Photo by Afif Ramdhasuma on Unsplash Are you using blamespeak in difficult conversations? I heard someone use the term “blamespeak” recently and thought it was a very evocative succinct way to express what happens in many conflicts. Something goes wrong in communication, people feel attacked or discounted, and instead of listening or assuming good intention […]
Photo by Varvara Grabova on Unsplash How did you learn to turn your mistakes into stories? This was the thoughtful question Alesia Grace Thompson asked me during my interview on the Mediate.com Great Reads Book Club. Alesia was referring to my memoir, Angels & Earthworms. This was a very rich question for me, with implications […]
Photo by Icons8 Team on Unsplash Toxic co-workers or bosses can create big problems at work. As a workplace conflict transformation consultant, coach, and trainer, I have assisted many of my individual and organizational conflict clients who have had issues with toxic people in their workplaces. What are signs that a coworker is toxic? There […]
Photo by Julien L on Unsplash added words by L.Segal Misunderstandings and assumptions about what another person means, or what the word they use means, can really fuel conflicts. I’ve written a lot about this in terms of intercultural miscommunications and bias, but it can happen when there are no obvious cultural differences as well. […]
<img loading="lazy" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5888" data-attachment-id="5888" data-permalink="https://conflictremedy.com/our-shame-stories-and-conflict/shame-001/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/shame.001.jpeg?fit=1920%2C1080&ssl=1" data-orig-size="1920,1080" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"0"}" data-image-title="shame+.001" data-image-description=" man covered with post-its of shame and feelings ” data-image-caption=” Photo by Yasin Yusuf on Unsplash Some post-its by L.SEgal ” data-medium-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/shame.001.jpeg?fit=300%2C169&ssl=1″ data-large-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/shame.001.jpeg?fit=1024%2C576&ssl=1″ class=”size-large wp-image-5888″ src=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/shame.001-1024×576.jpeg?resize=1024%2C576&ssl=1″ alt=”Shame stories and feelings beneath” width=”1024″ height=”576″ data-recalc-dims=”1″ /> Photo by Yasin Yusuf on Unsplash Some […]
<img loading="lazy" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5837" data-attachment-id="5837" data-permalink="https://conflictremedy.com/invisible-rules-and-conflict/invisibleerules9-001/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/invisibleerules9.001.jpeg?fit=1415%2C908&ssl=1" data-orig-size="1415,908" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{"aperture":"0","credit":"","camera":"","caption":"","created_timestamp":"0","copyright":"","focal_length":"0","iso":"0","shutter_speed":"0","title":"","orientation":"1"}" data-image-title="invisibleerules9.001" data-image-description=" Semi transparent woman with her invisible rules. ” data-image-caption=” Photo by Steinar Engeland on Unsplash ” data-medium-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/invisibleerules9.001.jpeg?fit=300%2C193&ssl=1″ data-large-file=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/invisibleerules9.001.jpeg?fit=1024%2C657&ssl=1″ class=”size-large wp-image-5837″ src=”https://i0.wp.com/conflictremedy.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/invisibleerules9.001-1024×657.jpeg?resize=1024%2C657&ssl=1″ alt=”invisible rules lead to conflict” width=”1024″ height=”657″ data-recalc-dims=”1″ /> Photo by Steinar Engeland on Unsplash Invisible rules can lead to conflict. Are you […]
