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What Counts as Betrayal?

  1. What Counts as Betrayal? Dr. Bruce Chalmer 44:05

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/E33G8rILKy4.

If you’ve been betrayed—or if your partner has accused you of betrayal—what is it about what happened that makes it betrayal? It’s not just semantics. You can be hurt, but betrayal isn’t just hurt. Betrayal shakes your entire foundation—you not only have to doubt your trust, you have to doubt your own judgment. Betrayal Trauma is its own category of pain.

Judy and I talk about what makes something rise to the level of betrayal, and consider circumstances where maybe it’s possible to rethink it.

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Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

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Bruce Chalmer Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”

Dr. Chalmer's books include:
"Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again"
"It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong"
"Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back"