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Adult children can be estranged from a parent for many reasons. We see this as a recurring issue in consulting with adult children at AgingParents.com. Usually, we hear that the parent has been repeat…

Adult children can b…

Adult children can be estranged from a parent for many reasons. We see this as a recurring issue in consulting with adult children at AgingParents.com. Usually, we hear that the parent has been repeatedly abusive or neglectful, and communication has ceased altogether. The child wants nothing more to do with that parent. Then something happens. The adult child learns that the aging parent is in trouble, is impaired, has dementia, and is very vulnerable in some way. Soul searching happens. The elder has no one else. The adult child steps in and takes responsibility for the aging parent, often re…

In surveys of our aging people, there is more fear expressed about getting dementia than being diagnosed with Cancer. No wonder. We can treat cancer with chemotherapy, surgery, and sometimes radiation…

In surveys of our ag…

In surveys of our aging people, there is more fear expressed about getting dementia than being diagnosed with cancer. No wonder. We can treat cancer with chemotherapy, surgery, and sometimes radiation. It can be successful and eliminate some kinds of cancer or limit the progress of other kinds. There is remission, or being free of symptoms, with treatment. Not so with dementia. What Causes Dementia? Researchers all over the world are searching constantly for answers, in efforts to prevent or cure this brain destroying disease. The term “dementia” is sometimes used interchangeably with Alzh…

Millions of Americans are caring for an aging or disabled loved one at home. You do what you must to honor your loved one. But what about YOU? And all that empty advice about “take care of yourself�…

Millions of American…

Millions of Americans are caring for an aging or disabled loved one at home. You do what you must to honor your loved one. But what about YOU? And all that empty advice about “take care of yourself”? Who has time for that? And what does taking care of yourself really mean anyway? The Smallest Things Do Count In James Cleary’s book, Atomic Habits, he discusses making incremental changes, a little at a time. That can be connected to the otherwise somewhat useless advice people tell you about self-care for you, the caregiver. Are you too tired to even think about that? Let’s imagine you a…

The phone call came to Dad’s daughter (FD) at 6 AM. Again. This time, it was the night caregiver reporting that her father had fallen while trying to get out of bed. She had jumped up and tried to s…

The phone call came …

The phone call came to Dad’s daughter (FD) at 6 AM. Again. This time, it was the night caregiver reporting that her father had fallen while trying to get out of bed. She had jumped up and tried to stop him but she could only get to him in time to break his fall. Fortunately, he wasn’t hurt this time. She had a hard time getting him off the floor by herself and had called out to Dad’s wife in the next room to help get him back into bed. His wife, (SW) had slept through the entire thing. The caregiver was exasperated. She needed more help and SW did not provide it. It was the third inciden…