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I am delighted to bring to you the Wisdom of Furkhan Dandia!  Enjoy!   The Science of Reflection and GratitudeReflection Enhances Self-Awareness: Reflection is the cornerstone of self-awaren…

I am delighted to br…

I am delighted to bring to you the wisdom of Furkhan Dandia!  Enjoy!   The Science of Reflection and GratitudeReflection Enhances Self-Awareness: Reflection is the cornerstone of self-awareness, a critical component of emotional intelligence. A study published in Mindfulness (2016) found that regular self-reflection can reduce emotional reactivity and increase resilience. By assessing our thoughts and actions, we gain Clarity and align our daily decisions with our values and goals.Gratitude Rewires the Brain: Neuroscience reveals that gratitude can reshape the brain. A 2017 stu…

Right now, there are fires destroying huge communities in California. My High School....gone. My first church....gone. So much devastation. The fire hydrants ij the Palisades have run dry. What a pet…

Right now, there are…

Right now, there are fires destroying huge communities in California. My High School....gone. My first church....gone. So much devastation. The fire hydrants ij the Palisades have run dry. What a petrifying reality. To be in a crisis and not be able to help yourself. I think we all could use everyone's prayers for our communities, countries, and our world right now. And it brings out an important possibility... The Power of Showing Up! There is a simple yet profound act that truly changes people lives - SHOWING UP as others need. But what does it mean to genuinely show up in someone's life?…

Since we are days away from a New year to explore. Before the whistles sing and the fireworks explode, I hope you will give yourself this gift. Write yourself a thank you letter for all the the things…

Since we are days aw…

Since we are days away from a New year to explore. Before the whistles sing and the fireworks explode, I hope you will give yourself this gift. Write yourself a thank you letter for all the the things you came through this year, changed, healed, or started worling on. Most of us, make a long list off all we want to change. But before you do, take a couple minutes thanking you for where and how you came through for yourself this year. It might have been a really tough year. And you kept going. There is so much space to be proud of what you did do and how this year changed you. You are differen…

Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! I just wanted to take a moment and wish you a wonderful holy season! How are you holding up so far? Here a couple of tidbits to offer some supportive thoughts and ch…

Merry Christmas! Hap…

Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! I just wanted to take a moment and wish you a wonderful holy season! How are you holding up so far? Here a couple of tidbits to offer some supportive thoughts and choices to help.   Aim for enjoyment vs. perfection. It's easy to over Stress yourself with trying to make everything flawless. Both you and those who you are celebrating with will feel some helpful relief in recognizing the hope is for everyone to come together and create a lovely time. There may be some moments that aren't perfect. The rolls may burn or a glass may topple. And that's where the be…

How are you holding up? Are you reeling with the turbulent energies of 2024? Take a breath. We are about to wrap up this year with all the bows, tinsel, and celebrations. It has been a really challeng…

How are you holding …

How are you holding up? Are you reeling with the turbulent energies of 2024? Take a breath. We are about to wrap up this year with all the bows, tinsel, and celebrations. It has been a really challenging year for so many of us. And with the Holidays here, it is important you give yourself a little space to ground, to refresh, to come into that peaceful place where your heart, mind, and soul embrace. Most of us don't do this. Especially as life gets busier. So....I am going to share some quick and powerful ways to help yourself calm that I use with my clients. Relax and Enjoy!   DEEP BREATHING…

  Anxiety   Let's cover a few 'not-so-common' reasons for anxiety spiking...   Like the intensity of it just doesn't always make sense. Well it doesn't. (At least not in the western medical perspec…

  Anxiety   Let's …

  Anxiety   Let's cover a few 'not-so-common' reasons for anxiety spiking...   Like the intensity of it just doesn't always make sense. Well it doesn't. (At least not in the western medical perspective anyway.) But that doesn't mean we shouldn't explore other ways of understanding anxiety... Which is what I want to do in today's newsletter. What else can cause anxiety to spike? Did you know that your body is like a magnet. Like LITERALLY!  Your right palm holds a positive charge and your left holds the negative. You can test this out - Just hold your hands in front of you facing each othe…

