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January 18th, 2026

EP 124: Real Confidence- Living Confidently With Anxiety

  1. EP 124: Real Confidence- Living Confidently With Anxiety Alyssa Dver 24:00

You know that tightness in your chest, the racing thoughts, the moments where you freeze because something tiny feels huge? 

Hello, anxiety. 

We all experience it one form or at one time or another and some of us live with a constant low-grade hum of it in the background. 

So I wanted to find out how, exactly, we can be anxious AND still move through life confidently. Still make decisions, show up with presence, speak our truth and hold ground when our brains are freaking out. 

To help me on that quest, I invited Danita Young, a transformational coach who’s spent years helping people untangle the knots anxiety ties around their lives, to join me on the podcast. I wanted to go deeper than symptoms and triggers and she was more than happy to get into how to keep our heads and hearts in the game when anxiety is closing in.

Danita didn’t promise a life free from tension or racing thought but she explained how to show up anyway, fully and confidently, and that, my friends, is a game changer.

One of the most eye-opening things for me was how much our bodies register anxiety long before our minds recognize it. Anxiety impacts our physical posture, breathing and even how we listen or respond in conversations. And while it can feel like anxiety is the boss of us, there really are concrete ways to root into your confidence best without pushing anxiety aside or trying to crush it. 

By the end of our conversation, I had a toolkit, not an empty promise of magic pill we’re so often fed by the algorithms.

If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by anxiety or like it was shaping every move you made, make some time to tune in and really listen.

Takeaways from this episode include: 

  • Anxiety isn’t failure—it’s your survival brain running overtime.
  • Most of what keeps us stuck is learned, not innate.
  • Confidence doesn’t require erasing anxiety; it’s learning to move with it.
  • Being aware of your emotional baseline (“your frequency”) helps you make conscious choices which are key to confidence.
  • Surface fixes like distraction or medication can help, but they won’t free you from the root cause

Danita Young, Neuroscience Coach, CBT and NLP brings together neuroscience, nervous system regulation, physics and her own and Align™ tracking to help individuals overcome anxiety at the root. To learn more about Danita, connect with her on Instagram @danitayoung.

Alyssa Dver Confidence Crusader & Neuro Nerd

Confidence Crusader, Neuro Nerd and Success Equalizer, Alyssa Dver leads the American Confidence Institute and the global association ERG Leadership Alliance that directly helps all workplaces be more diverse, equitable and inclusive. She received a Stevie Award for Thought Leadership, has two TEDx talks, hosts the popular podcasts Real Confidence and Distilled Confidence, and authored 8 expert-endorsed books including “Confidence is a Choice: Real Science. Superhero Impact.” and “ERG Intelligence.” She can be seen delivering 150+ talks each year, coaching at MIT and Wharton innovation centers and as spokesperson for both L’Oreal’s IT Cosmetics brand and The American Distilling Institute.