I just finished answering five comments from my YouTube video on Morphine. There is so much misunderstanding, anger, and outright hate surrounding hospice and narcotic use. Why? What has happened to cause such vitriol? My first response is lack of education. Lack of time spent with primary caregivers and families teaching them about pain management […]
Dear Barbara, what can you tell me about any differences in believers and non-believers as they approach death? It’s interesting, it seems that lately I have gotten several questions dealing with “believers” going to heaven and “non-believers” being more frightened than believers. So here are my thoughts. I realize I will not please everyone with […]
We, who work in end of life care, offer guidance, directions, information, how-to’s and what-to-do’s but after the words are given and repeated over and over what do we do? What do we do when there is nothing more to say? What do we do when we have no answers to give? When no amount […]
As I write this, I am thinking I may stir up some feelings. Please remember my goal is to give you something to think about. Filling out an Advance Directive when you are healthy is different than filling one out when you are elderly or living with a serious illness. When we are healthy we […]
I received a letter from a man who had been very ill. During some of that time he was delusional, confused, disoriented and agitated. His family has told him that during the time of his illness he was mean, uncooperative, a really nasty person. He is now puzzled by how he could possibly be that […]
I got a letter telling me that we, healthcare professionals and doctors, should not tell people they are going to die. The letter got me thinking about why I believe a person should be told, and also wondering if there are indeed people that don’t want to know. Let’s start with people that don’t want to […]
Dear Barbara, How can I help my family decide whether to “pull the plug” on my ex-husband? He is on life support machines right now. Also can you give me some advice as to the Death Doula role for pulling the plug? I don’t know the details of your ex-husband being on life support so […]
Yesterday we put our seventeen year old cat to sleep. Euthanized is the proper term but “put to sleep” has a peaceful feeling and killed has an awful feeling. I work with dying situations all the time, 42 years to be exact. But this was personal, this was our Danger cat. (I know, a totally […]
Most medical professionals will try to keep you alive even though they know they won’t succeed. Because that is what they are taught to do. Do you want it any other way? Do we want it any other way? Yes. We do, at least I do. I want the medical profession, the medical model we […]
When I started in hospice, in its beginnings in the late ‘70s, hospice met all end of life care needs. In fact, hospice was the only healthcare service meeting any end of life needs. However, most people had never heard of the concept. Fast forward 40+ years. Hospice is widely known for providing end of […]
