When your child hates to lose with Ruthie S

Ruthie’s 4 year old son is fiercely competitive. He wants to be first at everything. He races his mom and even if he loses he insists that he is the winner. She is not a fan of the “no, you’re not” “yes, I am” battle. While Ruthie wants to embrace her son’s competitive nature, acknowledging that it will serve him well, she needs some help  handling his need to always win. 

If you’re struggling with a child who can’t deal with losing at anything, listen along for strategies and perspective to help your child feel better about not always being the winner. 

This week on The Parenting Mentor:

• Tangible tips and games to teach your child about the concept of  winning and losing.  

• Alter the “winning” goal by adjusting racing against others to racing against yourself.

• Changing your perspective and giving your child  something fair to win at while  utilizing empowering language. 

• Helping your child  understand and develop empathy for those that don’t win. 

“It may not be that he necessarily needs to race and beat you. It may be just this act of seeing how fast he can run. And you can do it outside. You can set up a starting or finish and let him do these dashes. Time him, how long is it going to take him to run around the house. How many times can he do it, how fast can he do it today and in a week if he keeps practicing. Throwing in that concept how the practice is going to make him better and faster.” – Sue Groner

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Susan G. Groner Founder of The Parenting Mentor, Author, Podcaster

As an experienced mother of 2 young adults, Sue Groner knows how stressful and overwhelming parenting can be at times. She founded The Parenting Mentor to provide an ally for parents in their quest to raise confident and resilient children. Sue is the author of Parenting with Sanity and Joy. 101 Simple Strategies, is the host of The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast, and is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator.

Sue is also the creator of the CLEARR method of parenting, developed through years of trial (and her fair share of errors!) with her own family. CLEARR adheres to the belief that parenting strategies should be grounded in six important pillars: Communication, Love, Empathy, Awareness, Rules, and Respect. This has become the cornerstone of her practice as The Parenting Mentor.

A graduate of the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and a former advertising executive, Sue is a frequent guest expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox to name a few, and provides advice for many national publications and websites such as The Wall Street Journal, Parents, Real Simple, Today.com, HuffPost, and Katie Couric Media. Sue resides in New York City and Bedford, NY with her husband, and when she’s lucky, with her children. She is available for private and group mentorship sessions(in-person or virtual) nationwide for individuals and corporations.