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Paul Colaianni Behavior and Relationship Coach

've been a Behavior and Relationship Coach since 2009 and am the host of two podcasts.

Love and Abuse is all about how to navigate the difficult relationship, while The Overwhelmed Brain is a show about how to deal with the difficulties in life.

The shows can be found at theoverwhelmedbrain.com and loveandabuse.com, respectively.

I currently live in north Atlanta, Georgia, with my fiancée Asha.

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The Family Bonds That Require Boundaries &Raquo; 587 The Family Bonds That Require Boundaries Po
The family bonds that require boundaries

What happens if you marry into a family that doesn't really honor your presence or your boundaries? Sometimes their family doesn't feel like yours, especially when you feel like a total outsider becau…

What happens if you …

What happens if you marry into a family that doesn't really honor your presence or your boundaries? Sometimes their family doesn't feel like yours, especially when you feel like a total outsider because of how you are treated. 

Listen · 27:57
Arguing Your Way To Understanding &Raquo; 586 Arguing Your Way To Understanding Po
Arguing your way to understanding

If you find yourself caught in misunderstandings over seemingly simple matters like where you should store your house paint, you’re not alone. Can clear communication prevail during an argument? The…

If you find yourself…

If you find yourself caught in misunderstandings over seemingly simple matters like where you should store your house paint, you’re not alone. Can clear communication prevail during an argument? There's a challenge in expressing emotions and maintaining balanced Relationships. Hopefully I can help you guide through those challenges in this episode. 

Listen · 46:20
When Your Relationships Aren'T Exactly High Quality Or Authentic &Raquo; 584 When Your Relationships Arent Exactly High Quality Or Authentic Po
When your relationships aren't exactly high quality or authentic

Some relationships can be shallow and superficial. Some can be toxic and harmful. Then there are those that are quite meaningful. Why can't they all be meaningful? There might be a way to do that... b…

Some relationships c…

Some relationships can be shallow and superficial. Some can be toxic and harmful. Then there are those that are quite meaningful. Why can't they all be meaningful? There might be a way to do that... but it comes at a risk. 

Listen · 37:51
What To Do When Someone You Care About Shows More Excitement About Their Interests Than You &Raquo; 583 Tob Po
What to do when someone you care about shows more excitement about their interests than you

Some people like things we don't. Some get excited over the things we find uninteresting. What happens when their interests become more exciting to them than us? Do we accept our place in their line o…

Some people like thi…

Some people like things we don't. Some get excited over the things we find uninteresting. What happens when their interests become more exciting to them than us? Do we accept our place in their line of priorities? Or is there a win-win in here that we may not have considered? 

Listen · 35:11
When People Treat You As You Were, Not As You Are &Raquo; 582 When People Treat You As You Were Not As You Are Po
When people treat you as you were, not as you are

Learning and growing is a natural part of life. Some people embrace those changes in you, but what about those who don't? What if all they see is who you've always been and aren't willing to see the n…

Learning and growing…

Learning and growing is a natural part of life. Some people embrace those changes in you, but what about those who don't? What if all they see is who you've always been and aren't willing to see the new you? 

Listen · 36:28
When You Love Someone So Much It Doesn'T Matter How Much They Hurt You &Raquo; 581 When You Love Someone So Much It Doesnt Matter How Much They Hurt You Po
When you love someone so much it doesn't matter how much they hurt you

Can love keep the relationship together and override all? A loving person can also hurt you. But is love alone enough to resolve the deeper issues and provide long-term happiness? It's a very importan…

Can love keep the re…

Can love keep the relationship together and override all? A loving person can also hurt you. But is love alone enough to resolve the deeper issues and provide long-term happiness? It's a very important question worth addressing.

Listen · 34:54
Can We Get Past The Issues That Divide Us &Raquo; 580 Can We Get Past The Issues That Divide Us Po
Can we get past the issues that divide us

If you find yourself frustrated by divisive political or values conversations, this episode might be for you. Is there a way to maintain positive interactions despite opposing views? Hoping I can help…

If you find yourself…

If you find yourself frustrated by divisive political or values conversations, this episode might be for you. Is there a way to maintain positive interactions despite opposing views? Hoping I can help you get off the merry-go-round of frustration and find solid ground in your relationships and discussions.

Listen · 42:42
Dealing With Hurtful People Who Won'T Change &Raquo; 579 Dealing With Hurtful People Who Wont Change Po
Dealing with hurtful people who won't change

Have you ever wondered why some people just won’t change no matter how much you try? Don't they see that they are hurtful and toxic? Why can't they just be "normal"? I try to answer all of these que…

Have you ever wonder…

Have you ever wondered why some people just won’t change no matter how much you try? Don't they see that they are hurtful and toxic? Why can't they just be "normal"? I try to answer all of these questions and more in this episode. 

