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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the saddest consequences of divorce for parents is the alone time when your children are visiting their other parent. While short-term periods can be a welcome respite …

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the saddest consequences of divorce for parents is the alone time when your children are visiting their other parent. While short-term periods can be a welcome respite for an overscheduled single parent, that’s not always the case. For many co-parents, the intervals between seeing the children can be long and lonely. This is especially so during the holiday season. And even more challenging when friends and neighbors are busy with their own family gatherings. It’s really important for parents who are alone during the winter holidays to get creative and absor…

Co-parenting can feel impossible when one parent consistently misuses alcohol. It’s essential to create an environment that prioritizes the child’s well-being while reducing Stress and miscommunic…

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Co-parenting can feel impossible when one parent consistently misuses alcohol. It’s essential to create an environment that prioritizes the child’s well-being while reducing stress and miscommunication between parents. When done correctly, co-parenting can provide children with a sense of stability and safety, even in the most challenging circumstances. Establishing Boundaries and Expectations One of the most effective strategies in high-conflict co-parenting situations is establishing clear boundaries and expectations. Set specific rules regarding alcohol use around the child, as well as …

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Following divorce, most parents are eager to see their children as frequently as possible. Often this desire results in heated battles in or out of court focused on custody is…

By Rosalind Sedacca,…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Following divorce, most parents are eager to see their children as frequently as possible. Often this desire results in heated battles in or out of court focused on custody issues.   In many cases, co-parenting is the ideal option. A parenting plan is set into place and the children are moved between two homes giving them continued access to both parents.   In many cases, parents may not want to "share" the children. However, they often realize this is in their child's best interest, and therefore come up with an arrangement they can live with. In families that don…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most everyone is emotionally impacted by divorce. The psychological toll can be even more dramatic when children are involved. There’s little doubt that a relationship break…

By Rosalind Sedacca,…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most everyone is emotionally impacted by divorce. The psychological toll can be even more dramatic when children are involved. There’s little doubt that a relationship breakup ramps up stress for both partners. However, several factors seem to indicate that divorce may be even more challenging for men than for women. Here are four reasons why divorce stress can take a greater toll on men:   He’s more likely to be blindsided by the divorce In general, women are the first to initiate or file for a divorce. This seemingly sudden announcement often comes after she sp…

Cooperative co-parenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Whether you got divorced several weeks ago or it's been several years, most of us can acknowledge that we've made some mistakes. Per…

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Cooperative co-parenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Whether you got divorced several weeks ago or it's been several years, most of us can acknowledge that we've made some mistakes. Perhaps we lost our tempers at an inappropriate time and watched our children painfully internalize the experience. Maybe we referred to our ex in a rather unflattering way, making our child very upset and storming away in anger. Chances are, in the heat of the divorce drama, we settled for a decision or two that we later regretted and still feel guilty. Or we made a child-related agreement that, in …

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce creates havoc in any family’s life, especially when children are involved – even adult children. Moving on after divorce can also be challenging. It’…

By Rosalind Sedacca,…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce creates havoc in any family’s life, especially when children are involved – even adult children. Moving on after divorce can also be challenging. It’s a time to be very gentle, both with yourself as well as with your children. Chances are, you made a considerable emotional investment in your marriage. Having seen that relationship fail can make you insecure about facing new relationships ahead. So take the time to go within. Learn from your mistakes -- we've all made them. Understand the lessons from your marriage. Determine new ways to approa…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC How do you know your kids are managing well after your divorce? As a divorced parent you owe it to your children to diligently watch their behavior. And listen to their conver…

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC How do you know your kids are managing well after your divorce? As a divorced parent you owe it to your children to diligently watch their behavior. And listen to their conversations. In addition, to be aware of any changes that may be due to challenges related to the divorce. Children can adapt well to life after divorce. But it’s up to you to catch signs they may be confused, anxious, insecure or in other ways having problems coping with their new reality. Here are 5 vitally important ways to know your children are doing well, and thriving, despite your divorce: Th…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Children have a difficult time understanding what your anger means.  They may experience shock, disbelief, fear, guilt, Grief, confusion, shame and outrage by your aggressive…

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Children have a difficult time understanding what your anger means.  They may experience shock, disbelief, fear, guilt, grief, confusion, shame and outrage by your aggressive tendencies.  Observe how your behavior is affecting the children in your home and realize that you are a major role model for them. It is very likely that your children will grow to imitate your behavior and reactions – even if they disapprove of it at this time. Adults are responsible for helping children learn appropriate behaviors and coping skills.  Without positive guidance children may …

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Many caring parents I speak to admit to feeling tremendous guilt during and after their divorce. It's easy to understand why. Parents who are aware of the emotional toll a sep…

By Rosalind Sedacca,…

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Many caring parents I speak to admit to feeling tremendous guilt during and after their divorce. It's easy to understand why. Parents who are aware of the emotional toll a separation or divorce can take on their children often feel torn about whether they made the right decision. Asking relevant questions can be healthy! Are they being selfish in moving ahead with the divorce? Will this experience psychologically scar their children for life? Will the kids ever forgive them - or their other parent - for initiating the divorce? Are they making the right decisions regard…

Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating after divorce as a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. When you’re a parent you can’t forget the child i…

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Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating after divorce as a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. When you’re a parent you can’t forget the child in your life, much as you may want to when out in the dating world. Parenting is a life-long responsibility. It doesn’t matter whether your child is with you full-time or you have a shared visitation schedule. Either way, it’s crucial that you approach being single with the awareness that you are also parent. And that should influence all of your social and relationship decisions. Because your …

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  One of the toughest conversations any parent will ever have is breaking the divorce news to your children. Regardless of their age, kids are emotionally impacted in so many …

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  One of the toughest conversations any parent will ever have is breaking the divorce news to your children. Regardless of their age, kids are emotionally impacted in so many painful ways. It’s a subject that’s heartbreaking to discuss, frightening to digest, and overwhelming to think about for parents and children alike. That’s why I wrote How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Protecting Your Children – With Love! It conveys my internationally acclaimed strategy combining photos, parental support and communication principles t…

The Divorce/Separation Path By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most all Mental Health practitioners consider forgiveness to be a major step forward in coping with life's harshest experiences. Divorce certainly …

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The Divorce/Separation Path By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most all mental health practitioners consider forgiveness to be a major step forward in coping with life's harshest experiences. Divorce certainly fits into that category. It's important to explore the value of forgiving yourself for anything related to your past relationships and the divorce. In that way you can benefit from learning lessons that life gives us for personal Growth Self-Forgiveness is a Healthy Personal Choice! Forgiveness starts by making a decision to forgive.  That decision frees you to let go of the old hurts. You give y…

Grandparents - grandchildren - affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When parents divorce, each member of the family is affected in unique and personal ways. This is influenced by the age of th…

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Grandparents - grandchildren - affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When parents divorce, each member of the family is affected in unique and personal ways. This is influenced by the age of the child, their gender and their relationship with their siblings. Equally important is how close they were to each parent. Many other factors impact the physical, mental and emotional repercussions in the months and years ahead. One that's too often overlooked are the grandparents. Their lives can be forever changed and scarred by the complexities of divorce.  Custody issues are hard enough for p…