When is the last time you were uncomfortable?
Like really, really uncontrollably uncomfortable—on purpose.
I’m not talking about that weird conversation with a stranger in the parking lot or the awkward run in with your neighbor while walking the dogs, I mean really stretching yourself into new patterns.
A few weeks ago, I was accidentally on purpose resetting my nervous system in a way I didn’t know was possible.
Is that adulthood or just my 40s? Does this strain start earlier, around middle school, when friendships wane and attitudes shift dramatically?
Everyday life can feel like micro-Anxiety pancakes: layered, sticky, sweet, salty. From strangers telling me to get to the back of the line at Costco (I was the back of the line, ma’am) to a brother-in-law casually , unwittingly insulting my former career.
I’m writing this from a plane with sweaty palms. Flying has become hard for me after one horrific flight when Nora was five months old and on my lap. My nervous system goes into overdrive. And….I fly. I go where the sunshine is.
After all of these micro and macro strains, every year for my birthday, I book an above and beyond fancy wellness session. Curious, I sample new methods or techniques, ushering in my next year with soft intentions and newness. I’ve had tarot readings or past life regression sessions with people I admire.
My 49th birthday session was fortuitously, yet thrillingly tense. Led by Ashley Neese, a multi-certified, energetically talented, intuitive, I signed up for what I thought was a few deep breaths to reset for the next year of life to one of the deepest sessions of my life. She is someone I’ve followed from her features In goop Health, mindbodygreen, WSJ, goop, Well+Good.
I went in with the expectation that I’d feel free from anxiety of the mess of my 48th year.
The energy emerging from Neese’s prompting, was sitting in my belly came through as hundreds of tiny red boxing gloves, tied tightly to empty arms, punching me in the intestines. This was the unwinding of a year of beating myself up—continually pleasing people, especially women who might actually hate me.
Sitting perfectly still, we dove into my nervous system. Through the screen, she noticed that every time I felt like crying, I swallowed. So Neese asked me to sit with the urge and not swallow my saliva.
Why did I pay for this special treatment having no idea what I was in for? Internally, healing is hard to tap into, even for me sometimes. And I Love Neese’s books, and I prayed she could unlock the latest fugly energy I’d unearthed at the end of 2025. Neese provides soft, simple, yet perfectly balanced ideas, methods and instructions for resetting your nervous system in How to Breathe & Permission to Rest.
I’ve been adjusting back to life ever since my special birthday session. My back, where my tailbone once was, is still “crunchy.” Long car rides. Airplanes. Waiting for volleyball practice to be done. Physically, I can sense the harshness of healing.
My dreams, however, are flooding with wounds clearing, my intuition off the charts. I can feel the liftoff.
Deeper still are moments when clients share traumatic events that have imprinted anxiety into their own nervous systems. I feel it. I hold it. I respect it.
I felt lighter, softer, stronger all at once. I release so much pressure of people pleasing and bullshit I’ve been carrying in 2025, I knew it was the deep work to help me enter 2026 with a clean slate.
And this is where January comes in.
January doesn’t rip things away. It peels. Slowly. One layer at a time. The moon this month doesn’t ask for grand declarations or goals at the top of the month. It asks for honesty with your energy.
What’s tight up to 6 feet in all directions? What’s tired of holding on? What’s ready to soften but not disappear yet?
As an intuitive psychic, I see this over and over: getting unstuck isn’t always dramatic like the 400 fireworks going off in the Miami skyline. It’s subtle. It’s sitting with the urge to swallow and choosing not to. It’s letting the body finish a sentence the mind interrupted years ago.
Nervous systems take time.
Energy takes time to trust that it’s safe to move again.
If you feel behind, you’re not. If you feel funky or sticky or sweaty about today or tomorrow, you’re listening. If nothing has “resolved” yet—good. You’re still in downshifting from the end of a year, the sweet and sour of the holidays and more importantly, you.
I do this work, so I can help you and your energy.
I’m here to help!
January feels slow, sticky, or oddly quiet—there’s nothing wrong with you. This is the work beneath the work.
If you’re ready to gently unwind what’s been sitting in your body, your nervous system, or your energy field longer than logic can explain, I’m opening space for 1:1 energy healing + intuitive sessions this month.
No fixing- Just intuitive psychic energy support to help you peel back what’s ready to shift, as defined by your aura.
You can book a session or hit reply here and we can chat.
