In this episode, Matt shares his journey from accidental entrepreneurship in 2017 to the discovery and healing of deep-seated childhood trauma. Struggling with anxiety and stress and even experiencing panic attacks, Matt sought help and uncovered unresolved issues from his past that affected his self-worth. Despite growing his business to a million-dollar venture annually, he speaks about the struggles he faced growing up, including his contentious relationship with his father, being forced into sports, and feeling out of place due to his sensitivity and sexuality. Matt’s story emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one’s worth, the pitfalls of living from a place of scarcity, and the ongoing journey of growth and healing.

Matt is more than just an entrepreneur and author—he’s a conqueror of challenges and a beacon of personal transformation. With an unwavering belief in the inherent wisdom within each of us, he guides his clients to unearth their inner strength and conquer the barriers blocking their path to success. Matt’s scaled his business to generate an impressive $1M in annual revenue, and he works one-on-one with high-achievers who grapple with self-doubt, illuminating the truth that there’s nothing inherently flawed within them and empowering them to embrace their true selves, enabling them to pursue their passions and aspirations with confidence and purpose.

You can find Matt online: mattgerlach.com

Timestamps:

03:22 Introduction and Greetings

03:54 Matt’s Entrepreneurial Journey

04:32 Struggles with Anxiety and Health

05:49 Discovering Childhood Trauma

06:40 Healing and Business Success

07:29 Understanding Self-Worth

08:52 Childhood Challenges and Identity

19:00 Relationship with Parents

20:11 Financial Lessons and Scarcity Mindset

25:56 Acceptance and Moving Forward

30:44 The Burden of Unspoken Feelings

31:32 The Journey of Forgiveness

32:28 Reflections on Childhood and Parental Expectations

34:37 Coming Out and Acceptance

36:39 Navigating Identity and Relationships

42:17 Parenting and Future Aspirations

48:28 The Importance of Respect and Apology

55:07 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Furkhan Dandia Therapist and Coach

I am a men's coach, therapist, group facilitator, podcaster and author. My journey began five years ago when I was going through a separation. I found myself alone and in a shame spiral that our culture and society covertly exert on people due to the perceived "failure" of a marriage. Unfortunately, I personalized that message which led me to fall deeper into a hole, causing me to surround myself with people that did not serve me and engage in substance abuse. While seeking therapy, I was not making the wholesale changes I needed.

As part of my experience with therapy, I realized that I am not alone in the challenges men my age experience (I separated at the age of 34/35). I realized I could be a voice for men like myself and offer support in this space. In the middle of the pandemic, I applied for a Master's degree in Psychology to become a therapist. This change was a significant shift for me as I worked in the corporate world as an engineer. Once I leaned into the space of supporting other men, I also started a podcast to normalize these difficult conversations and started a men's group a year later with the support of a friend.

I thought I was giving something back when I started the men's group. However, I quickly realized I was getting substantially more from the connections I built than I initially anticipated. It was also something I needed because I was going through another breakup.

At that point, I also realized that I had not taken the time to heal, and I was outsourcing my healing through romantic relationships, substances, material acquisitions and superficial relationships. I decided to step away from the outgoing lifestyle and started to focus on my healing which was another phase of evolution for me on my journey. Over the last year and a half, I have become mindful of the people I spend my time with. I have cleaned my lifestyle of substances, toxic environments and behaviours. I have focused on my sleep, my health and my knowledge. I have improved my spiritual relationship with myself, which was lacking the most over the past five years. This is the best I have felt.

As part of my solitude journey and to find myself again, I also released a book encapsulating my journey, which I hope to share with others. My book is titled: The Pursuit of Self-Love.