  So, you are wanting to be closer to your partner, but wanting a few creative ways to delight and cultivate intimacy? Let’s play!  Intimacy can be fun, passionate, healing, deep, and powerful. …

  So, you are wanti…

  So, you are wanting to be closer to your partner, but wanting a few creative ways to delight and cultivate intimacy? Let’s play!  Intimacy can be fun, passionate, healing, deep, and powerful.  Let’s start with physical intimacy.  1. Sit across from each other with your eyes closed. Reach out and simply touch hands. As you do, think, “I want to love you with me hands.” Explore this for a few minutes. Thank your partner. What did you feel? What were you aware of? Share with your partner with your eyes closed. Next release hands, open your eyes. Look into your partner’s eyes and…

  DIFFICULT PEOPLE   Dr Tomi Michell   Letting others have the last laugh it's not necessarily a sign of weakness. Have you ever met that special person, regardless of how logical you are, patien…

  DIFFICULT PEOPLE …

  DIFFICULT PEOPLE   Dr Tomi Michell   Letting others have the last laugh it's not necessarily a sign of weakness. Have you ever met that special person, regardless of how logical you are, patient and trying to explain why certain actions need to be taken on a certain project for the benefit of the team? Long-term, they still push back and fight you because they feel their way is the only way. Have you ever felt frustrated after you try to be accommodating, patient and a team player, but this person refuses to even acknowledge an ounce of reason; you are not alone? According to studies, 2…

  🌿 The Power of Paradox: Embracing Life's Contradictions 🌿 by TAlta Pardo Ricardo.   Have you ever felt like you're a walking contradiction? One moment you're craving connection, the next yo…

  🌿 The Power of…

  🌿 The Power of Paradox: Embracing Life's Contradictions 🌿 by TAlta Pardo Ricardo.   Have you ever felt like you're a walking contradiction? One moment you're craving connection, the next you're yearning for solitude. You want change, but you resist it. You seek certainty, yet you're drawn to the unknown.   If this sounds familiar, I've got good news: you're not confused. You're complex. And that complexity? It's where the real magic happens.   F. Scott Fitzgerald once said, "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and…

Addiction is not my specialty, but…. I watched an amazing TedX on Addiction which made me really think! Here’s the link.  ​https://fb.watch/uzdZwto6vp/?mibextid=6GsUZ4&fs=e&s=TIeQ9V​  I sen…

Addiction is not my …

Addiction is not my specialty, but…. I watched an amazing TedX on Addiction which made me really think! Here’s the link.  ​https://fb.watch/uzdZwto6vp/?mibextid=6GsUZ4&fs=e&s=TIeQ9V​  I sent it to my dear friend Michael Mints and this was his response: “Wow, Heather, what a thought-provoking piece! To me, it suggests that addiction might not just be about the substances itself, but rather a way for people to cope with their surroundings and experiences. When I think about it, most people turn to certain behaviors and/or substances as a response to stress, Trauma, or a lack of supp…

l have some exciting news to share! I entered my book Speaking With the Heart into 3 book competitions. And guess what? I just heard back from the second one, The Reader’s Favorite and I won the Bro…

l have some exciting…

l have some exciting news to share! I entered my book Speaking With the Heart into 3 book competitions. And guess what? I just heard back from the second one, The Reader’s Favorite and I won the Bronze Medal! Reader’s Favorite is one of the most recognized book reviewing organizations! I am thrilled!     Have you picked up your copy yet? Here’s the link! https://a.co/d/5s0kpQi  

Comparing yourself Do you do this? Do you know why? Are you trying to lift yourself up?Or are you hurting yourself? ​ Do you know that often we compare ourselves with others in the area where we fee…

Comparing yourself D…

Comparing yourself Do you do this? Do you know why? Are you trying to lift yourself up?Or are you hurting yourself? ​ Do you know that often we compare ourselves with others in the area where we feel most uncomfortable. And how do we do? Pretty horribly. As we compare our worst features with another’s gift. ​ Teens compare themselves to photoshopped models and athletes. Adults compare themselves with Instagram friends or neighbors. It’s all for show. How many followers do you have? How many likes? I was turned down from being in a summit because I didn’t have 4000 on my email list. Y…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE I received the highest compliment from a COO of a multi million dollar self made company. He said, “You have the highest emotional intelligence of anyone I know.” Since I wa…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGEN…

