In this episode of the EZ Conversations podcast, host Furkhan welcomes Tammy Cox, a trauma specialist who helps women heal from childhood wounds to find lasting love or improve their marriages. Tammy shares her journey of dealing with deep-seated trauma triggered by her experiences as a wife and mother. She explains how early childhood experiences shape our personalities and Relationships later in life. Throughout the episode, Tammy discusses the importance of understanding and healing from childhood trauma, the impact of parental relationships on emotional triggers, and the need for vulnerability and honest communication in romantic relationships. The conversation delves into the significance of addressing shame, self-awareness, and the role of emotions in men’s and women’s lives. Tammy also introduces her unique podcast, ‘Behind the Veil: Anonymous Transformations,’ where she guides individuals through deep, transformative healing sessions. This engaging and insightful episode offers valuable perspectives on personal Growth, healing, and the power of relationships.
Tammy Cox is a highly skilled Trauma Specialist who helps women rebuild their lives and relationships through profound emotional healing. With a core emphasis on inner child work, she guides her clients in identifying and healing the unresolved traumas at the heart of relationship challenges, enabling them to reconnect with their authentic selves and create deeper emotional intimacy with others.
Website: https://linktr.ee/tammycox
Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLd1S9p2ngX3GMrVlTfDOsSXnfYoV6TlXg
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:45 Tammy’s Background and Personal Journey
01:51 Understanding Childhood Trauma in Relationships
05:02 Healing and Managing Triggers
08:14 The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships
13:23 Navigating Emotional Cycles and Hormones
20:23 Identifying and Healing Relationship Patterns
27:25 Postpartum Depression and Healing
31:48 Forgiveness and Generational Healing
41:10 Tammy’s Podcast and How to Get Involved
44:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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I am a men's coach, therapist, group facilitator, podcaster and author. My journey began five years ago when I was going through a separation. I found myself alone and in a shame spiral that our culture and society covertly exert on people due to the perceived "failure" of a marriage. Unfortunately, I personalized that message which led me to fall deeper into a hole, causing me to surround myself with people that did not serve me and engage in substance abuse. While seeking therapy, I was not making the wholesale changes I needed.
As part of my experience with therapy, I realized that I am not alone in the challenges men my age experience (I separated at the age of 34/35). I realized I could be a voice for men like myself and offer support in this space. In the middle of the pandemic, I applied for a Master's degree in Psychology to become a therapist. This change was a significant shift for me as I worked in the corporate world as an engineer. Once I leaned into the space of supporting other men, I also started a podcast to normalize these difficult conversations and started a men's group a year later with the support of a friend.
I thought I was giving something back when I started the men's group. However, I quickly realized I was getting substantially more from the connections I built than I initially anticipated. It was also something I needed because I was going through another breakup.
At that point, I also realized that I had not taken the time to heal, and I was outsourcing my healing through romantic relationships, substances, material acquisitions and superficial relationships. I decided to step away from the outgoing lifestyle and started to focus on my healing which was another phase of evolution for me on my journey. Over the last year and a half, I have become mindful of the people I spend my time with. I have cleaned my lifestyle of substances, toxic environments and behaviours. I have focused on my sleep, my health and my knowledge. I have improved my spiritual relationship with myself, which was lacking the most over the past five years. This is the best I have felt.
As part of my solitude journey and to find myself again, I also released a book encapsulating my journey, which I hope to share with others. My book is titled: The Pursuit of Self-Love.
