Let me tell you—I just had one of the most eye-opening, liberating conversations with the incredible Mervyn Reid-Nelson, founder of You at Yours, Boudoir & BODY CONFIDENCE Photography studio in London. Our conversation was a wild ride through the world of photography, body image, and how stepping in front of the camera can be a powerful journey toward self-love and confidence.

Merv’s approach is unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. It’s not just about snapping pretty pictures; it’s about creating an experience that helps you tap into the most authentic version of yourself. We took a deep dive into the psychology behind why photos of ourselves can make us feel so vulnerable and how Merv’s unique method flips the script, turning a simple photo session into a life-changing rollercoaster of emotions.

Highlights from our chat include:

• Why the journey of being photographed can be more empowering than the final image itself.
• How Merv helps clients, particularly women, regain confidence in their bodies—sometimes by going completely nude! 
• The reasons your most authentic, unposed moments make the best photos (how to channel your true feelings to light up any image)
• Why seeing your photos for the first time can be nerve-wracking; and
• Merv’s expert tips on how to prepare for any photo op by tapping into real emotions—whether you’re in front of a professional lens or just snapping a selfie.

This episode left me buzzing with excitement—and maybe even a little nervous energy—because it reminded me that confidence isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing who we are in our most raw, real moments.

Trust me, after listening to this, you might just find yourself booking a flight to do a shoot with Merv—or at least looking at your next headshot session with a brand-new perspective.

Tune in now, and let’s get you feeling photo-fabulous!

Want to learn more about Merv’s work? Find him on Instagram at or visit his website youatyours.com.

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