Most of my clients don’t come to me to explore their relationship with alcohol but almost all of them eventually bring it up. This makes sense. In every case, the issue that initiates our coaching arrangement is merely the doorway to something deeper. Getting to the topic of alcohol means they’re ready to unleash more […]

My former husband and I tried to save our marriage in our own way. When was the beginning of the end? After twenty years, the role of alcohol couldn’t be ignored anymore. He said he was “working on” his drinking, but that turned out to be a lie. He agreed that I could attend a […]

“Freaking Hermes!” This is how one of my clients started a recent session. I laughed and told him this was a very good thing. He didn’t like that answer, but by the end of the session he was ready to have a difficult and honest conversation with his wife.   There was more urgency about […]

I’m always excited to have a meaningful chat on Dose of Depth, but there’s extra excitement when our chat clashes with current events. A lot has happened in the last week, but the inspiration for this chat came from watching one of Dr. Craig Chalquist's TikTok videos that he put out after the Republican National […]

Over the past few years we have gotten a chance to learn about the psychological concept of projection. In fact, the term projection is no longer adequate to capture the climax of intolerance that has been unleashed from the collective shadow. We cannot get away from projection. We all do it. It's how we relate […]

Are You a Peace Builder? What does that even mean? There are those who label themselves as the peace maker of the family, for example, but what is their unconscious motivation for playing the role of peace maker? Are they really engaged in peace building or are their efforts to quell discontent motivated by discomfort […]

The overarching task right now is the reconciliation of the oldest wound of humanity, which is patriarchy. This wound manifests in very devious ways and once you get beyond the limiting notion that patriarchy is only about men and women, you’ll see that it underlies everywhere there's a power imbalance.   Patriarchy is not as […]

Free to Be You and Me How often do you feel free to be the real you? Do you even know what it looks and feels like to walk around being the real you? Are you so used to shape shifting from one persona to another to meet the expectations of all the different roles […]

Connecting More Deeply with What's Around You. Pick up an object in your house, something you can hold in your hands. What is the first thing you notice about the object? Maybe it's a beautiful color, an interesting texture, or maybe it has a meaningful engraving. Now, close your eyes and allow your other senses […]

Have you ever gone back to the theater to see the same movie multiple times? Is there a TV series that you’ve watched over and over? Your Soul speaks through your unconscious, grabbing onto images in movies, and TV shows to get your attention. Exploring those images is similar to that of exploring the meaning […]