Tired of Being the Bigger One
I Am Not Fighting But I Am Tired of Being The Bigger One!
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I hear this a lot…people saying they are tired of doing what’s right or they are tired of doing the big thing. And I am sure that I have said this myself too. But I just realized something, something big.
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Get ready, here comes some powerful truth from the Reframe Queen.
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Are you truly tired of being the bigger person?
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I don’t think so. I think you are tired of somebody screwing up your plans! I think you are tired of the mess that’s left for you to clean up! I don’t think you are tired of being honorable or honest. I think you are tired that the other person doesn’t care when you do.
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Let’s take this thought in a bit.
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What is being the bigger person showing about you?
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You’re wiser. You’re smarter. You’re kinder. You’re more loving. You’re more controlled and disciplined. You’re more thoughtful. You’re more reasonable. You’re more rational. You’re better at recognizing your Emotions. You’re better at taking care of other people. You’re better at not creating drama. You’re better at not creating hurt. You are better at loving yourself. You’re better at creating the possibility for a different reality. You’re better at creating the possibility of a different relationship. You’re better at loving. Whoa…you’re better at loving.
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So wait, what are you tired of? I would say that’s a whole bunch of stuff to be proud of. I would say that’s a whole bunch of wonderful attributes and characteristics.
Will you allow yourself to be grateful?
These honorable traits are all yours. You’re bigger in so many ways. You’re bigger in sooooo many ways. Don’t be tired of that. Be proud of that. That is your crown, wear it proudly, says the reframe Queen!
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So what can you do when you are feeling tired and trying to keep your spirits up?
- Give thanks and appreciation for all that you have. This is the quickest way to shift energy and restore.
- Get into nature and walk with bare feet on the earth, whether it’s grass, dirt, or sand. Let yourself feel the energy of the earth through your toes.
- Do something special for you…a treat of some sort to remind yourself to take extra good care of you. Maybe a pedicure, or a new CD, or go dancing.
- HUG! HUG! HUG! We can easily forget how good it feels when we are supported or cheered on. Let yourself receive.
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Celebrate the power and wonder of you!
Dr. Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT helps people recognize the power of communication. It is one of our most important skills that we have, and yet we don’t consider our understanding, approach, belief, and therefore, miss our possibilities. Living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother gave Dr. Heather a unique and powerful awareness that no one has the same reality, though we believe we do. Utilizing this revolutionary awareness has allowed her to transform communication within self and within all other types of relationship. This is the hidden key to acceptance. And this is her mission to share.
As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy. She is a TedX Speaker and Keynote Speaker. Her couple’s communication book, Speaking with the Heart: Transforming Your Relationship and Communication with Compassion and Connection, which offers readers a practical way to understand what it takes to truly communicate on a deeper level, not just with their partner, but within themselves, is now available in both paperback and Kindle.
. She is published in hundreds of journals, has an active YouTube channel, has been featured on ABC-7 news, was the relationship expert on KDOC Daybreak OC, and is published in Inc., Toronto Sun, Thriving Family Magazine, Light + Life, BRAINZ, Scary Mommy, and Psychology Today. She is a regular guest blogger for both Links for Shrinks and for Marriage Friendly Therapists. She offers a weekly newsletter packed with tips and techniques to improve relationships and has monthly workshops! Simply go to her website!
https://www.drheatherbrowne.com/
