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  Do you let go? What do you think when I ask that? Is that giving up? Weak? Does it make you a Quitter?   Or what else could it be?   Is it always weak to let go?   I don’t think so.  Letting …

  Do you let go? Wh…

  Do you let go? What do you think when I ask that? Is that giving up? Weak? Does it make you a Quitter?   Or what else could it be?   Is it always weak to let go?   I don’t think so.  Letting go can be an act of power, of courage, of faith.   I have tried everything I know and this still doesn’t work for me. Letting go is a decision, a choice to let yourself have something other than what you have had.  You are consciously choosing something that better serves you, or to see what works differently for you.  It opens the door to new possibilities.  You might choose to return.   W…

Do you think that’s true?  That a 100% is easier than 99%?  I didn’t think so until I heard someone speaking about the challenges of 1%.   Let’s take sugar.  Is it easier to tell yourself yo…

Do you think that’…

Do you think that’s true?  That a 100% is easier than 99%?  I didn’t think so until I heard someone speaking about the challenges of 1%.   Let’s take sugar.  Is it easier to tell yourself you can NEVER have sugar this week or 99% of the time you can not have sugar?   I thought it would be easier to commit to 99%.  Then maybe I can have it once this week. I really enjoy sugar!   But what does that mean?  For me it means each meal I am asking myself:   Are you going to have it now? Do you want that chocolate? Or a cookie? Or a slice of cake? Should you go to the store and look at …

I just heard there are 7 types of rest.   SEVEN   And one of the first facts is that sleep and rest are not the same. Did you catch that?  Sleep and rest are not the same.  I am a “burn the cand…

I just heard there a…

I just heard there are 7 types of rest.   SEVEN   And one of the first facts is that sleep and rest are not the same. Did you catch that?  Sleep and rest are not the same.  I am a “burn the candle at both ends” kind of gal, so that struck me.  I crash when I go to sleep.  And I will sometimes wake up still tired.  So let’s learn here and let’s explore rest.   We are a high demand society.  And because of this we are also a highly burned out society who are chronically tired and sluggish. And I, for one, need to understand rest.   We need rest in 7 areas: Doesn’t that sound …

Why me?   Instead of why NOT me?   Yikes!  Does that distinction come out of that place where we feel victimized or that we should somehow not suffer?  No one wants to.  No one wants cancer, or t…

Why me?   Instead o…

Why me?   Instead of why NOT me?   Yikes!  Does that distinction come out of that place where we feel victimized or that we should somehow not suffer?  No one wants to.  No one wants cancer, or to lose a limb, or a dog.  We want our life to be easy. But let's think about this a little bit differently.  When we say, “why me?”  We’re not focusing on what is actually happening.  We are focusing on ourselves.  Instead of: Why this?  Why an accident? Why cancer? Why rejection?   We’re upset that we will struggle, that we are screwed over in our mind.   Our focus is   Why do I …

How often do you hear someone labeled as toxic?  Our world has chosen to cling to that description of behavior.  What I find fascinating is that it is often used when someone simply refuses to think…

How often do you hea…

How often do you hear someone labeled as toxic?  Our world has chosen to cling to that description of behavior.  What I find fascinating is that it is often used when someone simply refuses to think as we do: they might be challenging, frustrating, or problematic.  But that is a far cry from toxic.    Toxic means it is deadly or permanently or severely destructive.   In Buddhism, any place of pain is seen as a cry for love.  The cancer, the injury, the boil are wanting to be recognized, heard, and loved.  There is an exercise where cancer patients journal with their cancer.  Asking wh…

  As we get older and life goes on, it seems that there are more and more ways that we decide or come to find that we are different.  But as we enter Mother’s Day, there is an important universal …

  As we get older a…

  As we get older and life goes on, it seems that there are more and more ways that we decide or come to find that we are different.  But as we enter Mother’s Day, there is an important universal truth for us to realize.  We all have mother’s.  And it was planned, and decided, that within the woman, within our mother, was the safest and most sacred place for us to begin.   Not all of us stayed with our mothers.  And not all of our mothers were able to stay safe for us, but when we were started, there was some protection.  And within your mother’s body, you were embraced and held.�…

