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335 — "I Know Better — So Why Do I Keep Doing It?" Here's the Loop You're Actually Stuck In With Dr. Elisha Goldstein

  1. 335 — "I Know Better — So Why Do I Keep Doing It?" Here's the Loop You're Actually Stuck In With Dr. Elisha Goldstein Amy Morin 52:50

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I know better than this — so why do I keep doing it? Whether you stay up too late scrolling or you snap at people you leave, we all do things that don’t help sometimes.

Most of us assume we need to create a Lifestyle overhaul to fix the issue. But my guest today says that’s exactly why so many of us stay stuck. He says a series of tiny shifts is the key to breaking free from emotional loops.

My guest is Dr. Elisha Goldstein, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Emotional Longevity podcast. His new book is Tiny Shifts.

Some of the things we discuss are:

  • What an emotional loop is — and how the four parts of it (thoughts, Emotions, sensations, actions) trap you before you notice
  • Why your most convincing thoughts are often the least accurate — and how your brain evolved to make it that way
  • Why overhauling your life almost never works — and what “tiny shifts” do instead
  • The 4R method and how Dr. Goldstein used it in real time when he got scammed on Facebook
  • Why overthinking is a nervous system problem
  • Why shame is baked into our culture and how to work with it instead of getting trapped by it
  • The “slippery moment” when one loop turns into another and you assume nothing’s working
  • Why healing your childhood wounds doesn’t require years of Therapy
  • The Therapist’s Take: My top three strategies for making tiny shifts starting today

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Amy Morin Therapist, Bestselling Author, Host of the Mentally Stronger Podcast

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, international bestselling author and the host of the Mentally Stronger podcast. Her books on mental strength, including 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, have sold more than 1 million copies and been translated into more than 40 languages.

She’s practiced therapy for over 20 years and she’s a sought after speaker whose TEDx talk, The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong, has become one of the most popular talks of all time with more than 22 million views.

Amy lives on a sailboat in the Florida Keys.