June 21st, 2023 Barbara Karnes
My dementia knowledge revolves around the end of life process. I know it is a symptom of various diseases rather than a disease itself. I know that as we get old our mind naturally has bits of dementia— memory loss being a major “old age” symptom. I know that dementia doesn’t play by the rules […]
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June 19th, 2023 Barbara Karnes
Dear Barbara, I have two friends who recently died from strokes. They were both in their 90’s. They were heavily sedated and died within days. I know narcotics can slow breathing to the point where a person stops breathing and dies. Could hospices be using narcotics to euthanize their patients? I can’t respond directly to […]
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June 19th, 2023 Barbara Karnes
I’ve frequently said that “other people die, not me or anyone close to me.” It’s a statement that seems to fit most people’s attitude toward death. “I’m not going to talk about death. I’m not going to make any plans, like an Advanced Directive. I’ll address those issues later” is basically how we approach end […]
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June 17th, 2023 Barbara Karnes
First let’s clarify the word dying. Aside from the fact that we are all dying a bit with every breath we take, that life is a terminal illness, there comes a time when the body’s breathing, functioning ends. The above is the time I am referring to when I say dying is not a medical […]
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June 17th, 2023 Barbara Karnes
Terminal restlessness is a medical term for agitation as end of life approaches. It usually begins one to three weeks before death from disease or old age. The restlessness shows itself by random body movements, hands picking the air or clothing, mumbling, talking but not making sense, by just not being settled and quiet. The […]
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May 31st, 2023 Barbara Karnes
Dear Barbara, I work for a hospice. We have had a couple of patients die by suicide. Do you have any suggestions on care for our staff as they are having difficulty processing these deaths? Most people who can’t be fixed think about suicide in the months before death. Interestingly, very few actually do it. […]
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May 31st, 2023 Barbara Karnes
First I’m going to switch from the word Alzheimer’s to the word dementia. Alzheimer’s is a specific disease associated with dementia. Dementia as defined by the Oxford Language Dictionary is a “condition characterized by progressive or persistent loss of intellectual functioning, especially with impairment of memory and abstract thinking and often with personality change, resulting […]
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May 31st, 2023 Barbara Karnes
I just finished answering five comments from my YouTube video on Morphine. There is so much misunderstanding, anger, and outright hate surrounding hospice and narcotic use. Why? What has happened to cause such vitriol? My first response is lack of education. Lack of time spent with primary caregivers and families teaching them about pain management […]
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May 22nd, 2023 Barbara Karnes
Dear Barbara, what can you tell me about any differences in believers and non-believers as they approach death? It’s interesting, it seems that lately I have gotten several questions dealing with “believers” going to heaven and “non-believers” being more frightened than believers. So here are my thoughts. I realize I will not please everyone with […]
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May 17th, 2023 Barbara Karnes
We, who work in end of life care, offer guidance, directions, information, how-to’s and what-to-do’s but after the words are given and repeated over and over what do we do? What do we do when there is nothing more to say? What do we do when we have no answers to give? When no amount […]
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