1. Building Friendships And Alliances With Other Men - MTP358 Scot McKay 35:27

Co-Host Antonio Neves (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/antonio) After a long career in television media, my guest co-host Antonio Neves now runs groups for men. He is also the author of Stop Living On Autopilot. Tony had the ‘highlight reel’ lifestyle on social media, but in reality his life was a mess…and headed south. He may have continued on that trajectory, except he got a break…he found and joined a community of men. How is such a community of men life-changing? And why is it different than going out and getting a beer with a buddy? What does Tony mean when he says, ‘You need a man to call you up instead of calling you out’? Why is getting advice from an anonymous Internet group not nearly as valuable and effective as meeting with a much smaller group of guys in real life? What is the somewhat ‘hidden’ psychological barrier that tricks men out of building alliances and relationships with other dudes? Is there a specific reason why we can’t count on our wives and girlfriends to meet the same need in our life a group of men would? What does being ’emotionally constipated’ mean…and why is it not just unhealthy but potentially even dangerous to men? And what is it about the ‘Lone Ranger’ mentality that is especially damaging to men? One of Tony’s most profound observations in this show is how we as men don’t check in with other men we know and see how they’re really doing. We take ‘I’m fine’ as a stock answer and move on. That obviously sounds important on the surface, so why do so few of us as men actively do it? And finally, what does it mean to gain ‘allies of glory’ instead of ‘thieves of ambition’? Get in on the latest Masterclass For Men, subscribe to the free newsletter and much more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Scot McKay Dating Strategist

Scot McKay has shared bad jokes with North Korean military officers, sipped coffee at Pablo Escobar’s home (served by his maid), survived a shark attack while surfing, held his breath as the pride of lions walked by his tent, and blitzed through California canyons with his knee on the double-yellow line at 140 mph. Yet somehow, he has also been referred to as the “sane one” on Twitter by Scott Adams, of all people.

But despite once being mobbed by the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders, being able to back a 30′ travel trailer into its slot on the first try, and that time he beat the World Champion at his own sport (no details provided), he’s still the most objective and down-to-earth dating expert out there.

He’s also the most fluff-free fountainhead of original content in his field, if only because that’s what seventeen years of immersive geekery on the subject does for someone.

Scot’s wife Emily is his “proof of concept”, given that she’s just as sweet as she is smokin’ hot and still gets carded at her age. But you’ll never hear her brag about any of that, only Scot.

His show The Mountain Top has also been named a Top 10 Dating Podcast by DatingAdvice.com, and a long time ago Grader.com weirdly ranked Scot the #1 most influential Facebook user in the world.