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EP 34 - To Venus and Back, Part 3 of 3 – Last Orbits Around Venus: Dakota, Christine, and Moving OnIn the final part of our series with Turner Grant, we jump into his “last orbits” around Venus:…

EP 34 - To Venus and…

EP 34 - To Venus and Back, Part 3 of 3 – Last Orbits Around Venus: Dakota, Christine, and Moving OnIn the final part of our series with Turner Grant, we jump into his “last orbits” around Venus: the intense long-distance Paris connection with Dakota, the secretive New York encounters with Christine, and the slow realization that online Dating had turned into a treadmill to nowhere.Turner shares how fantasy and reality collided, what it felt like to be someone’s “Finch” from Out of Africa, and why a simple airport sign cut deeper than any bad date. We also dig into the mystery, stat…

In Part 2, we leave the “organic” dates behind and dive into Turner’s first years of online dating. That means profiles, one-and-done coffee meetups, and learning about the stereotypical Three-D…

In Part 2, we leave …

In Part 2, we leave the “organic” dates behind and dive into Turner’s first years of online dating. That means profiles, one-and-done coffee meetups, and learning about the stereotypical Three-Date Rule.Turner and I talk through the patterns he began to see: the job-interview dates, the “Daddy interview,” the woman whose dogs were better than any man, and how all of that slowly pushed him to a clearer filter for who was really a fit.From there, we step into his first year-long relationship in midlife — what drew him in, why it felt promising, and how he realized he didn’t want to…

In the first of three conversations with Turner Grant, author of To Venus and Back: One Man’s Quest to Rediscover Love, we start where midlife dating really begins for so many people: after loss, re…

In the first of thre…

In the first of three conversations with Turner Grant, author of To Venus and Back: One Man’s Quest to Rediscover Love, we start where midlife dating really begins for so many people: after loss, reflection, healing, and a new start in the search for love.Turner shares the story of losing his wife suddenly at 53, raising twin sons (including one with disabilities), and being pushed back into life by a blunt but loving comment from his mother-in-law. From there, we walk into his “Rookie Year” of dating — starting organically the old-fashioned way at a gala invite, awkward first kisses, …

If Part 1 was the foundation, Part 2 is where Laurie Gerber and I roll up our sleeves and get practical about the real midlife dilemma:You want a real connection—and you don’t want dating to becom…

If Part 1 was the fo…

If Part 1 was the foundation, Part 2 is where Laurie Gerber and I roll up our sleeves and get practical about the real midlife dilemma:You want a real connection—and you don’t want dating to become a second full-time job.However, Paul’s experience is that dating apps reward momentum; however, real attraction often requires trust. Too fast can feel unsafe. Too slow can quickly get “out-paced” by new matches.In this episode, Laurie and I discuss the differences in our recommended approaches: how to keep things moving without coming on too strong, how to stand out without pressure, and …

In this episode, I’m joined again by dating coach Laurie Gerber (Love at Any Age) to unpack one of the biggest midlife dating challenges: how fast is too fast… and how slow is too slow? Midlife d…

In this episode, I�…

In this episode, I’m joined again by dating coach Laurie Gerber (Love at Any Age) to unpack one of the biggest midlife dating challenges: how fast is too fast… and how slow is too slow? Midlife dating mixed with dating apps can create a pacing problem: momentum matters, but trust matters too… and misreading either one can derail the whole thing.Laurie and I compare our two approaches—hers from a woman’s trust-and-safety lens, mine from a man’s momentum-and-street-reps lens—and we lay the groundwork for a practical, balanced way to date smarter.In this episode, you’ll learn:The…

Highlights for this episode:In this episode, I bring on dating coach Laurie Gerber to coach me in real time—so you can hear exactly how a pro would tune up your dating life, too. Laurie and I talk …

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Highlights for this episode:In this episode, I bring on dating coach Laurie Gerber to coach me in real time—so you can hear exactly how a pro would tune up your dating life, too. Laurie and I talk about my 104/100 score on her “Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?” quiz, my 7 deal-makers, and why I’ve been attracting the wrong attachment styles for years. We discuss approaches to vetting on dating apps—my faster-paced, phone-call filter versus her methodical, text-and-video-chat approach. In this episode, you’ll learn:Laurie’s 3 stages of dating over 50 and obstacles that of…

Highlights for this episode:Paul reviews the first five or over 30 Common Sense Dating Guidelines for the Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. The guidelines coalesce around the limited dating options t…

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Highlights for this episode:Paul reviews the first five or over 30 Common Sense Dating Guidelines for the Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. The guidelines coalesce around the limited dating options these generations had in their youth compared to what is available today. Combining our life experiences with new dating tools, such as online dating, allows us to avoid the same embarrassing slip-ups we made in our youth. Guidelines in this Episode:Thou Shalt Not Fish Off The Company PierThou Shalt Not Fish At Thy House of WorshipThou Shalt Not Flirt With A Friend’s PartnerThou Shalt Not Date A…

Highlights for this episode:Part 2 of Paul’s Holiday Dating-Themed Movie reviews for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season.Love at the Christmas TableA destined couple’s tr…

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Highlights for this episode:Part 2 of Paul’s Holiday Dating-Themed Movie reviews for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season.Love at the Christmas TableA destined couple’s trip through time starts at age 4 in the 80s, and at age 4, they meet each year at an annual Christmas gathering. https://youtu.be/4jkprYTRaRU?si=mHIfyHZTgZ5_F2wtLifetime Channel 2012Spirited Entertainment – Good Story, Musical, Quality Production Value, For fun to get your mind off how dating can be difficult during the holidaysSpirited — Official Trailer | Apple TV+https://youtu.be/tnAJntI3NNs…

Highlights for this episode:Paul reviews holiday dating-themed movies for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. There are a total of four picks. Two picks in this Part 1 Episo…

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Highlights for this episode:Paul reviews holiday dating-themed movies for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. There are a total of four picks. Two picks in this Part 1 Episode and two more in Part 2. Paul points out the common theme in these movies that is missing in online dating and why we should apply them all year.The Holidate – After Christmas, a pair of frustrated singles cross paths in the gift return line and agree to be each other’s platonic plus one on holidays throughout the year to relieve the pressure from being single from friends and Family.Netfli…

Quick Update:After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back.There will be new content starting late August of 2024.

Quick Update:After b…

Quick Update:After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back.There will be new content starting late August of 2024.

Highlights for this Episode:The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date.In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in…

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Highlights for this Episode:The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date.In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation. From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen. 1965 US Navy Instructional Film.Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Understanding the Relationship Pyramid, where you learn to identify the correct type of person to date. And …

Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term is: The Maybe DateIn the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and effi…

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Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term is: The Maybe DateIn the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you.Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired. With its poignant messages about the importance of cherishi…