1. 318 Cultivation Of The Self Sarah Elkins 53:07

318 Cultivation Of The Self


Change and growth are seen everywhere in life, from caterpillars becoming butterflies, to saplings becoming towering trees, it is a normal and expected part of life that should be encouraged and embraced, especially when seen in ourselves. Change can be frightening but if you keep pressing on and contributing with the best of your ability, you will come to a better place. 

In this episode Sarah Elkins and Kristopher Lopez discuss the importance of appreciating the version of yourself from the past and cultivating the person you want to be now. Kristopher Lopez is an intelligent, respectful, and emotionally intelligent individual who brings a unique insight to the quandaries posed in today’s episode. 



  • The paths that lead us to wherever we are now sometimes seem contradictory.

  • Resilience is like a ball, persistence is bouncing that ball so that it goes higher and higher each time.

  • Mutual respect goes both ways and is invaluable to all relationships.

  • Your contribution is valuable, and being consistent in that contribution is irreplaceable.

  • Growth and change can be intimidating, and just because you do get intimidated by it doesn’t mean you’re failing.



“It’s a mutual respect, right? Like, I get to know things about so many people that are public people that I don’t have to get to share and I will not share, just so they can understand that even though we don’t meet an expectation, or we have a falling out sometimes, that you’re still safe to come back to us and we’re not going to put you on social media, we’re not going to react in a way that is  going to be detrimental to you or your career, and a lot of the mutual respect we have for each other circles back around.”

“The situations in my life I was able to overcome those things because those are struggles and things I was dealing with and able to navigate. I’ve done so many things that have never been the best, I’ve always been that 7 or 8 but I’ve done a lot of 7 or 8 things.”


Dear Listeners it is now your turn,

What are you thinking about when you think about difference in who you were ten years ago, twenty years ago, and who you are now? How would people say that they experienced you then and is it the same? I kinda doubt it. So the next question is are you holding on to somebody else’s older version of their authentic self or are you seeing their changes for what they are? Their attempts to be different, to be better, to surround themselves with people that bring them up so they can return the favor for the next generation? Where are those sticking points, what are the questions you need to ask, and what will you do next to change your story?

And, as always, thank you for listening. 


About Kristopher

Retired Chief Warrant Officer III


StayRoman (Inc 5000/Vet100 Awards)

StayRoman Realty

Curated by Roman

Be sure to check out Kristopher’s LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram! As well as his website StayRoman and StayRoman Realty!


About Sarah

“Uncovering the right stories for the right audiences so executives, leaders, public speakers, and job seekers can clearly and actively demonstrate their character, values, and vision.”

In my work with Coaching clients, I guide people to improve their communication using storytelling as the foundation of our work together. What I’ve realized over years of Coaching and podcasting is that the majority of people don’t realize the impact of the stories they share – on their internal messages, and on the people they’re sharing them with.

My work with leaders and people who aspire to be leaders follows a similar path to the interviews on my podcast, uncovering pivotal moments in their lives and learning how to share them to connect more authentically with others, to make their presentations and speaking more engaging, to reveal patterns that have kept them stuck or moved them forward, and to improve their relationships at work and at home.

The audiobook, Your Stories Don’t Define You, How You Tell Them Will is now available!

Included with your purchase are two bonus tracks, songs recorded by Sarah’s band, Spare Change, in her living room in Montana.

Be sure to check out the Storytelling For Professionals Course as well to make sure you nail that next interview!

Sarah Elkins Chief Storymaker

Sarah Elkins brings her music, storytelling and many years in public service to the stage to engage and inspire her audience to think about how the stories they tell influence their identities and the perceptions of the people around them, and to take a deeper look in the mirror to experience the leader they were born to become.

She's a storyteller, keynote speaker, professional musician, author, and Gallup certified StrengthsFinder workplace communication coach. Her highly engaging, experiential presentations, workshops, and coaching packages with in-person and remote teams and their leaders are known to address and reduce miscommunication – the most common cause of tension and stress in the workplace.