What is the result of over talking or talking exactly at the moment when it would be so much more beneficial to stay silent?
We recently released an episode of Narativ Inc‘s LEADERSHIP STORY TALKS podcast that was all about the power of keeping your mouth shut, with the author Dan Lyons and we got so many great insights from the conversation that we decided to write an article about these.
Dan’s book STFU: The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut in an Endlessly Noisy World is filled with strategies that are linked in research and in observations of today’s most effective leaders. , The article highlights:
Why we talk so much in the first place How to learn to STFU The practice of “forest bathing” whereby taking a slow deliberate walk in the woods can heal the mind from overtalking Leadership through listening: today’s most effective leaders are the ones who let others speak and who listen before they talk
If you want to learn how to be such a leader, I encourage you to read Dan’s book, linked in the article, AND to sign up for our 3-part workshop series beginning on April 27. You’ll learn how to a be a better listener, storyteller, and how this will pay dividends in your leadership of others.
Check out the article and the workshop links in the comments below
Julienne Ryan Humorist, Speaker, Trainer, Facilitator, Coach
Julienne B. Ryan began her professional career at age five when she did TV commercials and learned important things like “the teamsters always eat first,” her social security number and how to endorse checks for bank deposit.
Ryan studied psychology in college because she wanted to understand humans. She conducted her “field work” in a variety of roles, hearing the phrases “merger synergies, reorganizations, downsizing and rightsizing for change” more times than she cares to mention.
Later she enrolled in an Ivy League graduate school where she paid oodles of money to validate her prior on-the-job learning experiences. However, she did learn to name drop up-to-date theories and trendy psychologists with alarming ease.
Ryan evolved into working in “Talent Management,” a fancy way of saying “try to find people and keep them moderately happy.” With inadequate budgets and staff allocations, she had to find creative ways to encourage her staff to work effectively. These ranged from begging and borrowing resources, improvising childcare, telling stories and even giving snacks as rewards. She tried to convince herself that working a bazillion hours and “multi-tasking” equaled achievement.
Her work took place in cubicles, conference rooms or, with luck, in offices with a door. Occasionally she would make the time to emerge from her allotted real estate to really talk to people. Ryan learned something transformative in the process:
Yes, she was effective. But not because she used fancy theories – or gave great snacks. Ryan’s success, her staff believed, was a result of her uncanny knack for weaving storytelling with humor to motivate and encourage them. Crucially, they encouraged Ryan to de-emphasize “that normal HR stuff” and focus on bringing her unique storytelling skills to a broader stage.
Thanks to them, Ryan continues to collect, connect and tell stories in her work helping people find their “true selves in the world of work.
She is the author of the humorous, all true "The Learned It In Queens Communications Playbook - Winning Against Distraction!".that now includes a workbook and is available at booksellers across the globe..
She is a guest contributor to The Procurement Foundry, LifeBlood, and the global storytelling community.
Why we talk so much in the first place
