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Listening with Your Third Ear Active listening, compassionate listening, listening to understand, deep listening, divine listening. I have used all these expressions when explaining to students and …
Listening with Your …
Listening with Your Third Ear Active listening, compassionate listening, listening to understand, deep listening, divine listening. I have used all these expressions when explaining to students and clients how powerful listening can be for effective conflict transformation. And I use these concepts to help me listen more deeply and effectively to my own clients. I am particularly charmed by this term, listening with the third ear, because it evokes listening with intuitive awareness beyond the physical, of deeply understanding what isn’t said. In psychic circles, practitioners talk frequ…
Lorraine Segal
December 14, 2024 
Fifteen Years of Conflict Remedy This month, November 2024, I have been writing and publishing my blog for fifteen years. I’m amazed I have kept it up all these years, but time truly does go quickly…
Fifteen Years of Con…
Fifteen Years of Conflict Remedy This month, November 2024, I have been writing and publishing my blog for fifteen years. I’m amazed I have kept it up all these years, but time truly does go quickly when you’re having fun! I’ve been reflecting on this achievement, and I decided, as a whimsical celebration, to interview myself about it all. Conflict Remedy: So, you’ve been writing your blog for fifteen years now. What does that milestone mean to you? Lorraine Segal: Gosh, it really means a lot. Fifteen years ago in June, I escaped from my horrifically toxic workplace and started my own …
Lorraine Segal
November 17, 2024 Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash What Do Small Business Owners Need to Understand about Conflict? I have worked with a number of leaders and teams in small businesses. They, like bigger businesses an…
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Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash What Do Small Business Owners Need to Understand about Conflict? I have worked with a number of leaders and teams in small businesses. They, like bigger businesses and organizations, sometimes need help to navigate conflict and communicate effectively. Every business is unique, with its own set of strengths and challenges, but over time I have found some commonalities in conflict related mistakes small business owners make and what changes they can make, with help and support, to ensure they flourish over the long term. Here are some suggestions my clients hav…
Lorraine Segal
October 14, 2024 
Photo by Mikhail Nilov: https://www.pexels.com/ How to Make Every Mistake in a Conflict I read a letter in Dear Abby the other day which demonstrated a lot of the basic mistakes people make in a confl…
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Photo by Mikhail Nilov: https://www.pexels.com/ How to Make Every Mistake in a Conflict I read a letter in Dear Abby the other day which demonstrated a lot of the basic mistakes people make in a conflict. This one was about family dynamics, but the analysis and solution apply to many workplace situations as well. Dear Abby suggested family Therapy, airing grievances and reaching an agreement, all of which could be helpful. But I want to offer a more nuanced conflict transformation perspective. The situation, as explained in her letter by the mother: The father drops in on his son and fiancée …
Lorraine Segal
September 16, 2024 
Photo by Michelle Cassar on Unsplash Use your super power to transform conflict. When you envision a super power, what comes to mind first? My wonderful niece, who loves science fiction and fantasy ju…
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Photo by Michelle Cassar on Unsplash Use your super power to transform conflict. When you envision a super power, what comes to mind first? My wonderful niece, who loves science fiction and fantasy just as much as I do, pointed out to me that the superpowers featured in movies and comics are frequently about making you a better fighter. But, she continued, that subset is extremely limited compared to the full range of super powers we could imagine. Since my work is all about peaceful conflict transformation, I was intrigued and curious to hear more. She introduced me to an impressive, lengthy …
Lorraine Segal
August 19, 2024 
Photo by Antoni Shkraba: How To Transform Conflict at Work: One Example I just got concrete confirmation that the training and coaching I do to help leaders and others manage conflict more effectively…
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Photo by Antoni Shkraba: How To Transform Conflict at Work: One Example I just got concrete confirmation that the training and coaching I do to help leaders and others manage conflict more effectively actually works! Last year, I created a 10 hour five session training program for the staff of a California state agency. The executive director, with whom I’d been doing leadership coaching, was deeply concerned about the agency’s overall conflict competence. Every year the agency staff filled out a self-assessment, their annual “climate” survey, about how the agency was doing on a variet…
Lorraine Segal
July 15, 2024 
Mobbing and the Tallest Poppy: How Women’s Achievements at Work Are Cut Down.
Mobbing and the Tall…
Mobbing and the Tallest Poppy: How Women’s Achievements at Work Are Cut Down.
Lorraine Segal
November 20, 2023 
