Forgiveness.  Ugh.  We are told we are to forgive.  We are told we aren’t being kind if we don’t forgive.  But you have been hurt.  And sometimes forgiveness doesn’t come.  Sometimes you just walk away with that hurt. What do you do when you’ve been dumped, broken up with, or left?  There’s a whole bunch […]

Sometimes You Just Need To Move.   I was deeply depressed freshman year of college.   My Mom had died, I’d been disowned, I was $10,000 in college loan debt,  and I had just found out that the dorms would be closed for Thanksgiving.     I had nowhere to go. I was living in NY, far, […]

A couple years back, I went to China with my daughter. It was a fascinating experience because we’d never been to Asia before. And when we were there, because Sienna and I are both six foot one, we stood out like we were celebrities, because we’re so tall, and very fair and blonde. We were […]

Hello!   “I said, Hello”. “What?” “I SAID hello. Why don’t you listen?   Does this sound familiar? Do you know that this is actually one of our biggest challenges in communication?   LISTENING   We’re not very good at it.    Why? Because we listen not only with our ears but with our brain. And our brain has […]

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts” – Marcus Aurelius   I love this quote.  And it is vitally true. Our feelings guide us to evaluate our thoughts. Thoughts come first, which then becomes a feeling. But here’s the sticky point.   Thoughts are just thoughts. They might or might […]

How do you Overcome objections?     Think about it?  How do you do this with  yourself  and with others?    Objections seem to be a big part of our culture.  “You can’t tell me what to do.”   A great friend and coach, Simon Parsons answered,      “Well, I don’t ‘overcome’ objections; I ALIGN […]

Last week I talked about being labeled “too small.” It makes me think of Goldilocks and the 3 bears. One chair was too big One chair was too small And one chair was just right And that is absolutely true.  Everything is wrong and right.  Why?  Because everything is based upon OUR  individual perception.     […]

Do you have a hard time with labels?  I have never liked labeling. It can seem confining, controlling, and limiting.  I know much of our world needs to label things, people, and characteristics to be able to categorize and delineate.  And it is necessary in the diagnostics of the psych world.  I’ve recently been labeled.  […]