the face of life’s challenges.It is also a journey down memory lane for those of us who grew up in the country or who visited family who lived in the country when we were kids.With this novel I held nothing back – it brought the tears as well as the joys of those days into sharp relief. The intense struggles we face as we progress through the phases of our lives, with th…
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February 16, 2024 Don’t love your work?Can’t wait to get the heck out of there when your shift is done?It’s up to you to find some part of your job to enjoy.Let’s get real:You signed on for this…
Don’t love your wo…
Don’t love your work?Can’t wait to get the heck out of there when your shift is done?It’s up to you to find some part of your job to enjoy.Let’s get real:You signed on for this work.You agreed to their terms and conditions. Even if you felt you had no choice but to take this job, at some point you must have been relieved when you got the opportunity. Why aren’t you pleased that the option came your way?Gratitude for what you have is the beginning of enjoyment.Every person in the workplace has found themselves in this situation at one time or another. I h…
Paula Tozer
February 1, 2024 
Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey have written a thought-provoking book together. It’s called Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.Yep. There are other books on how t…
Arthur C. Brooks and…
Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey have written a thought-provoking book together. It’s called Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.Yep. There are other books on how to get happy. Why is this one different?One of the many things I enjoy about this content is that Brooks and Winfrey share that happiness isn’t a feeling, it’s a direction. They invite us to consider getting happier as a process we can activate each day. That changes the game.They also invoke the power of three and discuss what research has determined as the three powerful factors that…
Paula Tozer
February 1, 2024 Each day when I wake up on this side of the grass I search for something colored beautiful with which to decorate my day. I’ve never been disappointed. I highly recommend this practice. It has…
Each day when I wake…
Each day when I wake up on this side of the grass I search for something colored beautiful with which to decorate my day. I’ve never been disappointed. I highly recommend this practice. It has saved many of my opportunities from circling the bowl.Today entrepreneur, author, podcaster, and motivational speaker Ed Mylett shared the good stuff.Maybe you self-sabotage because it allows you to predict the future, to feel like you’re in control. Ed MylettGreat thinkers, speakers, and writers offer us a perspective about ourselves in a way that we may have never thought of befo…
Paula Tozer
January 21, 2024 
It’s better to change 10 things by 1% than one thing by 10% Dr. Tara SwartIn a recent interview, author and neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart describes how she considers the Law of Attraction, and, …
It’s better to cha…
It’s better to change 10 things by 1% than one thing by 10% Dr. Tara SwartIn a recent interview, author and neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart describes how she considers the Law of Attraction, and, in particular, a vision board. She considers it as an activity log.She notes that it’s not enough to simply create the dream…it’s also necessary to action the dream. I believe this is a beneficial and action-oriented way of making your dreams work for you.At some point, your dream must transform into a goal. This means that you must begin to map out the steps to achieving it. T…
Paula Tozer
January 1, 2024 
Today I asked myself…What is the formula for unhappiness?Always seeking, never finding. Always learning, never knowing.To find it is to know it. To know it is to live it. Simple.If tha…
Today I asked myself…
Today I asked myself…What is the formula for unhappiness?Always seeking, never finding. Always learning, never knowing.To find it is to know it. To know it is to live it. Simple.If that’s so, then why do we struggle to be happy?Your life doesn’t contradict your words or circumstances. What you live is what you know for sure…Do you like what you see? The stories you tell?No excuses, no regrets, no illusions. These are what you must eliminate.What will you find after this process of negation?Consider yourself as a work in progress.Progress is somet…
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December 29, 2023 It’s interesting to observe how the holiday season can make us feel more alone. For those of us who feel its bite instead of its embrace, the idea that we “should” be happy, prosperous, and shar…
It’s interesting t…
It’s interesting to observe how the holiday season can make us feel more alone. For those of us who feel its bite instead of its embrace, the idea that we “should” be happy, prosperous, and share meals surrounded by friends and family feels like a fairy tale. Even when we do enjoy rewarding Relationships, engage in our holiday rituals, and have the pleasure of the company of friends and family, many times, it’s a fairy tale as well because our friends complain or get too drunk or share too much personal information and our family is often more challenging than pleasurable…so we prete…
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December 24, 2023 Waste no more time talking about what a good man is like. Be one. – Marcus AureliusMarcus Aurelius was a Roman Emperor. At the time of his reign, he was the most powerful man in the world. His n…
Waste no more time t…
Waste no more time talking about what a good man is like. Be one. – Marcus AureliusMarcus Aurelius was a Roman Emperor. At the time of his reign, he was the most powerful man in the world. His now famous private journals, Meditations, weren’t meant for the public to read. They were his private thoughts, ideas he was working out within himself, for his eyes only.Marcus Aurelius was a Stoic. This did not mean that he wasn’t in touch with his feelings, that’s a misconception about the Stoic philosophy. He was disciplined, very thoughtful, and deliberate about how he expressed …
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December 22, 2023 
