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Sex and the City In 1998, the world met four extraordinary women: Carrie Bra…

Sex and the City …

Sex and the City In 1998, the world met four extraordinary women: Carrie Bradshaw , Samantha Jones , Miranda Hobbes , and Charlotte York …

A Love Letter to Pablo Once upon a time, in the autumn of life, I found myself standing at the crossroads of love. Divorced twice, I carri…

A Love Letter to Pab…

A Love Letter to Pablo Once upon a time, in the autumn of life, I found myself standing at the crossroads of love. Divorced twice, I carried the weight of past heartaches and the Wisdom of years gone by. But at 50, something shifted within me. I was ready to embrace love once more, not as a desperate seeker, but as a hopeful wanderer. In the digital realm of match.com, I stumbled upon Pablo. His profile didn’t set my heart racing, but I decided to give it a chance. Af…

It was 1983 and I was smoking a cigarette and pounding beers with my friends while I perused the want ads looking for my future. At nineteen my life was a blank slate and anything was possible. My fut…

It was 1983 and I wa…

It was 1983 and I was smoking a cigarette and pounding beers with my friends while I perused the want ads looking for my future. At nineteen my life was a blank slate and anything was possible. My future was unclear but I knew I didn't want to be a career waitress like Donna, my Mother. There were several other jobs I knew I didn't want which included maid, custodian, factory worker, bank teller, and meter maid. John, my stepfather, suggested the meter maid option. He encouraged me to take a civil service test and apply for a solid and secure job. I didn't do well on the test and I was relieve…

My husband had been planning his Retirement for about a year. After thirty-three years of successfully climbing the corporate ladder he was carefully planning his exit. His last assignment moved us to…

My husband had been …

My husband had been planning his retirement for about a year. After thirty-three years of successfully climbing the corporate ladder he was carefully planning his exit. His last assignment moved us to Cape Girardeau, MO and it nearly killed both of us. Me from the sheer desperation of small time life and him because the work pressure and corporate dynamics wore him to the ground. We escaped back to Cincinnati last year and I was thrilled when he announced he would retire June 30, 2023. I planned to keep working with the end goal of joining him soon. I fantasized about freedom and the ability t…

Psycho pal for life! One of the greatest things about being a woman is friendships. Not just acquaintances but deep, intense and …

Psycho pal for life!…

Psycho pal for life! One of the greatest things about being a woman is friendships. Not just acquaintances but deep, intense and personal Relationships with women who often know you better than yourself. Those women who hold you up, put you in your place, and make you belly laugh so hard that your sides hurt and you pee yourself. Those are my people. Those are my pals.  I just finished watching Firefly …

I was never the type of woman who longed for children, and I never understood the incredible lengths some women go to just to have their own child. It’s admirable but it was never my path. To be hon…

I was never the type…

I was never the type of woman who longed for children, and I never understood the incredible lengths some women go to just to have their own child. It’s admirable but it was never my path. To be honest, I never really thought about children because I was way too busy surviving. Working, scraping, and trying to get ahead. I knew I wanted more in life than what my young realities offered, and I was willing to hustle to push forward. At seventeen I ended up pregnant and alone and that same month I found out my biological father wasn’t the man on my birth certificate. Instead, my real father h…

Not the gift I expected for my fifty-ninth Today I celebrate my life. Fifty nine years ago my mother Donna arrived at Mercy hospital in a …

Not the gift I expec…

Not the gift I expected for my fifty-ninth Today I celebrate my life. Fifty nine years ago my mother Donna arrived at Mercy hospital in a taxi. No husband or insurance. No prenatal care and apparently no plan. Maybe I started living in survival mode the day I was born. I had a mother with no plan and a father who was nowhere in the picture. Reflecting back it’s no surprise I became a fighter.  Each year on this date I take time to reflect on where I’ve been and pause to …

I’ve always been fiercely independent and I don’t intend to change. Not now and certainly not as I grow older. I like being in charge of my life, …

