1. EP 71: Real Confidence- The Confidence to be Your Best Alyssa Dver 26:13

Any St. Jerome fans here? Saint who, you’re probably thinking but you may be familiar with some famous words of his: 

Good, better, best. Never let it rest. ‘Til your good is better and your better is best. 

But living inside a culture obsessed with overnight success and a social media landscape that lures us into the self-comparison trap, many of us stop before we even start, well, anything new or different. 

It’s like if we aren’t already The Best, why bother trying, right? And yet there are some people who seem to have cracked the code. By all appearances it looks like mastery – being the best – comes easy to them. 

Not exactly true.

My guest on this episode of Real Confidence has won awards, received accolades and set records that would cause anyone’s jaw to drop. And more interesting still, you wouldn’t think that filmmaking, scuba diving or racing in a Veladrome are connected in any way.

But they are. 

So, if you’ve been holding yourself back from pursuing your real passion, changing careers or exploring a different way of being in the world, you’re going to want to listen to the conversation Jeff Seckendorf and I had about what it takes to be your best. 

Highlights include:

  • Why settling for quick success is like eating empty calories
  • How your past informs not just your present, but your confidence to create your future
  • The incredible concept of overlap and how it allows failure to be okay; and
  • The magical paradox of being risky in a conservative way and what that has to do with success

Jeff Seckendorf is a life-long adventurer, filmmaker, and educator – flight instructor, scuba instructor trainer, mentor to scores of up and coming film directors, and instructor for hundreds of film workshops. Learn more about Jeff at jeffreyseckendorf.com.

Alyssa Dver Confidence Crusader & Neuro Nerd

Confidence Crusader, Neuro Nerd and Success Equalizer, Alyssa Dver leads the American Confidence Institute and the global association ERG Leadership Alliance that directly helps all workplaces be more diverse, equitable and inclusive. She received a Stevie Award for Thought Leadership, has two TEDx talks, hosts the popular podcasts Real Confidence and Distilled Confidence, and authored 8 expert-endorsed books including “Confidence is a Choice: Real Science. Superhero Impact.” and “ERG Intelligence.” She can be seen delivering 150+ talks each year, coaching at MIT and Wharton innovation centers and as spokesperson for both L’Oreal’s IT Cosmetics brand and The American Distilling Institute.