Do you think that’s true?  That a 100% is easier than 99%?  I didn’t think so until I heard someone speaking about the challenges of 1%.

Let’s take sugar.  Is it easier to tell yourself you can NEVER have sugar this week or 99% of the time you can not have sugar?

I thought it would be easier to commit to 99%.  Then maybe I can have it once this week. I really enjoy sugar!   But what does that mean?  For me it means each meal I am asking myself:

Are you going to have it now?

Do you want that chocolate?

Or a cookie?

Or a slice of cake?

Should you go to the store and look at all your options so you pick the best?

My mouth is salivating.

If I go out to eat and I read the dessert menu do I question every single type of pie, French apple, lemon meringue, and with ice cream, whip cream or sorbet?

Isn’t it easier to tell yourself:

This week you will have none.  Yep, none.  No discussion, no question.

Each time I am offered, then I simply decline versus trying to convince myself that I don’t really want THAT cookie, but if it was peanut butter?  Or maybe I want rocky road ice cream?  Or a lollipop?

Or See’s or fudge?  Now I am trying to talk myself out of choosing that sugar  now so I can choose something else that’s even more yummy later.

Wouldn’t it be easier to leave no room, and I mean no room  to question, to tease or torment?

For me, I think this is true,

100% is easier than 99%?

What do you think?  Where do you struggle?  Are you wanting an M&M right now?

Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT

Dr. Heather Browne PsyD, LMFT helps people recognize the power of communication.  It is one of our most important skills that we have, and yet we don’t consider our understanding, approach, belief, and therefore, miss our possibilities.  Living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother gave Dr. Heather a unique and powerful awareness that no one has the same reality, though we believe we do.  Utilizing this revolutionary awareness has allowed her to transform communication within self and within all other types of relationship.  This is the hidden key to acceptance.  And this is her mission to share.

As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy.  She is a TedX Speaker and Keynote Speaker. Her couple’s communication book will be out 1/24. She is published in hundreds of journals, has an active YouTube channel, has been featured on ABC-7 news, was the relationship expert on KDOC Daybreak OC, and is published in Inc., Toronto Sun, Thriving Family Magazine,  Light + Life, BRAINZ, Scary Mommy, and Psychology Today.  She is a regular guest blogger for both Links for Shrinks and for Marriage Friendly Therapists. She offers a weekly newsletter packed with tips and techniques to improve relationships and has monthly workshops! Simply go to her website!
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