Listen · 47:39
I Didn'T Ask To Be Born And I Don'T Want To Be Here &Raquo; 578 I Didnt Ask To Be Born And I Dont Want To Be Here Po
I didn't ask to be born and I don't want to be here

If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. H…

If you find yourself…

If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. How do you cope when life feels overwhelmingly difficult, and is it possible to find peace amidst persistent inner turmoil? Today I address that and more.  

Listen · 48:23
The People Who Don'T Grow May Never Accept Your Growth &Raquo; 577 The People Who Dont Grow May Never Accept Your Growth Po
The people who don't grow may never accept your growth

When certain people in your life prefer the old you instead of the new one, you may face their resistance and maybe even their frustration. When you learn, heal and grow, you let go of old dysfunction…

When certain people …

When certain people in your life prefer the old you instead of the new one, you may face their resistance and maybe even their frustration. When you learn, heal and grow, you let go of old dysfunctions and sometimes even old relationships if they can't adjust to the new you. 

Listen · 42:59
Obsession And Regret - When You Just Can'T Stop Thinking About What Happened &Raquo; 575 Obsession And Regret When You Just Cant Stop Thinking About What Happened Po
Obsession and regret – when you just can't stop thinking about what happened

Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can't we stop them after they start? There are so many questions about something so pervasive and invasive that I try to a…

Why do obsessive tho…

Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can't we stop them after they start? There are so many questions about something so pervasive and invasive that I try to answer in this episode. If you’re struggling to let go of past events and find yourself caught in cycles of regret and anger, I will help you get off the hamster wheel and on to steady ground again. 

Listen · 49:19
The Part Of You That You Don'T Want Others To See &Raquo; 574 The Part Of You That You Dont Want Others To See Po
The part of you that you don't want others to see

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to show your true self to others? I explore how hiding parts of yourself can affect your relationships and what it takes to foster deeper emotional connections by…

Do you ever wonder w…

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to show your true self to others? I explore how hiding parts of yourself can affect your relationships and what it takes to foster deeper emotional connections by embracing authenticity.

Listen · 46:58
Moving Out Of A Full Life Of Toxic Family &Raquo; 573 Moving Out Of A Full Life Of Toxic Family Po
Moving out of a full life of toxic family

Leaving a toxic upbringing and the dysfunctional family home can bring about Anxiety, fear, and even loneliness. Trauma bonding is real. Childhood experiences deeply impact adult behaviors and coping …

Leaving a toxic upbr…

Leaving a toxic upbringing and the dysfunctional family home can bring about anxiety, fear, and even loneliness. Trauma bonding is real. Childhood experiences deeply impact adult behaviors and coping strategies, often unsuited for adult relationships. Stepping into a new life after you've known nothing but the old has its own set of challenges. 

Listen · 43:06
Relationship Challenges, Insecurities, And Questions &Raquo; 572 Relationship Challenges Insecurities And Questions Po
Relationship challenges, insecurities, and questions

Relationships shouldn't be hard, but we know they can be. When they are more challenging because of their issues, or ours, or both, it's helpful to find the glimmer of light to shine on a seemingly da…

Relationships should…

Relationships shouldn't be hard, but we know they can be. When they are more challenging because of their issues, or ours, or both, it's helpful to find the glimmer of light to shine on a seemingly dark situation. In this episode, I answer three different types of relationship questions. From pining over an ex to jealousy to compatibility and more. 

Listen · 51:07
What Will You Sacrifice To Be Happy? &Raquo; 571 What Will Sacrifice To Be Happy Po
What will you sacrifice to be happy?

Sometimes, happiness requires a loss. Many people aren't willing to take that loss, which might be the very reason they are unhappy. Getting to happiness isn't always just doing what makes you happy. …

Sometimes, happiness…

Sometimes, happiness requires a loss. Many people aren't willing to take that loss, which might be the very reason they are unhappy. Getting to happiness isn't always just doing what makes you happy. It can be deeper than that, and some people don't want to go there. 

Listen · 31:06
Know Your Worth &Raquo; 570 Know Your Worth Po 20240721 Ynhc8L7Zch
Know your worth

Sometimes we have to make a tough choice and give someone the bad news about our next step. That next step? Could be telling your boss you quit or a partner you're leaving. Some people can't handle ba…

Sometimes we have to…

Sometimes we have to make a tough choice and give someone the bad news about our next step. That next step? Could be telling your boss you quit or a partner you're leaving. Some people can't handle bad news so you may be hesitant to tell them. Or maybe you are afraid of their reaction so you procrastinate.  After you listen to this episode, you'll know what the most important thing to remember is while telling someone what you need to do for yourself. 

Listen · 42:09

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