What if the version of yourself you keep trying to get back to is the same version that no longer belongs in the life God is leading you into?
In this week’s solo episode of The Confident Woman Podcast, Rachel Brooks explores the identity crisis that can happen when you are no longer fully who you were, but you do not completely recognize who you are becoming yet.
This conversation invites you to look honestly at what you are trying to reclaim. Some parts of you may be rooted in faith, freedom, creativity, joy, and truth. Other parts may have been built through fear, pressure, control, survival, and the need to prove that you could handle everything.
Becoming does not require you to reject your entire past. It asks you to discern what God may be restoring and transforming within.
What You’ll Hear
- Why the familiar version of yourself can feel safer than the woman you are becoming
- How fear can disguise itself as responsibility, consistency, loyalty, or discipline
- Why becoming requires honesty before it gives you Clarity
- How external blueprints and quick fixes can pull you away from who God created you to be
- The difference between reclaiming a true part of yourself and resurrecting a pattern that already exhausted you
- Why an identity that helped you survive one season may not be able to lead you into the next
- How to stop asking what the old version of you would do and begin listening to what the woman you are becoming needs
- Why becoming can begin with one honest decision instead of a complete plan for your future
Scripture for the Soul
“Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal.” — Philippians 3:13–14
Paul’s words are permission to keep moving forward without continuing to obey identities, patterns, and expectations you have already outgrown.
Key Quotes
- “The past can begin to look like safety and Security, but it is not your present.”
- “You do not have to know exactly who you are becoming before releasing who you are no longer willing to be.”
- “Not every version of yourself is meant to come with you.”
- “What part of myself is God bringing back to life, and what part of me has already completed its purpose?”
Your Next Step
The Becoming… Identity Planner & Journal helps you name the season you are actually in, recognize what you are still carrying, and explore where God may be calling you across your identity, faith, calling, work, body, Relationships, joy, and Money.
Start with The Becoming… Identity Planner & Journal
Still unsure where you are in your becoming journey? Start with the free Becoming Quiz
Connect with Rachel Brooks
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Rachel Brooks is an award-winning author, speaker, and the visionary founder of The Confident Woman brand. A former fitness competitor, Rachel's journey is marked by overcoming perfectionism and health challenges, all deeply rooted in her faith. She authored the best-selling book Chasing Perfection: A Journey to Healing, Fitness, and Self-Love, which has empowered thousands of women to reclaim their power and live authentically.
Passionate about holistic wellness, Rachel blends practical strategies with spiritual insights to guide women in integrating personal growth, spirituality, and professional success. Through The Confident Woman community, she offers coaching, resources, and support, inspiring women to redefine success by embracing authenticity, resilience, and well-being. Her initiatives, including The Confident Woman Podcast and the Fit From Within journal, focus on empowering women to become their best and most confident selves.
Rachel’s work extends to creating digital products and events that emphasize community, accountability, and empowerment, making her a guiding light for women worldwide.
For more about Rachel Brooks, visit iamrachelbrooks.com.
