Grief can make us feel super insecure and unsure about ourselves. It’s like we’re surrounded by negative thoughts that make us doubt everything we do. “You’re not good enough,” it sneers. “You never should have….” Ouch. it’s all too easy to enter the rabbit hole of self-criticism. But here’s the thing: That voice? It’s not the voice of truth. It’s the voice of fear, Anxiety and self-doubt. But we don’t have to let those thoughts control us.

So, how do we silence this relentless critic? When we start doubting ourselves, when self-doubt creeps in, pause and ask yourself: Are these thoughts rooted in reality, or are they distorted by the lens of grief? Are these thoughts real, or is grief making them seem worse than they are?

Instead of berating yourself, try saying kind things to yourself. Remind yourself that you’re worthy. You have people who love and support you, even when things are at their darkest.

In the aftermath of loss, your inner critic may whisper cruel reminders of perceived failures and shortcomings. Even blaming yourself for not preventing the loss or for not handling your grief in a certain way. Yet, grief is not a reflection of inadequacy; it is a testament to the depth of your love and connection.

Even when everything feels like it’s falling apart, you can be kind to yourself. It’s like being a friend when you need it most.

By embracing self-compassion, you acknowledge your humanity, with all its imperfections and vulnerabilities.