Loss is a topic that often gets brushed aside or misunderstood, but its impact is profound and undeniable. If you’ve ever experienced the loss of a loved one, you know firsthand the weight of Grief. It’s not something that can be easily shaken off or forgotten. It lingers, sometimes quietly, sometimes overwhelmingly, but always present.

Grief isn’t just about moving on or forgetting those who have passed. It’s about carrying their memory with us, honouring their life, and navigating the complex emotions that come with loss. It’s about finding a way to live with the ache in your heart while still finding moments of joy and meaning in your life. It’s about understanding that healing doesn’t mean forgetting, but rather finding a new way to hold space for your loved ones in your heart.

For a long time, society has told us that grief should be something we get over quickly and that we should move on and return to our normal lives as soon as possible. But the truth is, grief doesn’t work like that. It’s not something that can be neatly packaged up and put away. It’s messy, it’s unpredictable, and it’s different for everyone.

One of the biggest misconceptions about grief is that it’s a linear process, that it follows a predictable path from pain to acceptance. But in reality, grief is more like a rollercoaster. Some days you might feel like you’re moving forward, only to be knocked back down again by a wave of sadness or longing. And that’s okay. It’s all part of the journey.

I want you to know that your grief is valid. Your pain is real, and it’s okay to feel it in all its intensity. You don’t have to pretend to be okay when you’re not. You don’t have to rush through the grieving journey just because others expect you to. Take your time. Be gentle with yourself. And know that it’s okay to ask for help if you need it.

One of the most powerful things about grief is its ability to connect us to others who have experienced loss. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone and that others know the pain you’re going through. So reach out.  And if you feel like you need professional help, don’t hesitate to seek it out. There’s no shame in asking for help when you need it.

In our grief, it’s easy to get lost in the pain and yearning.  Yes, it changes us. It leaves its mark on our hearts and our souls. But it also has the power to transform us in profound and unexpected ways. We learn to cherish moments with loved ones, appreciate life’s beauty and fragility, and find resilience in adversity. We learn to live with a heart that’s been broken open, knowing that even in our deepest pain, there is still hope, still love, and still moments of joy waiting to be discovered.

So if you’re struggling with the weight of grief, know that you’re not alone. Your pain is valid, your feelings are real, and there is healing to be found, even in your sorrow. Keep holding on to the memories of your loved ones. Keep honoring their Legacy. And know that they will always be with you.