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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7bf-FUL0Hw8. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck, uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her work with couples. She explains how EFT a…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7bf-FUL0Hw8. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck, uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her work with couples. She explains how EFT applies the insights of attachment theory to help couples find safe, deep reconnection. And, much to my (Bruce’s) delight, she points out that working on communication doesn’t solve the problem! (Recall that one my books is called It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.) Rachel’s website is https://drrachelorleck.com/. Do you have ideas for topi…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Lt1GOUpHFFo. Why does libido so often seem to fade in a long-term relationship, especially for women? Is it possible it’s not inevitable? Our gu…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Lt1GOUpHFFo. Why does libido so often seem to fade in a long-term relationship, especially for women? Is it possible it’s not inevitable? Our guest in this episode, Caroline Hood, says it’s not inevitable—and tells how couples can support a great sex life over the long haul. Her forthcoming book is Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment. Caroline’s website is https://www.desireinreallife.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. Bruce’s s…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/FDZUJQEnR28. How can a couple reinforce and deepen their emotional connection? Our guests in this episode, Dr. Penny Goldmuntz and Rabbi Michael T…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/FDZUJQEnR28. How can a couple reinforce and deepen their emotional connection? Our guests in this episode, Dr. Penny Goldmuntz and Rabbi Michael Trachter, are a married couple who help other couples do just that. They tell us about how they work with couples to help them create a “Story of Us,” so they approach both problems and joys with a sense of teamwork and intimacy. Michael and Penny’s websites are  https://michaelandpenny.com/ and https://pennyandmichael.com. The app Michael describes in the episode is available at https://10m…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Wacw1Cz7JfM. We had a blast having this conversation with Amanda Dames! Amanda is “The Kink Consultant,” on a mission to destigmatize kink, em…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Wacw1Cz7JfM. We had a blast having this conversation with Amanda Dames! Amanda is “The Kink Consultant,” on a mission to destigmatize kink, empower exploration, and help individuals and couples build bridges so they can own and express their fantasies safely. Amanda’s website is https://www.amandadames.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. Bruce’s self-paced video courses are now available! Information at https://brucechalmer.com/courses. Our sponsor is The Blue …

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/1b8w45QIbX8. If your spouse or partner has betrayed you, can you heal the Marriage? Dealing with betrayal Trauma is, obviously, painful and diffic…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/1b8w45QIbX8. If your spouse or partner has betrayed you, can you heal the marriage? Dealing with betrayal trauma is, obviously, painful and difficult—but can the marriage heal? In this episode Judy and I talk about the three options couples face when betrayal has happened, and how you might choose among them. And Bruce describes his video course that guides you to a decision. Our podcast website is at https://ctin7.com. Information about my video courses: Betrayal and Forgiveness: https://drbrucechalmer.thinkific.com/courses/betrayal-and-…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/E33G8rILKy4. If you’ve been betrayed—or if your partner has accused you of betrayal—what is it about what happened that makes it betrayal? I…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/E33G8rILKy4. If you’ve been betrayed—or if your partner has accused you of betrayal—what is it about what happened that makes it betrayal? It’s not just semantics. You can be hurt, but betrayal isn’t just hurt. Betrayal shakes your entire foundation—you not only have to doubt your trust, you have to doubt your own judgment. Betrayal trauma is its own category of pain. Judy and I talk about what makes something rise to the level of betrayal, and consider circumstances where maybe it’s possible to rethink it. Our newly redesigne…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/9OvsfA9HEOI. Forgiveness can mean different things—and those differences can have a significant impact on the process of healing when someone ha…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/9OvsfA9HEOI. Forgiveness can mean different things—and those differences can have a significant impact on the process of healing when someone has hurt or betrayed you. Judy and I talk about what forgiveness might mean, and how some ways of understanding it can be disempowering while other ways can be empowering. Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think! Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. Do you have ideas for top…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6_CuvZO8qbQ. What is betrayal trauma? What makes it particularly painful? Judy and I talk about betrayal, including some insights we’ve gained f…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6_CuvZO8qbQ. What is betrayal trauma? What makes it particularly painful? Judy and I talk about betrayal, including some insights we’ve gained from our own experience. Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think! Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. Judy’s book is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/y74GP_wzKGU. For many couples, talking about Money is the third rail—you just don’t go there, or if you do, you get shocked. Our guest in this…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/y74GP_wzKGU. For many couples, talking about money is the third rail—you just don’t go there, or if you do, you get shocked. Our guest in this episode, Carl Richards, talks about why it’s so hard for couples to talk about money, and why money isn’t just about money. Carl’s “Sketch Guy” column ran in the New York Times for a decade. Our conversation delved into our personal histories with money and relationships. We had a delightful time talking with Carl, and hope you’ll enjoy the conversation too! Carl’s website is https:…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/aRN7sDmcjfU. What is Discernment Counseling? And how might it help you? In this episode, Judy and I talk about situations in which Discernment Cou…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/aRN7sDmcjfU. What is Discernment Counseling? And how might it help you? In this episode, Judy and I talk about situations in which Discernment Counseling is appropriate, and ways that my approach is consistent with its goals. You can find more information about Discernment Counseling at https://brucechalmer.com/discernment-counseling-a-different-way-to-decide-what-to-do/. Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think! Information about the video course I mention in the episode is at https:// brucechalmer.c…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/h3McIE-iuIM. The term “narcissist” has become something of a slur these days, and our guest in today’s episode, couples therapist James Chri…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/h3McIE-iuIM. The term “narcissist” has become something of a slur these days, and our guest in today’s episode, couples therapist James Christensen, recognizes this phenomenon. He doesn’t use the term much in working with couples, but his own experience of recognizing those tendencies in himself has helped him in his work. We also discuss how the work of the late Dr. David Schnarch—who was also a big influence on my (Bruce’s) way of thinking about couples work—has guided James. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our po…

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/-nl4dO3qCpk. In an era of political polarization, how can couples survive when they belong to different political tribes? Is it even possible? Wel…

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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/-nl4dO3qCpk. In an era of political polarization, how can couples survive when they belong to different political tribes? Is it even possible? Well.. Judy and I talk about the possibilities and pitfalls. The GMA segment we refer to is at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwo8--6n0XY. Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think! Information about the video course I mention in the episode is at https:// brucechalmer.com/courses. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com …