I’ve always been f…

I’ve always been fiercely independent and I don’t intend to change. Not now and certainly not as I grow older. I like being in charge of my life, don't you? When I was young my circumstances forced me to fend for myself and I am thankful for that. It made me strong and capable. These are two characteristics that I have found very useful in life. I have however learned to appreciate the kindnes…

I was way behind on the Yellowstone obsession but I made up for that over the holiday season. Th…

I was way behind on …

I was way behind on the Yellowstone obsession but I made up for that over the holiday season. Thank you everyone for insisting that I get on board and binge immediately. It took me a few episodes to get hooked, but I realized this is not a show you passively watch while scrolling online. You have to spend time with the characters in the beauty of Montana, a place I need to see before I die. Now I see what all the fuss is about. I was com…

A Boomer's Point of View Little Whiners I was listening to Meg…

A Boomer's Point of …

A Boomer's Point of View Little Whiners I was listening to Megyn Kelly today. She hosts a talk show and podcast, The Megyn Kelly Show , that airs live daily on SiriusXM. (She is one of my daily sources for what’s going on in the world.) She wasn’t shy about her irritation with a group of NYU students who apparently complained that their organic chemistry professo…

A guide for women of all ages I got divorced for the second time in 2000, and Sex and the City became my guide to navigate being…

A guide for women of…

A guide for women of all ages I got divorced for the second time in 2000, and Sex and the City became my guide to navigate being a single woman in her forties. I don’t remember dating much when I was younger (I was too busy trying to survive), but I made up for that in my forties. From an early age, I was boy crazy and I still am. I remember my first crush in the 4th grade. Ricky Cannon was sweet and funny. A combination I’m still a sucker for. I remember holding hands at the movie theater. I was smitten and that’s h…

Simple moments in a noisy world Magical Excursions I was on a flight to …

Simple moments in a …

Simple moments in a noisy world Magical Excursions I was on a flight to California when I discovered the film A Love Song . Four hours with no distractions or interruptions is a rare treat for me, and being stuck in the clouds always makes me reflective. I can be romantic that way. I am normally in constant motion so being forced to sit allows me to spend time in my head. A da…

How I met my father   I first heard about PK (Paul Kenneth) Hubbard when I was seventeen and pregna…

How I met my father …

How I met my father   I first heard about PK (Paul Kenneth) Hubbard when I was seventeen and pregnant. I was heading into my senior year of high school with a broken heart and a big girl problem. Finding myself pregnant was devastating, but the real kick in the head came when I learned that PK was my biological father and he had just died in a car accident. Growing up I was told that my father was William Carpenter, a soldier who died in the Vietnam war. Husband to Donna and father to Jeff and …

And Life Will Be Gravy I was a people pleaser for most of my life. As a young woman I thought it was an admirable trait but in my fourth d…

And Life Will Be Gra…

And Life Will Be Gravy I was a people pleaser for most of my life. As a young woman I thought it was an admirable trait but in my fourth decade of life I realized it was a disease that was slowly killing me. The disease to please. It was a learned behavior that was handy for growing up with an alcoholic mother who had a quick temper and short fuse. But, after marrying another alcoholic, I finally acknowledged my own illness. My choices had contributed to my disastrous state of mind and I had to rescue myself.  …

Enjoy Life While You Can Just Passing Through   …

Enjoy Life While You…

Enjoy Life While You Can Just Passing Through   If you are like the millions, including myself, you may have seen the last episode of This is Us . I was in the midst of moving, hopefully for the last time (ok maybe not the last time, but hopefully not for many, many years). I have moved seven times in the last ten years and I am r…

An ENTJ falls in love and moves to Missouri I had never heard of Cape Girardeau, Missouri until Pablo asked me to marry him. I …

An ENTJ falls in lov…

An ENTJ falls in love and moves to Missouri I had never heard of Cape Girardeau, Missouri until Pablo asked me to marry him. I was in love and even though it wasn’t the first time, I was certain he was the real deal, and the man for me. One month after we met, he asked me to take the Myers-Briggs assessment. I had done a million personality profiles during my sales career to assure I was the right candidate for the jo…