Imagine You Have Everything You Ever Wanted (what would you do next?)
If Your Dream Came True
What would you if you realize you have everything you want?
You achieved what you wanted to achieve, but the things she wanted to buy, Travel to the places you wanted to travel and help the kids and grandkids move forward with their lives.
I can’t imagine a time such as this because I think there’s always something I want to do that’s bigger and has more impact than the things I’ve done already.
How much is enough?
The question plagues me; Am I doing enough?
Do you enjoy hunting bargains? When you drive by an Estate sale do you check it out? you noticed people collect the most random shit in the world?
I think, am I collecting like that? At the end of my life, will the things I’ve collected be sold for pennies on the dollar in some random estate sale? I vow to change. My current commitment is to get rid of four things for every one I buy. In time I shall have very little crap. I laugh at my thinking because ‘crap’ is defined by the eyes of the beholder. Right?
People You’ve touched
The things that are not crap are how you’ve impacted people, the classes you’ve taught, Coaching, and caretaking. A few months ago one of my clients said, “Remember that talk you gave to our group about tolerations in 2012? I still have the index card you had us fill out. I keep working at it.” Do you wonder about your impact on the world?
If I seem to be in a retrospective mood it’s because I fell and hurt myself. I fell backward off the deck, put my hand down to catch myself, and ended with a broken wrist.
Dreams Achieved
Back to the original question of what are you to do when you’ve done everything you set out to achieve?
Aren’t achievements milestones that mark the way to something bigger and grander than you have ever dreamed before?
We can dream new and bigger dreams for the world!
A new dream emerges. It springs from classes I teach on financial coaching for women, especially widows. Do you know most widows have no defenses when someone asks them for Money? Most don”t understand the long-term impact on their financial well-being if they give money away.
There are countless stories about women and men falling prey to scammers. The more pervasive way women, especially widows, lose money is when the family pressures widows to ‘help.’
Where is the line drawn? Can a woman/widow learn to say no? How can she be comfortable saying no to her family members who ask for money?
It’s nearly impossible for most people to say no to their son or daughter, grandson or granddaughter, claiming an urgent need. Love can be a weapon. A person feels like there won’t be any love if they say no. (This is a lie.).
There are two sides to that coin. One is if you give money to a family member are you robbing them of their journey of learning their life lesson
The secondary and more important concern is by giving away money are you robbing your future well-being? What if you don’t have enough money to pay for medical care or to move into a Retirement home if you want
There is an art and science of giving money away. That’s why you need a financial coach or a financial advisor or someone who can help you figure out how much money you will need for the rest of your life before you start handing out money to family members.
How could I launch a movement to protect women, especially widows from financial harm
If you’re a professional and your clients run into this there is one thing you can do for them and that is to teach them to say this magic phrase when anyone asks for money:
“Put your request in writing and I’ll review it with my financial advisor and we will let you know.“
This phrase is the ultimate safeguard to help clients deal with family members who ask for money. The client never has to say no.
When clients, especially widows, understand giving away their money will put their financial well-being in jeopardy it’s easier to learn this strategy.
If a family member becomes angry because they don’t get the money they want the client would refer that child or grandchild to the financial advisor to explain the truth about matters.
As financial coaches, we are to stand for our clients.
We are to be a shield and safeguard for our client’s well-being. If we cannot, what good are we?
What’s your thought about this idea?
Originally Published on https://www.claimingfreedom.com
