“I LOVE YOU!”

3 simple words

that hold immense power, yet often lose their weight in everyday exchanges. How often do you say it?

How often do you mean it?

How often does it deeply impact you?

Since we recently shared Valentine’s Day, I thought this would be a great exploration inspired by my dear friend Michael Mints

He asked….What happens when you peel back the layers of this phrase⁉️

When you say “I love you,” are you expressing genuine AFFECTION, or are you seeking VALIDATION?

Is it for you or the other?

Or are you haphazardly saying these three words?

Oooooooo! It can get kind of sloppy can’t it?

In a world where we might treat LOVE 💔 as being transactional, it’s important that we ask ourselves: Are we truly LOVING, or are we merely performing love? Are we seeing or doing? Better yet, can you offer both

Love can be a RADICAL ACT, a commitment to Growth, honesty, and vulnerability.

It’s about standing by someone in their darkest moments, not just CELEBRATING their SUCCESS. It’s about being with.

Love also calls us into being BRAVE enough to confront the uncomfortable truths that come with deep connections within ourselves and with others and to share in them together.

Who truly loves you?

Have you told them what they mean to you? Have you shared how deeply they impact you?

And who do you love? Do they know? Will you tell them?

A little while back I had the awareness that I could receive my daughter’s love deeper. I wasn’t letting it in as deeply as I could. By her loving me I was learning how to open deeper into love. Has this happened to you? Will you share this with the person who is blessing you?

The next time you utter these words, pause, reflect, and ask yourself:

What am I really saying?

Why am I saying it?

How deeply am I offering and stepping into loving you?

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 ​Speaking with the Heart ​ 

Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT

Dr. Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT helps people recognize the power of communication.  It is one of our most important skills that we have, and yet we don’t consider our understanding, approach, belief, and therefore, miss our possibilities.  Living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother gave Dr. Heather a unique and powerful awareness that no one has the same reality, though we believe we do.  Utilizing this revolutionary awareness has allowed her to transform communication within self and within all other types of relationship.  This is the hidden key to acceptance.  And this is her mission to share.

As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy.  She is a TedX Speaker and Keynote Speaker.  Her couple’s communication book, Speaking with the Heart: Transforming Your Relationship and Communication with Compassion and Connection, which offers readers a practical way to understand what it takes to truly communicate on a deeper level, not just with their partner, but within themselves, is now available in both paperback and Kindle.

. She is published in hundreds of journals, has an active YouTube channel, has been featured on ABC-7 news, was the relationship expert on KDOC Daybreak OC, and is published in Inc., Toronto Sun, Thriving Family Magazine,  Light + Life, BRAINZ, Scary Mommy, and Psychology Today.  She is a regular guest blogger for both Links for Shrinks and for Marriage Friendly Therapists. She offers a weekly newsletter packed with tips and techniques to improve relationships and has monthly workshops! Simply go to her website!
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