In this episode of the EZ Conversations podcast, listeners can dive into the multifaceted life of Aidan Gabor, who shares his incredible transformation from a crime-ridden past to finding solace and purpose through the Baha’i Faith. Aidan recounts growing up in a violent crime family, working with the DOJ to take down corrupt officials, and facing profound psychological impacts due to his upbringing. His story explores themes of intergenerational Trauma, the struggle with empathy, and the battle between loyalty and justice as he worked as an undercover informant. Personal anecdotes highlight his journey through violence, spiritual awakening, and redemption. The narrative also sheds light on the broader implications of trauma in military and law enforcement careers, the importance of spiritual insight, and the quest for global unity. This gripping testimony offers a compelling look at human resilience and the possibility of transformation despite a dark past.

Aiden Gabor is a former associate of a well-known crime family. He worked undercover for over a decade as a confidential informant for the Department of Justice, serving as a police officer in undisclosed locations. He is responsible for helping the DOJ arrest and convict more than a dozen high-ranking police officers and politicians. He has written one of the best books about the mob and now has found peace in the Baha’i faith.

In 2020, Aiden was diagnosed with ALS.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Background

01:45 Early Life and Family Ties

02:50 Childhood Lessons and Early Involvement

04:19 Teenage Years and Rising Through the Ranks

06:52 Violence and Lack of Empathy

10:03 Intergenerational Trauma

10:35 Marriage and Family Challenges

14:58 Transition to Law Enforcement

16:52 Becoming an Informant

22:00 Undercover Operations

29:14 Unexpected FBI Raid

31:26 The Blue Line and Its Consequences

31:48 Struggles with Alcohol and Hallucinations

32:17 Facing Suicidal Thoughts

33:23 Taking Down Corrupt Officials

35:03 Conflicting Loyalties and Personal Turmoil

37:02 Understanding Trauma in Law Enforcement

43:31 Spiritual Awakening and the Baha’i Faith

56:52 Final Reflections and Advice

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I am a men's coach, therapist, group facilitator, podcaster and author. My journey began five years ago when I was going through a separation. I found myself alone and in a shame spiral that our culture and society covertly exert on people due to the perceived "failure" of a marriage. Unfortunately, I personalized that message which led me to fall deeper into a hole, causing me to surround myself with people that did not serve me and engage in substance abuse. While seeking therapy, I was not making the wholesale changes I needed.

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I thought I was giving something back when I started the men's group. However, I quickly realized I was getting substantially more from the connections I built than I initially anticipated. It was also something I needed because I was going through another breakup.

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