In this episode of EZ Conversations, join Furkhan and guest Lindsey Carnick as they dive deep into therapeutic practices like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Lindsey shares her passion for understanding how we make meaning of our experiences and how internal narratives shape our lives. They discuss the importance of acceptance, self-empathy, and psychological flexibility in managing internal conflicts and personal Growth. Additionally, they explore the impact of external pressures, the role of storytelling, and the balance between seeking external solutions and internal self-awareness. This engaging conversation gives listeners insights into navigating challenges through self-reflection and intentional therapeutic practices.
Lindsey holds a Master of Arts degree from Purdue University and a Master of Social Work degree from Indiana University-Purdue University Indianapolis. She earned her LCSW designation in 2010 and is proud to have helped with a diverse range of clients including incarcerated juveniles, military officers, professional athletes, c-suite executives, physicians, techpreneurs, and working moms and dads.
Please find Lindsey online:
IG: onwardpsychservices
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsey-carnick-therapist/
00:00 Introduction and Initial Greetings
00:09 Connecting Over Therapeutic Practices
01:02 Exploring Meaning-Making in Human Experience
06:07 The Power of Storytelling
11:35 Empathy and Shadow Psychology
17:38 Navigating Internal and External Conflicts
24:43 The Influence of External Solutions
28:31 Navigating Imposter Syndrome and Self-Awareness
29:10 Balancing Mental Health and Commoditization
31:03 Realistic Expectations for Retreats and Therapy
35:52 The Banister Effect and Internal Barriers
41:54 Acceptance and Psychological Flexibility
50:57 Conclusion and Contact Information
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I am a men's coach, therapist, group facilitator, podcaster and author. My journey began five years ago when I was going through a separation. I found myself alone and in a shame spiral that our culture and society covertly exert on people due to the perceived "failure" of a marriage. Unfortunately, I personalized that message which led me to fall deeper into a hole, causing me to surround myself with people that did not serve me and engage in substance abuse. While seeking therapy, I was not making the wholesale changes I needed.
As part of my experience with therapy, I realized that I am not alone in the challenges men my age experience (I separated at the age of 34/35). I realized I could be a voice for men like myself and offer support in this space. In the middle of the pandemic, I applied for a Master's degree in Psychology to become a therapist. This change was a significant shift for me as I worked in the corporate world as an engineer. Once I leaned into the space of supporting other men, I also started a podcast to normalize these difficult conversations and started a men's group a year later with the support of a friend.
I thought I was giving something back when I started the men's group. However, I quickly realized I was getting substantially more from the connections I built than I initially anticipated. It was also something I needed because I was going through another breakup.
At that point, I also realized that I had not taken the time to heal, and I was outsourcing my healing through romantic relationships, substances, material acquisitions and superficial relationships. I decided to step away from the outgoing lifestyle and started to focus on my healing which was another phase of evolution for me on my journey. Over the last year and a half, I have become mindful of the people I spend my time with. I have cleaned my lifestyle of substances, toxic environments and behaviours. I have focused on my sleep, my health and my knowledge. I have improved my spiritual relationship with myself, which was lacking the most over the past five years. This is the best I have felt.
As part of my solitude journey and to find myself again, I also released a book encapsulating my journey, which I hope to share with others. My book is titled: The Pursuit of Self-Love.