  We all need hugs? Don’t you? Do you get enough of them? I don’t.   But I got two beautiful ones this week! Look at this wonderful testimonial on my book!   Dr. Heather Browne's Interesting Ca…

  We all need hugs?…

  We all need hugs? Don’t you? Do you get enough of them? I don’t.   But I got two beautiful ones this week! Look at this wonderful testimonial on my book!   Dr. Heather Browne's Interesting Career   And the second… Do you know about Leo Buscaglia?  He’s an amazing author who wrote LOVE    He actually taught a college class on love. How to love. Why to love. The healing of love.   If he were alive it would be his 100th year.  There is a documentary that is being filmed to honor this glorious man.    The book LOVE is the first self help book I ever read.  I picked it up ri…

“Being average is hell on Earth." It’s a boring, lifeless, pandering, people-pleasing disaster that leads you to a dead end, and shortly after, off a cliff. Don’t do it, it’s a bear trap. You …

“Being average is …

“Being average is hell on Earth." It’s a boring, lifeless, pandering, people-pleasing disaster that leads you to a dead end, and shortly after, off a cliff. Don’t do it, it’s a bear trap. You can do better than average without much extra effort. “There is no normal/average. A 'normal person' is what is left after society has squeezed out all unconventional opinions and aspirations out of a human being." – Sylvia Path   The following brilliance is from Tim Denning: Pretend rules don’t exist The nanny police are gonna light my skinny ass on fire for this one. I’ve been lucky to …

Have you read about Imposter Syndrome?   Have you and our friends been talking about Imposter Syndrome?    Do you sometimes feel like an Imposter?  And have you thought about what this even means?…

Have you read about …

Have you read about Imposter Syndrome?   Have you and our friends been talking about Imposter Syndrome?    Do you sometimes feel like an Imposter?  And have you thought about what this even means?  It's a feeling that you are not being yourself or a feeling of not feeling like yourself.  But how can you feel anything other than what you are or what you feel?   Even so, people are talking about this, all over the place, especially in the arena of creators and entrepreneurs.  It is spoken about when you are stepping into something new, a new opportunity, or a new role where you will be d…

PLEASE!!!   I fly to New York on Saturday to shoot two shows!!!!!   On Monday I will be on:   Ask a Matchmaker with Maria Avgitidis (aka Matchmaker Maria).  She is the top matchmaker in New York!�…

PLEASE!!!   I fly t…

PLEASE!!!   I fly to New York on Saturday to shoot two shows!!!!!   On Monday I will be on:   Ask a Matchmaker with Maria Avgitidis (aka Matchmaker Maria).  She is the top matchmaker in New York!  And I will be a guest on her podcast!  This will be a blast!   AND…. CBS News New York is interviewing me about communication with compassion and my book!   I promise to send you the links as soon as I have them!   Would you please say some prayers for me that both shoots go amazingly well and that we have tons and tons of listeners who are deeply blessed by what we share?   I would GREAT…

  I heard an owl in my neighborhood.  And where I live that is unnatural and unheard of.  It took me back to my childhood.   I grew up with an owl in my backyard.  And I used to drift off to slee…

  I heard an owl in…

  I heard an owl in my neighborhood.  And where I live that is unnatural and unheard of.  It took me back to my childhood.   I grew up with an owl in my backyard.  And I used to drift off to sleep to his WHO.   And so I listened.  I listened in my ears and in my memories at the same time.  I felt my stomach stirring.  WHO?  WHO?   And as I contemplated on the sound and on connecting with my past, this wise old owl brought me to an important message.   Who are you?       Are you a compilation of all the ages of you that you have ever been? Do you take from your childhood and from…

There’s no problem here. None at all. I know, your head is reeling.  But hear me out!   A problem requires a story, a beginning, a middle, and an end.  A problem requires a history.  Either a be…

There’s no problem…

There’s no problem here. None at all. I know, your head is reeling.  But hear me out!   A problem requires a story, a beginning, a middle, and an end.  A problem requires a history.  Either a before or a soon to be future.  There is only a problem if you have a frame of reference with which to critic this moment.   BUT…if you choose to live in this moment, if right now is what it is to be, then there isn’t a problem, there’s just now.  And you can deal with now.   Alright, I know there are things that you want or need to change.  But by not viewing it as a problem, it can be v…

