Crystal Lane’s story is one of faith, determination, and an unwavering commitment to supporting her husband, JP, a retired Army Specialist who lost both his legs in an IED explosion in Afghanistan. Despite their challenges, Crystal and JP’s journey is a testament to the power of love and determination.
At just 22 years old, Crystal met JP at a gym in San Antonio, where he was recovering from his injuries. Drawn to his courage and faith, Crystal quickly realized JP was the one for her, and within six months, the couple had married. However, transitioning into the caregiver role was difficult, as Crystal had to learn to balance her identity as a wife and a caregiver. Through prayer and perseverance, she found her purpose in supporting JP and advocating for other military families facing similar challenges.
Today, Crystal and JP are co-founders of the JP Lane Foundation, which aims to provide marriage retreats and resources for veterans, first responders, and spouses. Their story is a powerful reminder that love and faith can conquer all, even in the face of adversity. Crystal’s dedication to serving her hero husband has inspired countless others, and her journey continues to be a testament to the transformative power of Caregiving.
About Crystal:
Crystal was born and raised in Brownsville, TX. She currently lives in San Antonio, TX, with her husband, JP Lane. She will receive her Bachelor’s in Psychology from Grace Christian University this October. Being a caregiver to her warrior is her top priority. Crystal is the Executive Director for JP’s Journey and Co-founder of the JP Lane
Foundation, which will launch soon. JP and Crystal are also National
Ambassadors for Helping a Hero, where we speak on building adaptive homes for combat-wounded veterans and their families. Crystal and JP, also known as Team Lane, promotes post-traumatic Growth to combat wounded veterans and others across the country, helping them build a mindset to ‘Never Give Up, Never Surrender.’ Their journey of faith, determination, and love of life is inspiring.
Known since childhood as “The Elliott Girls” or simply, “The Girls”, it makes sense that we work together to support our mother, and each other. Our trio begins with Jenefer Jane “JJ” who was and always will be “in charge”. She’s the peacekeeper. The responsible one, ensuring Natalie and Emilie remain alive. Next is Natalie, the middle child, who was and always will be Miss Congeniality. She’s the athlete. The rebel responsible for three babysitters exiting the summer of ’84. Then there is Emilie, the youngest, who was and always will be “the baby”. At 6’1”, she is the sensitive and quiet soul. The one responsible for the guinea pig that begged for lettuce and the stray dog we adopted from the bus stop.
After high school we went separate ways, from New Mexico to North Carolina. JJ would go on to get her Master’s in Business Administration and work in the finance world before partnering with her now husband, Dexter, to run a variety of businesses. Natalie would go on to get her Master’s in Social Work degree, and work in the mental health field, advocating for children and families to receive the most appropriate services. Natalie would marry and divorce early on but later marry Jason. Emilie would exit college early to marry and gift us with Owen and twins, Maxx and Natalie Jane aka “The Kids”. Emilie would later divorce and work with county government, focusing much time on caring for the kids.
The source of the sisterhood falls to Jim aka “Big Jim” and Connie, small town high school sweethearts married for almost 40 years.
In 2005, at the age of 52, mom would be diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. She hid the disease for years behind dad’s 6’2” frame. The tremors and sudden inability to move were both calmed and steadied by his arm and simple presence. He was her rock. Our rock. Close family and friends knew of her chronic illness, but to the rest of the world, everything was “fine”. Life would turn upside down when our dad unexpectedly passed in 2011 of a massive heart attack at the age of 58. The assumption was Dad would always be mom’s caregiver but that wasn’t God’s plan.
Mom would spend the years following our father’s death desperately seeking a cure for Parkinson’s while trying to manage her symptoms. As the years went by, the cruel symptoms associated with the disease increased, negatively impacting her body while her mind remained clear and in tune. We lived our lives checking in to make sure she was “okay” but knowing the day would come when we had to do more. And then it did. The summer of 2019 changed everything. That’s where the real caregiver story begins for us. Little did we know she would be only the beginning of our caregiving journey.
In March 2022, Natalie’s husband, Jason, was diagnosed with head and neck cancer. From the first time Jason detected something off about the swollen lymph nodes in his neck, to the formal diagnosis, and the decision to move to New York City to participate in a clinical trial at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, the journey would push them to their limits. The silver lining of his diagnosis was the cancer brought them closer to God, restoring their faith in Him while also experiencing a myriad of blessings through the kindness of family, friends, and strangers. Their story is a testimony that will inspire and offer hope.
