In this episode I speak with Ulrika Torquato—who grew up in Brazil, studied medicine, became a doctor, switched careers to opera singing, and is now pursuing postgraduate studies in palliative care psychology—about “joyering,” the practice of noticing joy in everyday life. We explore presence, meaning, and why people postpone happiness by chasing external changes, comparing themselves to others, or believing they don’t deserve to feel good. Ulrika distinguishes joyering from forced gratitude lists, describing it as genuine, childlike deep appreciation of small moments (like tasting coffee, noticing nature, or connecting with others) while still allowing space for pain and negative Emotions. She shares three tips: stop comparing and scrolling, take time to let good moments “in,” and be kinder to yourself. Ulrika also mentions her Coaching, website, and a simple joyering app that “collects” and releases butterflies to reflect life’s fleeting good moments.
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—⏱️Timestamps⏱️—
00:00 What Is Joyering
01:41 Ulrika’s Unusual Journey
02:10 From Doctor to Opera
03:33 Berlin and Italy Years
05:25 Palliative Care Shift
06:28 Defining Joyering Practice
08:03 Present Moment Happiness
10:19 Why We Hide Feeling Good
14:08 Finding Joy in Hard Times
14:44 Meaning Making and Daily Tips
17:54 Miracle of Being Alive
18:19 Two Worlds of Mind
18:59 Noticing Everyday Beauty
19:17 Presence Over Autopilot
19:40 Joyering vs Gratitude
20:46 Feel It Not Think It
21:47 Allow Pain and Negativity
23:07 Joy Snowball Effect
24:52 Discover What Matters
26:02 Connection Fuels Joy
26:48 Three Practical Tips
28:44 Coaching and Joyering App
30:48 Final Takeaway and Goodbye
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