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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/angelo-santiago/. How can men be better husbands and partners? Our guest in this episode is Angelo Santiago, a Marriage and Relationship C…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/angelo-santiago/. How can men be better husbands and partners? Our guest in this episode is Angelo Santiago, a Marriage and Relationship Coach with a specialization in helping men become better husbands. Angelo had me (Bruce) on his podcast, “Better Husband,” and we were delighted to return the favor. Angelo’s website is https://www.angelosantiago.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our ho…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/quits-in-40-year-marriage/. A listener question prompted this episode: “Fred” wrote to us asking how to know when to end a 40-year mar…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/quits-in-40-year-marriage/. A listener question prompted this episode: “Fred” wrote to us asking how to know when to end a 40-year marriage. Judy and I talk about this dilemma from several angles. How do couples get to that point after so many years of relative stability? What’s the role of intimacy in a couple? Are there ethical issues to consider? Let us know what you think. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s news…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jonathon-aslay/. Our guest in this episode, Jonathon Aslay, is a relationship coach who works especially with people (most often women, bu…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jonathon-aslay/. Our guest in this episode, Jonathon Aslay, is a relationship coach who works especially with people (most often women, but some men) in mid-life. We talk about the particular issues that arise for people at that stage of life, and how Jonathon helps them navigate them. It’s a lively discussion—we had fun! Jonathon’s website is https://www.jonathonaslay.com/. His YouTube channel is https://www.youtube.com/@JonathonAslay. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/brian-hite/. Our guest in this episode, Brian Hite, has quite the blend of experiences to offer: he’s a Hollywood stuntman with over 100…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/brian-hite/. Our guest in this episode, Brian Hite, has quite the blend of experiences to offer: he’s a Hollywood stuntman with over 100 credits, a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology, and a sports performance coach. In his speeches and trainings, Brian challenges some conventional assumptions about pressure, motivation, and performance. And his energy is contagious—check out this episode and see if your own level of motivation kicks up a notch! Brian’s website is https://www.brianhiteglobal.com/. Do you have ideas for topics o…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jenn-kennedy/. What are some of the issues that come up for older adults in sex therapy? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy, tell…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jenn-kennedy/. What are some of the issues that come up for older adults in sex therapy? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy, tells us how  she helps older couples navigate the changes and challenges of maintaining and improving their sexual connection. Dr. Kennedy’s website is https://pleasureproject.us/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Eroti…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/kelly-ghweinem/. Many therapists who work with couples are uncomfortable talking about sex with their clients—and therefore miss the opp…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/kelly-ghweinem/. Many therapists who work with couples are uncomfortable talking about sex with their clients—and therefore miss the opportunity to help them deal with those issues. Our guest in this episode, Kelly Ghweinem, tells us about how she helps couples with sexual issues, and how she and her colleague train therapists to equip them with the skills they need to help their clients more effectively with sexual issues. Kelly’s website is https://www.eroticacademy.net/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast?…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/laurel-roberts-meese/. LGBT couples and straight couples share many of the same issues, but there are also some characteristic differences…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/laurel-roberts-meese/. LGBT couples and straight couples share many of the same issues, but there are also some characteristic differences. And our guest in this episode, Laurel Roberts-Meese, tells us not only about those differences, but about ways straight couples (and their therapists) can learn from LGBT couples. Laurel’s website is https://www.laureltherapy.net/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/mr-jay/. Why is recovering from betrayal so difficult? Our guest in this episode, Mr. Jay, talks about what betrayal Trauma is, why it’s…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/mr-jay/. Why is recovering from betrayal so difficult? Our guest in this episode, Mr. Jay, talks about what betrayal trauma is, why it’s different from other kinds of trauma, and how he helps couples recover from it. Mr. Jay’s website is https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. …

