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Most of my clients don’t come to me to explore their relationship with alcohol but almost all of them eventually bring it up. This makes sense. In every case, the issue that initiates our coaching a…
Most of my clients d…
Most of my clients don’t come to me to explore their relationship with alcohol but almost all of them eventually bring it up. This makes sense. In every case, the issue that initiates our coaching arrangement is merely the doorway to something deeper. Getting to the topic of alcohol means they’re ready to unleash more of their true self and deepest desires into the world. Alcohol has a light and dark side as you know. One drink can relax you into a lower level of consciousness where you can escape the external world or get connected with parts of you that want to come out and play. On t…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
September 17, 2024 
In this episode, I share how I explored and found meaning in four dreams representing pivotal points in my midlife unraveling and reconstruction.It all started in 2013 when I journaled, "I can't …
In this episode, I s…
In this episode, I share how I explored and found meaning in four dreams representing pivotal points in my midlife unraveling and reconstruction.It all started in 2013 when I journaled, "I can't live this way anymore." Then Hermes the Trickster showed up seducing me with the promise that pursuing an MA/PhD in depth psychology would save my Soul. C.G. Jung became my spiritual teacher. In a three-act play, you can consider these dreams occurring in Acts one and two; Act Three is still unfolding. I cover concepts like recurring dreams, embodied dreams, evolving dream symbolism, fantasies, im…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
September 9, 2024 
This guided Meditation will help you explore anger and discover what it wants from you. Emotions are one way our unconscious tries to get us to explore something, turn it into an insight that would be…
This guided meditati…
This guided meditation will help you explore anger and discover what it wants from you. Emotions are one way our unconscious tries to get us to explore something, turn it into an insight that would be useful right now, and prompt us to unfold into a future version of ourselves. The idea for this guided meditation came from my work with a couple who wanted to increase intimacy in their relationship. After a joint session where things were shared that hadn't been shared before, individual follow-up sessions revealed some old anger and resentment that was sure to interfere with their desire …
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
September 5, 2024 
My former husband and I tried to save our marriage in our own way. When was the beginning of the end? After twenty years, the role of alcohol couldn’t be ignored anymore.He said he was “working…
My former husband an…
My former husband and I tried to save our marriage in our own way. When was the beginning of the end? After twenty years, the role of alcohol couldn’t be ignored anymore.He said he was “working on” his drinking, but that turned out to be a lie. He agreed that I could attend a Therapy session with his therapist who was an expert in addiction. The shocked look on the therapist’s face confirmed that my charismatic husband had been lying about the seriousness of his relationship with alcohol. We both liked one couple’s counselor who was certified to address addiction, but she got a…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
September 4, 2024 
In this episode, I read a recent blog post: Freaking Hermes! How Your Unconscious Tortures You into Action. “Freaking Hermes!” This is how one of my clients started a recent session. I laughed …
In this episode, I r…
In this episode, I read a recent blog post: Freaking Hermes! How Your Unconscious Tortures You into Action. “Freaking Hermes!” This is how one of my clients started a recent session. I laughed and told him this was a very good thing. He didn’t like that answer, but by the end of the session, he was ready to have a difficult and honest conversation with his wife.Who is this Hermes character?The Greek god Hermes, known as a guide of souls, shows up when he’s had enough denial of the truth of your situation. He gets tired of your refusal to take actins to allow your true self to exist…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
August 30, 2024 
“Freaking Hermes!”This is how one of my clients started a recent session. I laughed and told him this was a very good thing.He didn’t like that answer, but by the end of the session he was…
“Freaking Hermes!…
“Freaking Hermes!”This is how one of my clients started a recent session. I laughed and told him this was a very good thing.He didn’t like that answer, but by the end of the session he was ready to have a difficult and honest conversation with his wife. There was more urgency about completing this task since we had explored a dream during our last session. The dream: My father collapsed onto the floor. "Go get the defibrillator and call 911!" I screamed. I was able to revive my father. Then, he collapsed. I revived him again with the machine. Then, he collapsed again. How …
