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April 17th, 2025

From Autopilot to Awake: Using the Enneagram for Real Connection with Todd Payne S3E114

  1. From Autopilot to Awake: Using the Enneagram for Real Connection with Todd Payne S3E114 Lisa Boate 49:40

In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa sits down with relationship coach and Enneagram expert Todd Payne for a deeply insightful conversation on midlife transformation, emotional intelligence, and the power of understanding ourselves and others through the Enneagram.

Todd shares his unconventional path from ministry to Coaching and how life’s disruptions can reveal unexpected gifts. Together, Lisa and Todd explore how receptivity, vulnerability, and self-awareness can transform not only our inner worlds but also our most important Relationships.

This episode dives into:

  • The nine Enneagram types, their core motivations, and emotional responses
  • Why emotional intelligence matters now more than ever
  • Practical tools for reconnecting with your partner in midlife
  • How understanding your Enneagram type can help you avoid autopilot living
  • The link between sensory experiences and embodiment
  • Why revisiting the reasons we fell in Love can rekindle connection



Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Midlife Transformation and the Enneagram

04:56 Todd’s Journey: From Ministry to Coaching

10:53 Navigating Life’s Upheavals and Embracing Change

15:15 Understanding the Enneagram: A Framework for Self-Discovery

20:11 Exploring the Nine Enneagram Types

26:07 Understanding the Enneagram Types: Sevens and Sixes

27:32 Exploring the Body Center: Eights, Nines, and Ones

29:29 Emotional Intelligence and the Enneagram

31:28 Personal Growth Through Self-Awareness

32:15 The Four Pillars of Emotional Intelligence

35:08 Navigating Relationships with the Enneagram

41:58 Reconnecting with Partners: Tools for Lasting Relationships

Whether you’re brand new to the Enneagram or knee-deep in self-discovery, this episode will inspire you to approach midlife with curiosity, compassion, and Clarity.

🎧 Tune in now and rediscover the power of being seen, heard, and understood—by yourself and the people you love.

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Got questions or feedback? Drop us a message at [email protected]

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Lisa Boate Menopause Consultant and Coach

Lisa Boate is a Certified Menopause Coach, Consultant, and Host of the "Transforming 45" podcast. With a background in education, she specializes in empowering women through the challenges of midlife, including perimenopause and menopause transitions. Lisa's mission is to transform workplaces into menopause-friendly environments, fostering understanding, support, and empowerment for women. Through her podcast and coaching, she provides guidance, resources, and inspiration for women navigating this transformative phase of life.