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/no-good-cheating-jerk/. We’ve been getting a lot of reaction to my book Betrayal and Forgiveness. One of the common ones has been people…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/no-good-cheating-jerk/. We’ve been getting a lot of reaction to my book Betrayal and Forgiveness. One of the common ones has been people expressing a combination of doubt and horror at the idea that someone who betrayed you was, in some way, doing the best they could. So we talk about that and related ideas. Along the way, Judy and I talk about what happened to our son Eli, who was seriously injured in a freak climbing accident. We weren’t planning on talking about it, but it came up in the context of forgiving God when betrayal…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/bev-mitelman/. What is attachment style, and why is knowing your own attachment style important in a relationship? Our guest in this episo…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/bev-mitelman/. What is attachment style, and why is knowing your own attachment style important in a relationship? Our guest in this episode is Bev Mitelman, a Certified Attachment Practitioner, who helps her clients understand their attachment styles and helps them in their journey toward a secure attachment style that facilitates better relationships. Bev’s website is https://securelyloved.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr.…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/steven-radowitz/. Our guest in this episode is Dr. Steven Radowitz, who is the Chief Medical Officer of a program that uses ketamine and o…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/steven-radowitz/. Our guest in this episode is Dr. Steven Radowitz, who is the Chief Medical Officer of a program that uses ketamine and other psychedelic therapies to treat a wide variety of issues. Dr. Radowitz tells us how he helps people with psychedelics, and how that work can benefit couples as well as individuals. You can find out more about Dr. Radowitz’s work at https://nushama.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chal…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/robert-j-hunt/. What is accountability, and why is it important both in work relationships and in couples? Our guest in this episode is Ro…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/robert-j-hunt/. What is accountability, and why is it important both in work relationships and in couples? Our guest in this episode is Robert J. Hunt, who has co-written a book about why accountability is important and how to embrace it. Robert’s website is https://nobodycaresbook.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by La…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/catherine-auman/. What is tantra? How can sex be a spiritual experience, more than simply a way to give and receive pleasure? What is tran…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/catherine-auman/. What is tantra? How can sex be a spiritual experience, more than simply a way to give and receive pleasure? What is transpersonal psychology, and how does it differ from traditional psychology? Our guest in this episode, Catherine Auman, is a psychotherapist with advanced training in both traditional and spiritual psychology, and we discuss those topics and more. Catherine’s website is https://catherineauman.com. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/anneke-elmhirst/. Interested in the possibilities of polyamory? What are those possibilities? What can go wrong? Our guest in this episode…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/anneke-elmhirst/. Interested in the possibilities of polyamory? What are those possibilities? What can go wrong? Our guest in this episode, Anneke Elmhirst, helps people explore those questions. Polyamorous herself, Anneke talks about how she works with people to help them discover their own path. We also talk with Anneke about her experiences as a behavioral analyst with neurodivergent kids, and why she ultimately decided to leave that field because she recognized her own moral and ethical standards weren’t consistent with that w…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/cant-be-intimate-and-freaked-out/. What single ability solves all relationship problems? What does that have to do with intimacy and coupl…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/cant-be-intimate-and-freaked-out/. What single ability solves all relationship problems? What does that have to do with intimacy and couple relationships? And how does that relate to politics? In this episode, we (Bruce and Judy) reveal it all—an ability that anyone who’s listening to a podcast—that’s you!—already has. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/joshua-coleman/. Are you estranged from a family member? About a quarter of Americans are. Maybe you’re cut off from a parent or adult c…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/joshua-coleman/. Are you estranged from a family member? About a quarter of Americans are. Maybe you’re cut off from a parent or adult child or sibling. The one universal about estrangement is that it’s painful. And it’s on the rise. Our guest for this episode is Dr. Joshua Coleman. He’s been through it himself, and has become a world-class expert on the phenomenon of estrangement. We talk with Dr. Coleman about how estrangement happens, why it’s happening more frequently these days, and what you can do about it. Dr. Colem…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/paula-cope/. How can a sixteen-year-old manage to survive, and even thrive, after her mother abandoned her leaving no other adults to care…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/paula-cope/. How can a sixteen-year-old manage to survive, and even thrive, after her mother abandoned her leaving no other adults to care for her? And can you forgive a mother who did that? Our guest in this episode, Paula Cope, shares her story with us. Warning—have tissues handy! Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Z…

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/my-sister-stole-my-boyfriend/. Betrayal, cutoff, and decades of family drama. How would you handle it if your sister stole your boyfriend …

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/my-sister-stole-my-boyfriend/. Betrayal, cutoff, and decades of family drama. How would you handle it if your sister stole your boyfriend and then went on to marry him? Now it’s 30 years later, and you’ve been in therapy, and you see things a lot differently. You want to reconcile with your sister, but she’s having none of it. What do you do? Judy and I (Bruce) have very different gut feelings about how to handle this. What do you think? Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send u…