And Life Will Be Gravy I was a people pleaser for most of my life. As a young woman I thought it was an admirable trait but in my fourth decade of life I realized it was a disease that was slowly killing me. The disease to please. It was a learned behavior that was […]

Enjoy Life While You Can Just Passing Through   If you are like the millions, including myself, you may have seen the last episode of This is Us . I was in the midst of moving, hopefully for the last time (ok maybe not the last time, but hopefully not for many, many years). I […]

An ENTJ falls in love and moves to Missouri I had never heard of Cape Girardeau, Missouri until Pablo asked me to marry him. I was in love and even though it wasn’t the first time, I was certain he was the real deal, and the man for me. One month after we met, he […]

Am I the only one struggling? Can I be honest?   I remember exactly where I was when Elvis died. I was thirteen years old, and I didn’t have a strong opinion on Elvis, but in 1977 his death was a huge deal. For a moment, the world stopped as people mourned and memorialized the […]

We all need a little hard truth in our life I’d never heard of Dr. Laura until the night she guided me from Missouri to Cincinnati. I had received an eerie and surprising call from my stepfather John. He was frantic, his voice was haunting, and he frightened me. I was planning a trip home […]

How will you celebrate your life this year? Fifty-eight years ago, my mother (Donna) took a cab to Mercy hospital because she was having a baby and walking wasn’t an option. No one in our family had a car which didn’t matter because she never learned to drive. Yellow cab to the rescue. When I […]

“Your learn a lot about someone when you share a meal together.” Anthony Bourdain  It was Friday night and I had an hour to transform myself from my day job to my next job. I fixed my makeup, sprayed up my hair and put on my uniform; black velvet shorts, suspenders, large silver hoops, boots […]

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E. Cummings The first time I knew I had become invisible was at a bar in Las Vegas. I was in town on business, wrapping up a convention and passing time before my red eye. Why I ever thought flying out at […]

At eighteen I had no plan and this totally shocks me. How in the hell did I get to my high school graduation, class of 1982 with no plan? That’s just not like me. I don’t even remember what I was thinking that last year of high school. I imagine I was on auto pilot, […]