Have you heard of Ghostlighting? It’s like ghosting and gaslighting together. Dr. Bruce Y. Lee and I talk about ghostlighting and what it looks like in personal and work life. Get more from Deborah Heiser in the Substack appAvailable for iOS and AndroidGet the app Originally Published on https://deborahheiserphd.substack.com/

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This was my personal journey… I was in my early 30s, updating my CV. Another conference presentation. Another line added under “Publications and Presentations.” I should have felt proud, but instead I felt empty. I remember asking myself, “Did any of this actually matter?” I knew it mattered professionally. Publications and presentations were vitally important […]

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A first-person reckoning between optimism and honesty. The Right Side of 40 is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. He said it with authority. “Just you wait.” Michael Friedman is 82. I’m in my 50s. We’ve known each other roughly two decades. He […]

Key pointsEmpty nest is a real transition, bringing grief, relief, and identity loss for many parents. Empty-nest syndrome can involve depression, anxiety, and purposelessness. Identity often becomes fused with the parenting role. Reclaiming self starts with intentional curiosity about who you want to be now. Imagine that an alarm clock goes off. You pop out […]

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This is a wonderful article submitted by a student, Iqrah Malik, who saw more in vision than most of us ever will. I hope you enjoy this article and learn as much as I did from her work. Vision correction is not merely a medical intervention; it is a transformative tool that profoundly impacts a […]

Key pointsMidlife is a time of career strength—but also expanding expertise. People need mentors most just when they are expected to stand alone, dispensing expertise to others. No one outgrows the need for guidance, especially in a rapidly changing world. Peer mentoring is an opportunity for gaining skills and meaningful connections. If you were born […]

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