We often say that we would do things differently once we've been blessed with hindsight.  And of course we would!   With hindsight we can see the actual outcome.  But when we make choices in life, …

We often say that we…

We often say that we would do things differently once we've been blessed with hindsight.  And of course we would!   With hindsight we can see the actual outcome.  But when we make choices in life, we do the best we can with what we DO know.  And that also includes what we DON'T know.   But how many times do we actually make right decisions?  I bet it is the majority of times, if we could truly evaluate a whole day honestly.  How little actually goes wrong?  How amazing we are in doing so much right!  Think about it.  If we were really a huge mess-up, that would be our normal, or exp…

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!   Are you lucky?  Hmmm?  What do you think?  How LUCKY do YOU think you are?   Use the arch of that magical rainbow to decide.   On a scale if 1-10, is your pot on t…

Happy St. Patrick’…

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!   Are you lucky?  Hmmm?  What do you think?  How LUCKY do YOU think you are?   Use the arch of that magical rainbow to decide.   On a scale if 1-10, is your pot on the left side, completely empty, frustrated, waiting for someone else to fill you,  but also doubting?  Or are you somewhere over that rainbow overflowing with gold, luck, and a ton of love?Do you have any idea what is the biggest factor in predicting luck?  Nope, it’s not luck itself, ha!  It’s belief.  Belief that you will find that clover with the fourth leaf.  That somehow you are b…

Hello Beautiful Ones! How have you done loving on  you?  Since our last newsletter was on the Love Languages let’s play a little bit!  We all like to get bonuses or gifts, or find things on sale,…

Hello Beautiful Ones…

Hello Beautiful Ones! How have you done loving on  you?  Since our last newsletter was on the Love Languages let’s play a little bit!  We all like to get bonuses or gifts, or find things on sale, right?  Someone asked me yesterday if I gave a discount for large orders of Speaking with the Heart.  And I replied, now I do!  Anytime you purchase 10 copies of Speaking with the Heart https://a.co/d/eK1lIJ5 I will send you a $10 Amazon gift card as a thank you!  Just send me a photo of your order of 10 or more copies and I will email you your gift as a huge thank you! Ok, so there’s more!…

Gary Chapman’s, The 5 Love Languages is one of the easiest and most simplified ways to see how you and your partner give and receive love. Most of us are rather clueless to this fact. There are 5 di…

Gary Chapman’s, Th…

Gary Chapman’s, The 5 Love Languages is one of the easiest and most simplified ways to see how you and your partner give and receive love. Most of us are rather clueless to this fact. There are 5 different ways to love which means a ton of ways to see, feel, give, enjoy love. Knowing this can dramatically change how you view and improve your relationship.   Here they are: Physical touch Words of affirmation Gifts Acts of service Special moments   Which one is yours?   In my couples communication/intimacy work, we find this out in the first session. Why? Because I KNOW they are not speakin…

I want to ask you to do something.  If I were to ask you to write down everything that you love,  how long would it take for you to write down….   you?   Ouhhh! Would you remember?   Or would y…

I want to ask you to…

I want to ask you to do something.  If I were to ask you to write down everything that you love,  how long would it take for you to write down….   you?   Ouhhh! Would you remember?   Or would you get busy at writing down so many other beautiful things that you love that you wouldn’t even come up?  Is it hard to remember you?    I was surprised because I didn’t write down   Me.   Not that I don’t love myself, but when I think of what I love most, I tend to forget   And since we are the creator of the love we feel, since we generate how we feel, think, and act, we are not goin…

Did you know that February is Kindness Month. Random acts of kindness are the focus for this week.  But instead of just this week, what if we celebrate kindness and compassion for the rest of the mon…

Did you know that Fe…

Did you know that February is Kindness Month. Random acts of kindness are the focus for this week.  But instead of just this week, what if we celebrate kindness and compassion for the rest of the month?   What if you choose to offer someone one random act of kindness each day? Research shows that helping others is good for our mental health. It reduces stress, improves our emotional well-being, our physical health, and helps us feel a little bit better.   The University of Texas at Austin, says that we tend to underestimate the power of kindness. We downplay the importance of our own kind a…