For decades, the dominant view of Aging has been that our memory and thinking skills inevitably decline. But once again, research, this time from the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, has turned this assumption on its head. Over the past 25 years, scientists there have followed a remarkable group of people all over the age of 80 whose memories rival those of people 30 years younger.
Their findings are groundbreaking: some older adults appear to have younger brains, with thicker cortices, healthier neurons, and unique resilience against Alzheimer’s disease and dementia. But beyond biology, something else stood out for these SuperAgers: they reported having deep social connections and emotional engagement.
“One key trait of SuperAgers is that they seem to be highly social people. They value connection and are often active in their communities. This is interesting because we know isolation is a risk factor for developing dementia, and so staying socially active is a known protective feature,” Tamar Gefen, an associate professor at Northwestern, told CNN.
In our book, SuperAging: Getting Older Without Getting Old, Attachment—the maintaining of Family and social Relationships as we age—is one of the 7 A’s of SuperAging. The Northwestern study certainly backs this premise, suggesting that a strong sense of community boosts brain Health—and in turn, our ability to live longer and better. Let’s unpack the research findings here.
Neuroimaging and postmortem studies reveal striking differences in the brains of SuperAgers compared to their peers, including:
Incredibly, some SuperAger brains look younger than those of people in their 50s and 60s.
What unites these SuperAgers isn’t perfect health habits—some Exercise more than others, for example—but rather their ability to stay deeply connected to others.
While genetics can play a role in our brain health, the Northwestern findings highlight the importance of our relationships. Of course, the topic isn’t new here at SuperAging News. We reported here for instance, on the Longevity benefits of maintaining social connections, and making new ones, as we age – as well as expert tips for doing just that. We revisit them here:
1. Leverage hobbies and interests
One of the best ways to meet like-minded people is through shared interests. Whether you enjoy painting, gardening, or playing music, seek out groups or clubs that align with your hobbies. Community centers and local libraries often host activities and classes tailored to older adults, providing a relaxed environment to meet people with similar passions. Shared interests, of course, are great icebreakers. And if at first you don’t succeed at making a connection … keep trying. Like with anything else, persistence is key.
Tip: Websites like Meetup.com offer groups for a wide range of activities, allowing you to find in-person or virtual gatherings in your area.
2. Volunteer for a cause you care about
Volunteering is a fulfilling way to engage with your community while meeting people who share your values. Many SuperAgers find volunteering to be a source of purpose and belonging. As reported by Forbes, a BioLife poll reveals that “31% of people say they have made a close friend while volunteering and 22% of people choose to volunteer because of the social connections they expect to reinforce.” Whether you choose to support a local food bank, animal shelter, or hospital, working alongside others creates opportunities to forge deeper connections through shared experiences.
Bonus: Studies show that giving back through volunteering can improve Mental Health, reduce stress, and even increase longevity.
3. Join fitness or wellness groups
Exercise classes such as Yoga, tai chi, or walking clubs, offer more than just physical benefits—they’re also great social opportunities. Regularly attending group fitness classes provides consistency, allowing you to get to know people over time. Many wellness centers and gyms have programs designed to foster community and interaction beyond the workout. And if you’re feeling it, don’t shy away from suggesting a post-class coffee or smoothie.
Healthy perk: Regular physical activity is also linked to reduced feelings of Depression and Anxiety, helping you feel more connected and uplifted. [Read our story on The big benefits regular exercise brings to longevity.]
4. Explore educational opportunities
Learning doesn’t have to stop as we age. Many universities offer courses for older adults, either at discounted rates or through community outreach programs. Enrolling in a class not only stimulates the mind but also puts you in a social environment with others who are eager to learn and share their experiences. This setting naturally encourages discussion and relationship-building.
Resource: Consider joining an Online Learning platform, such as Coursera or edX, which offers courses and discussion forums where you can connect with people globally.
5. Attend social events or meetups
Sometimes, simply attending local social events can open the door to new friendships. Bookstores, community centers and places of worship often host activities such as literary events, game nights, potlucks or movie screenings. These events create a low-pressure environment for people to meet and mingle. Remember, while striking up a conversation with someone you don’t know can be awkward especially for the introverts among us, a friendly smile and introduction can go a long way.
6. Adopt Technology to stay connected
As we reported here, technology can be a useful tool for maintaining and building relationships. Video calls, social media, and even virtual game nights are all ways to stay connected with family, old friends, and new acquaintances. Using apps like Zoom or Skype allows you to interact face-to-face with people, even when they’re far away.
Try this: Join online communities, like our very own SuperAging Community on Facebook, or discussion forums tailored to your interests. You might be surprised by how easily you can form friendships online.
7. Rekindle old friendships
As we age, it’s natural for some friendships to fade, but that doesn’t mean they’re lost forever. Reaching out to old friends, former colleagues, or acquaintances can be an easy way to reestablish meaningful relationships. Social media platforms like Facebook and LinkedIn make reconnecting with past connections more accessible than ever. All it takes is sending a simple message or email to let them know you’re thinking of them and perhaps suggest meeting up or catching up over the phone.
8. Participate in religious or spiritual groups
Many of us find companionship and a sense of belonging in religious or spiritual groups. These communities often provide built-in support systems, offering opportunities for fellowship, social gatherings, and volunteering. If you’re religious or spiritual, joining a congregation or Meditation group may provide the connection you seek.
Bonus: Studies show that involvement in spiritual or religious practices is associated with improved mental and physical health, including increased longevity. [Read our story ‘Livin’ on a prayer’: The impact of spirituality and religion on longevity.]
9. Be open – and pack your patience
Whether it’s getting to know your neighbors better or turning professional relationships into more personal ones, building new relationships can take time, so try not to get discouraged if they don’t deepen immediately. Instead, allow relationships to develop naturally and focus on enjoying the process of meeting, and getting to know, new people.
10. Consider a furry friend
As animal lovers know, adopting a pet can go a long way in reducing feelings of loneliness and isolation. Pets, particularly dogs, can also serve as social catalysts by encouraging you to get out and interact with others while walking or visiting pet-friendly spaces. [Read Beyond companionship: How having a pet can help you live longer.]
Building meaningful relationships later in life may require a bit more effort, but the rewards—better physical and mental health, increased longevity, and a supportive squad—are well worth it.
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