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE I received the highest compliment from a COO of a multi million dollar self made company. He said, “You have the highest emotional intelligence of anyone I know.” Since I was working with the key players of his board, I was even more delighted.​ What is Emotional Intelligence or (EI)? It is the critical space where emotions and our cognition meets. The amount of EI that we have determines our ability to perceive, demonstrate, and control our emotions with others to be able to communicate effectively. The higher our EI, the larger our capacity will be for resiliency…

God willing, tomorrow I am flying to Hawaii to see my son before he deploys. We have a physically easy week planned since my arm is still healing. And I can’t wait to see him, to go on a plane, to h…

God willing, tomorro…

God willing, tomorrow I am flying to Hawaii to see my son before he deploys. We have a physically easy week planned since my arm is still healing. And I can’t wait to see him, to go on a plane, to have a trip, to go into the ocean. My summer starts now. Yes a little late but I will make up for it in beauty.​We are hoping to go on a big white shark cage dive Snorkel Hanauma Bay Watch cliff divers Swim with turtles Go on a sunset catamaran Attend a luau Go to Mac’s new church Go on a beach clean-up to help the environment Tour the military base Melt into sunsets and rainbows �…

My dear friend Michael Mints writes beautifully. Enjoy his awareness and love.​ Week reflection ​​ As the week gracefully bows out, it's time to reflect on the path we've journeyed. Every step, …

My dear friend Micha…

My dear friend Michael Mints writes beautifully. Enjoy his awareness and love.​ Week reflection ​​ As the week gracefully bows out, it's time to reflect on the path we've journeyed. Every step, every challenge, every triumph has shaped us in ways we might not even comprehend. Pause for a moment. Breathe. Think back on the week. ​​What have you learned? What made you smile? What pushed you a little closer to your goals? Where did you labor? Where did you rest? When did you feel most loving? And when did you feel most loved?For me, this week has been a reminder of the incre…

I asked God in a Meditation, “How do I deepen my ability to love?”And He gave me the most glorious gift. He said: “It is you. You are the key to deepening in love. You are the receiv…

I asked God in a med…

I asked God in a meditation, “How do I deepen my ability to love?”And He gave me the most glorious gift. He said: “It is you. You are the key to deepening in love. You are the receiver and the giver. And the depth is up to you. There is no bottom or top to love. The beauty is the amount you receive depends upon your ability to create it, offer it, share it, receive it, become it. ​ Everything you seek in another is just a misunderstanding. Because everything you seek is already within you. All that you can give is through you. The channel. ​ You seek because you believe y…

We hear it all the time. You need to have a good mindset, a positive mindset, a Growth mindset, but what actually IS mindset? And why is it so important?​ Mindset is the set of beliefs that form …

We hear it all the t…

We hear it all the time. You need to have a good mindset, a positive mindset, a growth mindset, but what actually IS mindset? And why is it so important?​ Mindset is the set of beliefs that form how you view yourself, others, and the entire world around you. It influences pretty much everything from how you think, feel, and how you act. Mindset is the lens that you look out into the world and how you choose to see yourself. Mindset is how you perceive everything. And mindset impacts everything: your success, failure, pleasure, and dissatisfaction. Your mindset is possibly the biggest dete…

  There is no control issue until you say NO!!!! ​ Think about it, before then it’s an agreement. But once one of us says: “It has to be my way!” Now you are stuck. And in most arguments this…

  There is no contr…

  There is no control issue until you say NO!!!! ​ Think about it, before then it’s an agreement. But once one of us says: “It has to be my way!” Now you are stuck. And in most arguments this is where we get caught. ​​ “You don’t care about me!” “Well, you don’t care about me!”So let’s take a look at CONTROL ​ What do we really have control over? Another? Hardly. ​ Just ourselves. Our thoughts, our beliefs, our words, and our actions. Our reactions! ​ So if you say it has to be your way, what can I say?Ok, since I have no say. This doesn’t real…