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
August 25, 2024 
Jenn Wodtke is back for a chat about Touchless Orgasm, which she describes as a revolutionary shift in how women can experience pleasure. Instead of relying on external stimulation—hands, a toy, a p…
Jenn Wodtke is back …
Jenn Wodtke is back for a chat about Touchless Orgasm, which she describes as a revolutionary shift in how women can experience pleasure. Instead of relying on external stimulation—hands, a toy, a partner, erotic novels—touchless orgasm allows you to find the pleasure that is already inside you.Start by learning Jenn's three keys for touchless orgasm.There was a time when the union between the feminine and masculine as manifested in sexual union was celebrated as sacred. There was a time when the feminine was seen and experienced as the path to the spiritual realm. Then patriarchal fo…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
August 24, 2024 
I’m always excited to have a meaningful chat on Dose of Depth, but there’s extra excitement when our chat clashes with current events.A lot has happened in the last week, but the inspiration fo…
I’m always excited…
I’m always excited to have a meaningful chat on Dose of Depth, but there’s extra excitement when our chat clashes with current events.A lot has happened in the last week, but the inspiration for this chat came from watching one of Dr. Craig Chalquist's TikTok videos that he put out after the Republican National Convention had ended. To go viral is of course relative, but for someone who typically gets 300-600 views, getting 147,000 is definitely going viral. Dr. Craig Chalquist is a former psychotherapist and the current Academic Program Director of Consciousness, Psychology, a…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
July 29, 2024 
I'm super excited to share this very timely episode, my chat with depth psychology colleague and friend, Dr. Craig Chalquist, former psychotherapist and current Academic Program Director of Consc…
I'm super excit…
I'm super excited to share this very timely episode, my chat with depth psychology colleague and friend, Dr. Craig Chalquist, former psychotherapist and current Academic Program Director of Consciousness, Psychology, and Transformation at National University. Congratulations to Craig for recently securing his second PhD in philosophy and religion. I will do a follow-up blog post that includes lots of links. Click here to subscribe to get notifications.This episode is for: Survivors of domestic abuse who are feeling re-traumatized by the current political situation. You're NOT crazy!P…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
July 28, 2024 
In this episode I read a blog post that I wrote after reflecting on a few chats with male clients over the past few months. Click here to read the post. Some of those men were conscious of an inner ba…
In this episode I re…
In this episode I read a blog post that I wrote after reflecting on a few chats with male clients over the past few months. Click here to read the post. Some of those men were conscious of an inner battle between their feminine and masculine that was holding them back in some way from fully expressing their creativity. For other male clients, this battle involved their sense of identity and exploration of gender and sexual orientation. What arouses us has deeper meaning than we realize, but our mind jumps in and filters out anything that it perceives to be a threat to existing belief systems. …
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
July 14, 2024 
Over the past few years we have gotten a chance to learn about the psychological concept of projection. In fact, the term projection is no longer adequate to capture the climax of intolerance that has…
Over the past few ye…
Over the past few years we have gotten a chance to learn about the psychological concept of projection. In fact, the term projection is no longer adequate to capture the climax of intolerance that has been unleashed from the collective shadow.We cannot get away from projection. We all do it. It's how we relate and become aware of ourselves. The problem is a lack of consciousness of this fact. The moment you think you're not projecting, you've just confessed that you're doing it. If you don't think you project, just ask your friends and family to identify what you&ap…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
July 13, 2024 
Are You a Peace Builder?What does that even mean? There are those who label themselves as the peace maker of the family, for example, but what is their unconscious motivation for playing the role o…
Are You a Peace Buil…
Are You a Peace Builder?What does that even mean? There are those who label themselves as the peace maker of the family, for example, but what is their unconscious motivation for playing the role of peace maker? Are they really engaged in peace building or are their efforts to quell discontent motivated by discomfort with conflict, a way to avoid the process of finding the deeper insights hiding in the conflict?My friend Sher Griffin, Founder of The Compassion Collective, offers this formal definition of peace building:"Peacebuilding refers to efforts aimed at creating sustainable peac…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
