Grief can be a profound and unexpected visitor in our lives, regardless of age. As seniors, we may find ourselves facing this experience more frequently, given the natural course of life. Nevertheless, when the loss hits close to our hearts, especially if it’s a cherished friend, a life partner, or someone we spent each day with, it can be an overwhelming emotional storm, leaving us uncertain about how to navigate this complex process of grieving.

It may seem unusual to talk about “correctly grieving,” but this notion emphasizes that grief, though often painful, is a normal and essential part of life. It serves as a healthy mechanism for our minds and emotions to process loss. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but there are ways to approach grief that can help us heal.

When you first experience loss, it can feel like a shockwave, leaving you disoriented and unable to think clearly. The transition from having a loved one to not having them in a matter of moments can be incredibly challenging, even if the passing was anticipated due to illness. The finality of the news can be jarring.

Grief is a complex emotional journey, and there are common reactions often referred to as “stages of grief,” including sadness, anger, denial, Depression, and acceptance. It’s important to note that not everyone experiences all these stages, and there is no set order. The unhealthy way to process grief is to become stuck in any one of these emotional conditions.

If you encounter someone who appears unusually upbeat and shows no signs of tears after losing a loved one, it may be a manifestation of the denial phase. While they may accept the facts of the loss, they are not fully addressing it emotionally. It is just as unhealthy to become trapped in anger, sadness, or depression. If you find yourself stuck in one of these phases, seeking help and support is essential. The only healthy stage of grief to remain in is acceptance.

Preparing for grief can be a valuable way to equip yourself for the journey of recovery. If you are reading this to prepare for the future, you are taking a significant step by arming yourself with knowledge to help navigate the inevitable grief. Here are some healthy ways to prepare yourself:

Pre-Grieve: If your loved one is seriously ill and approaching the end of their life, discussing their passing in advance can help both of you process some of the emotions and expectations ahead of time.

Give Yourself Permission: Allow yourself to grieve openly and authentically. Crying, feeling sadness, and experiencing loneliness are not signs of weakness or immaturity. Grant yourself the time and space to grieve naturally over weeks and months.

Recognize Stages and Reactions: Familiarize yourself with the stages and reactions of grief. When you recognize sadness, depression, anger, or denial, understand what they are and use this awareness to navigate your journey.

Grieving is a vital part of the healing process, and it’s crucial to give yourself the time and space to process it thoroughly. Ultimately, reaching a place of acceptance and peace is a successful outcome of your grieving journey, allowing you to embrace life’s transitions with resilience and hope.

Originally Published on https://boomersnotsenior.blogspot.com/

Royce Shook Blogger

I served as a teacher, a teacher on Call, a Department Head, a District Curriculum, Specialist, a Program Coordinator, and a Provincial Curriculum Coordinator over a forty year career. In addition, I was the Department Head for Curriculum and Instruction, as well as a professor both online and in person at the University of Phoenix (Canada) from 2000-2010.

I also worked with Special Needs students. I gave workshops on curriculum development and staff training before I fully retired