Many years ago, someone came up with the idea that once a year Americans would reach out to those they care about and say, “I love you.” This is done with cards, flowers, and poems. February 14th is that day. Valentine’s Day. That is “I Love You” Day. Wouldn’t it be special if everyday was “I Love […]
One night many years ago when I was a hospice RN, when most people couldn’t pronounce the word “hospice,” or understand what the services were about, I was sitting with a family. Mom was in the bedroom, probably a week or so from death. The family and I were in the living room. I was […]
I so appreciate the many, many people that responded to last week’s I Am Now Reaching Out To You Fellow Grievers blog. I want to share with you some of the suggestions you have shared with me. Ideas for filling a huge space left empty by the death of someone who made us a “we.” […]
Widows and widowers who are living alone, I have a question to ask you. What do you do with your days? How do you fill your hours which turn into days now that you are a “me” instead of a “we?” I didn’t realize how much Jack filled my days and my routines until he […]
Dear Barbara, My mom is 83 and has moderate Alzheimer’s . Since May, I have noticed a big change in her behavior. She has really slowed down with everything. She sleeps a lot. I know she is depressed and she is on medications, but I hate to see her sleeping like this. She is still […]
Dear Barbara, My mother was transferred to an inpatient hospice. She was alert and talking to us when she arrived. Upon admission, the RN brought up the topic of medications to help her relax. I told her my mom had been relaxed without any problems. The RN insisted she seemed uncomfortable and pushed for morphine. […]
A life review helps us as our life is ending. It can put all the happenings of our life in perspective. How about an end of the year review? Let’s take some time to remember and think through our struggles, our misadventures, and assess our strengths. From the knowledge and perspective found in our review […]
For those of us who are grieving, the holidays can be challenging. Yearning memories, I-wish-I-had’s, and loneliness can all be more strongly felt. Other people seem cheerful, happily planning holiday delights, and we, the grievers or caregivers, are reminded of what we don’t have, of what we’ve lost or are losing. What to do? Write […]
Recently I have been hearing discussion of why families and significant others do not want hospice or EOL Doulas with them during the final moments of life. Families often do not want anyone with them as their special person is actively dying. That is alone, private time. Anyone else present is an intrusion, an invasion […]
Barbara, Can you write about “miracles” and how the hope/prayer for a miracle can make people miss what is in front of them? An internet search defines a miracle as: “a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency.” […]
