Asynchronicity and time alone is killing soft skills; synchronous communication is where real EQ kicks in It’s easy to talk to no-one “You’re a lot less fun in person than you came across in your messages”, said the lady sat opposite me. We were about an hour into a first date and I could feel it was going […]

Classic! Ever heard the old adage professed by wizened sales people: “As soon as you shake hands on a deal, you know you could have asked for more money” This always struck me as a bit of b*llocks because if that really was the case then you would never agree on any sale but certainly it holds […]

I must have been making a great point 😂 “Oh my god, I’m so jealous that you got to deliver a TEDx; that must be something big ticked off your bucket list” wrote one of my LinkedIn connections the day after my talk. I thought about it 🤔 and realised: “Nope, not in the slightest!” Of course, […]

You can shove your fate and serendipity, here’s to making your own sh1t happen and being vulnerable along the way Aim to fail and be vulnerable, its where the good stuff will come “Why do you keep writing about your failed love life and all those other bad things on social media 💔?” said my friend as […]

Mmmmm…oh hang on a minute… I didn’t think it’d be like this: 45, growing a successful business, fit enough to run as fast as I did 20 years ago, about to buy my dream central London flat but single and not going anywhere fast in the world of romantic relationships. It’s not for want of trying; […]

THE THOUSAND POST SPRINT — One person’s extreme challenge to test the power of connections on social media [Part 1 of 2] This looks scary Last December I undertook a gargantuan social media challenge partly to learn more about human behaviours and the algorithm that sits behind LinkedIn and partly because he was bored; in this first part of […]

Push vs Pull Influencing — from an EQ point of view there is only one long-term winner 🥇 Why anything sustainable can only really rely on Pull-style Influencing Clearly my new gym routine is working 😉 Going into 2025 I decided this was the year I would stop Pushing so much ❌ No, I’m not talking about opening doors […]

If you want to achieve anything in life: It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being consistent; here’s how you do it A bin for leaves and a toothbrush walk into a bar…. What the hell have dental hygiene and leaf collection got in common? 😀🍃 Both reminded me of the secret of success; something we all know […]

Why you should share your goals more widely — its good for IQ, EQ and FQ Someday I’ll learn how to order numbers 😂 As a strategist and emotional intelligence expert, I hate resolutions but I am a big fan of goals 🥅. In fact I regularly tell clients that we won’t start working with them until we have clarity […]

Damn you fruit, don’t fall out! Friendships are like this bowl of fruit 🍐🍊🍏; we all know that fruit are good for us but it’s easy to let things slip, or to get distracted by junk food 🍟, and the bowl becomes empty pretty quickly unless you refill it* Ok, so the analogy might need some work 🤔, but […]