June 17, 2024 
You might be a natural peace builder and not even know it!In this episode, I’m excited to do something different with someone I’ve already had on Dose of Depth. Click here to listen to my previous…
You might be a natur…
You might be a natural peace builder and not even know it!In this episode, I’m excited to do something different with someone I’ve already had on Dose of Depth. Click here to listen to my previous chat with Sher Griffin titled: Misfits to the Rescue: The Intersection of Autism, Giftedness & ADHD.Sher embraces her uniqueness as someone with a recently discovered neurotype intersection of autism, giftedness, and ADHD. She’s passionate about transformative social change and the intricacies of liberation psychology. She is also the visionary founder and co-creator of The Compassion Col…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
June 16, 2024 
My new friend Jenn Wodtke and I have a conversation about pleasure. I come at the topic from the symbolic perspective and Jenn brings a more practical and literal lens to the topic. I share some inter…
My new friend Jenn W…
My new friend Jenn Wodtke and I have a conversation about pleasure. I come at the topic from the symbolic perspective and Jenn brings a more practical and literal lens to the topic. I share some interesting personal stories too. You'll love our unique takes on sexual fantasies and the problem of sacralizing suffering over pleasure. Jenn Wodtke is a pleasure and orgasm coach. You can learn more and schedule a free chat on her website: https://jennwodtke.com Blog post: What If You're Not Supposed to Find the ONE?Blog post: When is Sexual Attraction Not About Sex?Blog post: Sex, God &am…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
May 31, 2024 
The overarching task right now is the reconciliation of the oldest wound of humanity, which is patriarchy. This wound manifests in very devious ways and once you get beyond the limiting notion that pa…
The overarching task…
The overarching task right now is the reconciliation of the oldest wound of humanity, which is patriarchy. This wound manifests in very devious ways and once you get beyond the limiting notion that patriarchy is only about men and women, you’ll see that it underlies everywhere there's a power imbalance. Patriarchy is not as much about women and men as a dynamic underpinning almost all the systems in which we live that rely on hierarchy and ranking, which is reinforced through different forms of violence, including economic, bodily, and environmental. Patriarchal systems over value…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
May 26, 2024 
In this episode, I’m excited to have a chat with William Diplock, Senior Trainer and Program Coordinator for Gender Equity & Reconciliation International, in Brisbane, Australia. William is a S…
In this episode, I…
In this episode, I’m excited to have a chat with William Diplock, Senior Trainer and Program Coordinator for Gender Equity & Reconciliation International, in Brisbane, Australia. William is a Senior GERI Trainer and Program Coordinator for GERI, in Brisbane, Australia. GERI stands for Gender Equity & Reconciliation International. I will include a link to my interview with its founders. And William is one of the 16 contributors to the book, Gender Equity & Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family. You could say that the overarching task o…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
May 22, 2024 
Free to Be You and MeHow often do you feel free to be the real you? Do you even know what it looks and feels like to walk around being the real you? Are you so used to shape shifting from one person…
Free to Be You and M…
Free to Be You and MeHow often do you feel free to be the real you? Do you even know what it looks and feels like to walk around being the real you? Are you so used to shape shifting from one persona to another to meet the expectations of all the different roles you play in your life that you've lost touch with that eternal inner child part of you?What's the cost of walking around not being you most of the time? Are you so used to adapting to the world around you, you've lost touch with the real you? Maybe you've never known the real you and now you can't stand it…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
May 11, 2024 
In this episode, I’m excited to have a chat with Marc Bènèteau about relational Intelligence, authentic relating, circling, and Marc’s honest telling of the end to his “40-year war against him…
In this episode, I…
In this episode, I’m excited to have a chat with Marc Bènèteau about relational Intelligence, authentic relating, circling, and Marc’s honest telling of the end to his “40-year war against himself and the world.” He is the author of four books covering various topics in Relational Intelligence, Emotional Communication, sexuality, and human potentials. Learn more about Marco at his website.Marc is a self-described “love revolutionary” and former “relational idiot” which, according to him, is not a bad qualification for the job of being a relational leader. His recent boo…
Deborah Lukovich, PhD
May 11, 2024 
