In this episode, executive coach and former Tesla leader Jay Abbasi challenges one of the most deeply held assumptions in high performance leadership, that stress is something to be eliminated. What he reveals instead is a more powerful and sustainable path: learning to move through stress with Clarity, choice, and purpose.

Who This Is For

This episode is for founders, CEOs, and senior executives leading Growth-stage companies who are winning on paper but feel the weight of it. If you’ve tried to “manage” stress and still find it running you this conversation reframes the entire equation.In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why stress is not the enemy, and what actually is
• The And Then What? (ATW) framework for neutralizing worst-case thinking in real time
• How to find “the space between stimulus and response” and lead from it
• Why adaptability is more powerful than control when pressure peaks
• The “Child Analogy” — a simple tool for processing distress without suppressing it
• How to “Zoom Out” when a high-stakes moment feels overwhelming
• The one question that reframes everything: “What’s the story I’m telling myself?”

About Jay Abbasi

Jay Abbasi is a global keynote speaker, executive coach, and host of the top-rated podcast Unstuck with Jay Abbasi. As a former Tesla leader who oversaw national training programs for 1,000+ employees, Jay now coaches executives at Google, Amazon, TikTok, and Wells Fargo — blending corporate experience with deep expertise in mindfulness, resilience, and well-being. His work has been featured in Forbes and Authority Magazine.

Connect with Jay Abbasi

Website & Podcast: https://jayabbasi.me  

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@jayabbasi_ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast

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