How Long Do You Hug?
How Long Do You Hug?
I heard a beautiful fact. When you work at Disneyland, the characters are not allowed to end a hug. Period. When a child approaches them, they let the child let go first. The child chooses. Think about this. Think about the message in this. Think about the strength in this. Think about the grounding in this.
“I am here for as long as you need or want.”
“I have plenty of time for you.”
“Please take all the support and warmth that you want.”
“You are all that’s important right now.”
“I am here for you and here to be with you.”
This is part of what makes Disneyland magical.
What if we choose to do the same? What if you let yourself stay until you are ready to release? And what if you stay until the other is ready as well? Wouldn’t you feel safer, warmer, more grounded and cared for? Wouldn’t you feel held? How long would you hug? Sometimes it might be longer. What if you let yourself not let go until you feel full?
Wouldn’t that be an amazing hug?
Would you like one right now?
Dr. Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT helps people recognize the power of communication. It is one of our most important skills that we have, and yet we don’t consider our understanding, approach, belief, and therefore, miss our possibilities. Living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother gave Dr. Heather a unique and powerful awareness that no one has the same reality, though we believe we do. Utilizing this revolutionary awareness has allowed her to transform communication within self and within all other types of relationship. This is the hidden key to acceptance. And this is her mission to share.
As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy. She is a TedX Speaker and Keynote Speaker. Her couple’s communication book, Speaking with the Heart: Transforming Your Relationship and Communication with Compassion and Connection, which offers readers a practical way to understand what it takes to truly communicate on a deeper level, not just with their partner, but within themselves, is now available in both paperback and Kindle.
. She is published in hundreds of journals, has an active YouTube channel, has been featured on ABC-7 news, was the relationship expert on KDOC Daybreak OC, and is published in Inc., Toronto Sun, Thriving Family Magazine, Light + Life, BRAINZ, Scary Mommy, and Psychology Today. She is a regular guest blogger for both Links for Shrinks and for Marriage Friendly Therapists. She offers a weekly newsletter packed with tips and techniques to improve relationships and has monthly workshops! Simply go to her website!
https://www.drheatherbrowne.com/
